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Sometimes I don't know how to talk to my son about his father
Topic Started: January 12 2010, 02:33 PM (175 Views)
Mommy2Brendan

Especially since my son is half of his dad and I don't want him to make him think bad of himself if he realizes his 'dad is not a good person.

Even when I think of his dad as big ole bastard but that's a gentler way to put what I actually think of him if you know what I mean .

I hear why doesn't daddy come see me ? Why doesn't daddy call me ? All I can say I don't know even though I do know the reason sadly so I'm like Sigh because it wouldn't be right to say your daddy doesn't want to see you or call you .

That would hurt my boy to much because he has truly began to miss his daddy . He asks me when we are going to go to california to see his daddy again ?

In most cases his dad will not even be there to meet up how can I be able to explain that even when we go on the vacation down there that your dad may not see you at all even though we are in the same spot as he is .

Now to top it off his dad stopped sending money he usually sends it on the 31rst or the day after 1rst if it's a holiday .

So Brendan and I always counted on Daddy's Money . He liked to hang on the envelope because it reminds him of his daddy .

So now I have no explanation to explain that there is no daddy's money and no envelope for Brendan to hold.

Sometimes I just wonder what I saw in my son's father to be able to risk to put my son through a bastard of a father who I would just love to kick his a&& and give him a big fat yelling at too because I have tried to get along but now if or when I do see him .

I'm going to Yell at him big time!!!!!!!!!!!
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You can't make him love you guys - and you can't make him send money. Just keep raising Brendan the best way you know how and give him everything he needs. Its going to be hard - but sometimes things happen in life for a reason! Not every relationship has a fairy tale ending - sometimes we just have people in our lives for a season or a purpose. For you - that purpose was Brendan!

Always be kind when you talk about his dad to him. Brendan is too little to understand that daddy ran out on you guys. Just tell him Daddy is busy and maybe one day he'll come visit. Remind Brendan of all the wonderful people who ARE in his life - you, grandma, etc. Don't let him dwell on who's missing.
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Mommy2Brendan

Yeah totally ! Plus, if brendan ever saw his father and asked why we are not together he would proably get a different answer because mark still thinks I left him for a 2 bdrm apartment but in reality I left him because he hurt me so much by not being there for me when I was pg with Brendan even alone as a beginning parent . Totally yelling at me 2 wks before I had Brendan and the day I had Brendan.

Also, I won't be getting anymore money from him because he lost hs job and is about to be homeless.

He says he has been very depressed since we left and still couldn't understand why i left . Accussing me of lying to him of all promises that I made.

A person whose suppose to be in love doesn't leave the person who they made pregnant sleep in another room alone for up to 9 months then add 6 months 15 months . I shared the california bed with Brendan more than I did with his dad . Including all the guinea pigs.

Not only that not even in the same room even . After that all feelings end up changing because it wasn't the person who you loved to be around and wanted around .

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