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Topic Started: Nov 3 2014, 12:40 AM (1,272 Views)
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split decision
Nov 7 2014, 11:55 PM
Cbear
Nov 7 2014, 11:53 PM
spasgur
Nov 7 2014, 07:03 AM
Cbear
Nov 6 2014, 01:19 AM
ATroms
Nov 6 2014, 12:40 AM
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Nov 6 2014, 12:08 AM
spasgur
Nov 5 2014, 04:13 PM
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Nov 5 2014, 03:58 PM
spasgur
Nov 5 2014, 03:56 PM
ATroms
Nov 5 2014, 03:50 PM
spasgur
Nov 5 2014, 03:48 PM
How old are you Atroms? Not meant as a demeaning question or to set up a joke, just curious.
28
Alright, then it seems a bit soon to get kids.


You say that, yet most people under that age here (North America) have several kids!
Which seems so strange to me. No way I'd want the shackles of parenthood where I'm at in my life right now. Right now I can't imagine having kids before 35. There's just too much I wanna do and quite frankly I'm loving the freedom I have right now, I'm having a blast! Hell, even being in a serious relationship seems too hindering right now hehe.

I have a friend my age who became a father last winter and every time we meet he bitches about how he misses being able to go out when he wants to and how he kinda regrets having a baby this early in his life. I mean, I want to do what I want when I'm still young and in my twenties. I remember talking to him about all this stuff before his girlfriend got pregnant and he said he wouldn't mind being a parent already. His thoughts on that have definitely changed since then.

These are my thoughts as well. I can't imagine having a kid or being married right now.
I believe were the same age??

Its just so damn tough to obtain the 'American Dream' in this life nowadays. I want nothing more than a couple brats & a wife. Fuck, i was ready for that 5 years ago. But the world makes it next to impossible to ever be in the perfect position for that anymore..

Ya with me??
I was told a long time ago if you wait to have kids until you can afford it, you never will.
That quote might be true if you're an uneducated hick with a low paying job or if you're living in a country where you have to pay a fortune for healthcare and education ;) ;)
Someday when you get out a college a fresh faced 50 year old, it will be your turn to pay into the system so another can ride a free college term of 15-20 years.

:D

The old man still has a sharp wit about him at times.

:)
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Cbear
Nov 7 2014, 11:53 PM
spasgur
Nov 7 2014, 07:03 AM
Cbear
Nov 6 2014, 01:19 AM
ATroms
Nov 6 2014, 12:40 AM
Wahoo08
Nov 6 2014, 12:08 AM
spasgur
Nov 5 2014, 04:13 PM
Ash
Nov 5 2014, 03:58 PM
spasgur
Nov 5 2014, 03:56 PM
ATroms
Nov 5 2014, 03:50 PM
spasgur
Nov 5 2014, 03:48 PM
How old are you Atroms? Not meant as a demeaning question or to set up a joke, just curious.
28
Alright, then it seems a bit soon to get kids.


You say that, yet most people under that age here (North America) have several kids!
Which seems so strange to me. No way I'd want the shackles of parenthood where I'm at in my life right now. Right now I can't imagine having kids before 35. There's just too much I wanna do and quite frankly I'm loving the freedom I have right now, I'm having a blast! Hell, even being in a serious relationship seems too hindering right now hehe.

I have a friend my age who became a father last winter and every time we meet he bitches about how he misses being able to go out when he wants to and how he kinda regrets having a baby this early in his life. I mean, I want to do what I want when I'm still young and in my twenties. I remember talking to him about all this stuff before his girlfriend got pregnant and he said he wouldn't mind being a parent already. His thoughts on that have definitely changed since then.

These are my thoughts as well. I can't imagine having a kid or being married right now.
I believe were the same age??

Its just so damn tough to obtain the 'American Dream' in this life nowadays. I want nothing more than a couple brats & a wife. Fuck, i was ready for that 5 years ago. But the world makes it next to impossible to ever be in the perfect position for that anymore..

Ya with me??
I was told a long time ago if you wait to have kids until you can afford it, you never will.
That quote might be true if you're an uneducated hick with a low paying job or if you're living in a country where you have to pay a fortune for healthcare and education ;) ;)
Someday when you get out a college a fresh faced 50 year old, it will be your turn to pay into the system so another can ride a free college term of 15-20 years.

:D
Hahahaha :D
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Nov 7 2014, 12:40 AM
By the way, if you decide to have a kid then you also should be committed to staying married the rest of your life and not get divorced when Tristen is 2 years old and fucking them up with your failed marriage and warring with your ex the next 20 years.
I would say No to this, quite emphatically.

I would say that if you are at all responsible for the existence of a child, you have an obligation to make sure that the kid gets an adequate level of support, to the best of your ability. Ideally, that means staying in a happy marriage and being a father.

But if it turns out that you chose your fuck buddy badly and your day to day life is a mess of screaming arguments and lies, then for the love of christ get a goddamn divorce, and do what you can to support the kid without living in that kind of a mess.

No one is doing the kid any favors if your basically letting your kid grow up while watching you and your wife scream, fight, lie and cheat with one another. The kind of kid that thinks such a life is normal is pretty badly fucked.

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Nov 9 2014, 12:48 AM
Cbear
Nov 7 2014, 12:40 AM
By the way, if you decide to have a kid then you also should be committed to staying married the rest of your life and not get divorced when Tristen is 2 years old and fucking them up with your failed marriage and warring with your ex the next 20 years.
I would say No to this, quite emphatically.

I would say that if you are at all responsible for the existence of a child, you have an obligation to make sure that the kid gets an adequate level of support, to the best of your ability. Ideally, that means staying in a happy marriage and being a father.

But if it turns out that you chose your fuck buddy badly and your day to day life is a mess of screaming arguments and lies, then for the love of christ get a goddamn divorce, and do what you can to support the kid without living in that kind of a mess.

No one is doing the kid any favors if your basically letting your kid grow up while watching you and your wife scream, fight, lie and cheat with one another. The kind of kid that thinks such a life is normal is pretty badly fucked.

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We really aren't in disagreement, Im not saying to stay in the marriage for hell and ruin the kids life. My point is that before you make thoughtful and conscious decision to bring a child into this world, make sure you have a good marriage. This is why I disagree with Bulldog when his recommendation for a troubled relationship is to have a baby. No. If your marriage is shit, please don't bring a kid into this world thinking that will cure things because it would be a miracle if it did. But, it seems most people give little thought to bringing a child into this world; they just get lazy on birth control and oops...20 years of raising Jr.
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Nov 9 2014, 01:42 AM
LordZardoz
Nov 9 2014, 12:48 AM
Cbear
Nov 7 2014, 12:40 AM
By the way, if you decide to have a kid then you also should be committed to staying married the rest of your life and not get divorced when Tristen is 2 years old and fucking them up with your failed marriage and warring with your ex the next 20 years.
I would say No to this, quite emphatically.

I would say that if you are at all responsible for the existence of a child, you have an obligation to make sure that the kid gets an adequate level of support, to the best of your ability. Ideally, that means staying in a happy marriage and being a father.

But if it turns out that you chose your fuck buddy badly and your day to day life is a mess of screaming arguments and lies, then for the love of christ get a goddamn divorce, and do what you can to support the kid without living in that kind of a mess.

No one is doing the kid any favors if your basically letting your kid grow up while watching you and your wife scream, fight, lie and cheat with one another. The kind of kid that thinks such a life is normal is pretty badly fucked.

END COMMUNICATION
We really aren't in disagreement, Im not saying to stay in the marriage for hell and ruin the kids life. My point is that before you make thoughtful and conscious decision to bring a child into this world, make sure you have a good marriage. This is why I disagree with Bulldog when his recommendation for a troubled relationship is to have a baby. No. If your marriage is shit, please don't bring a kid into this world thinking that will cure things because it would be a miracle if it did. But, it seems most people give little thought to bringing a child into this world; they just get lazy on birth control and oops...20 years of raising Jr.
HugeMMAFan, is that you?

You realize Bulldog is just kidding when he suggests they have a baby, right?
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Jesus fucking chrost, some people are really dense.
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If someone repeatedly claims to be a pervert, who are we to disbelieve them?
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