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| Tweet Topic Started: October 17 2008, 08:25 AM (148 Views) | |
| rach679 | October 17 2008, 08:25 AM Post #1 |
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My cousin that is. My cousin's baby will be 1 year old on the 22nd. She has used him as means of manipulation. She doesn't take care of him - her sisters or parents do. They also enable her. Basiclly, she's been saying she's going to school so parents will watch him or the kids dad, and she'll go party and come home at 1am or something. And sleep all day the next day. She does hold a full time job though. Anyways, she's going to move to AZ with her new boyfriend and is giving full custody and terminating all of her rights to the kid - to the father. Her parents will still have visitation every other weekend and on or around holidays. I just think it is really sad. When she was pregnant she was all set to be a good mother. And she's a lot like my mom so for him to go to the father sounds much better. Although he is not home a lot. But his parents are wealthy, and retired so they can babysit the kid. It'll be much more stable and her younger sisters can have lives. Both girls have spend every hour aside school, jobs, and sports parenting more or less this kid. They've neglected their own freedoms as teenagers while the mother/oldest sister just parties non-stop. It is really really sad. One time, the youngest sister told her she had to be at work at 4. The grandma[ my aunt, her mom] had to leave work early because she drank too much and couldn't drive and was about to pass out. Well good thing she didn't get behind the wheel but its 4 o'clock in the afternoon! I'm just in shock. I knew the situation wasn't good - but it has come down to this. And after all the heck she's put the father of the kid through about getting full custody of the kid. She tried to terminate HIS rights saying he's unfit. He does have anger management issues and can be controlling. But I think its also a personality if he is with a dominate person he wouldn't be an issue at all. If he's with somebody who wants to be controlled he will do it. Anyways - yeah. I'm just hearing about this so. Not sure what to think. I just feel for the child and makes me give Hailey some extra hugs and kisses and just be thankful for my own stable little family. |
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| Babylove33 | October 17 2008, 10:23 AM Post #2 |
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Thats sad that a mother can do that to her child! I could never use my kids, or do anything but be the best mom I can be to them. |
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| rach679 | October 17 2008, 11:08 AM Post #3 |
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It seems so natural to be a good mom [or heck at least try to be]. I kind of hope her parents fight a little bit more - for her to be a better mother and step up to the plate. I sent my cousin an email just saying I heard she was moving to AZ. Gonna see what she says. For some people becoming a mother helps you to grow up. Others I guess are just better off with adoption or not having sex! |
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| mamasnuszki | October 17 2008, 12:09 PM Post #4 |
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I think it is wonderful she is making the best decision for her child. With all the awful news stories of neglect, abuse, and death I think this situation is the happy ending. Not everyone is cut out to be parents. |
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| rach679 | October 17 2008, 02:02 PM Post #5 |
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Oh yeah, I agree. Not everyone is cut out to be parents. I would hate to see the baby being the next "where's Caylee" story. If she's having a difficult time taking care of him with the support of her family, I couldn't imagine in a new state across the country. I just wish that the father was nicer to her, because I always worry that his negative controlling behavior will rub off on the kid. Although he is a good person and comes from a stable well-off family. He did want her to have an abortion and degraded her a lot while pregnant. I'm not anti-abortion persay, but I certainly consider adoption first if you can't keep a baby. |
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| mamasnuszki | October 17 2008, 03:59 PM Post #6 |
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I totally agree! If the father is going to talk negatively about mom she hasn't got a real chance to ever be in the baby's life. I watch Nanny 911 all the time (just to feel better about myself LOL) and a few episodes really showed how if one parent degraded the other how it affected the children. I hope the best for all!!! |
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| MissAngi | October 17 2008, 04:20 PM Post #7 |
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Is this the cousin you took up to NY with you that one time? Its sad, but its the best thing for the child! So you have to at least give her credit that she's willing to let go of the child instead of him having a horrible childhood! |
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| rach679 | October 17 2008, 04:52 PM Post #8 |
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yeah its that cousin ;) Oh yea i'd rather him have a good childhood then a screewed up one! |
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