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| My dirty little secret; Times 3 | |
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| Tweet Topic Started: Feb 24 2010, 05:48 PM (881 Views) | |
| Crazy Bird Lady | Mar 5 2010, 03:08 PM Post #21 |
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Well im off to see the amazon today. Get this. When I spoke with Nathan today after NOT calling him all week. He was SUPER nice, he said he loves the hen now, she is so friendly and that he will sell 2 males instead and keep her. He also said that if she doesnt breed or he gets rid of her for any reason that I can have her. So that made me happy. He has stopped all purchasing for now, he is moving shop and going to build actual habitats for the birds, he is talking 400 sq ft per pair, we will see if that really happens. He has the money thats for sure. Lets hope he has the vision.
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| VIOLET12 | Mar 5 2010, 06:04 PM Post #22 |
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Thank goodness some good news for a change. You made me a very happy girl with the news that he likes her. I'm so so glad....I know we all are. For some reason "she" stold ALL OF OUR HEARTS. Have a safe little trip...hope you have some interesting stories when u return. It would be wonderful if he could/would do all of that for the birds. |
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| Crazy Bird Lady | Mar 5 2010, 10:29 PM Post #23 |
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Ok, back from my little trip. The birds all looked in good order, when I got there she looked fine, but when I stayed for a bit and sprayed them, she immediately looked either scared or cold, hunched up, eyes partially closed and spotline out. I tried to pick her up a few times, but she reverted right back to being shy and non trusting, but when I turned my back, she immediately said, Hello!!! hhahah. I think she is fine and maybe a bit overwelmed as she has 6 males of various species all around her in their own cages. So I covered her cage top, sides and back to make her feel more secure and warm. She and a few of the others took chicken bones, crackers and carrots from my hand. The double yellowheads were yapping it up, but u could not understand them, the male blue front was very freindly and looked soooooooo handsome. He said hello and ate like a pig. When I got there, Nathan was just mixing the veggies with the beans and rice. We fed them all, and they all tucked right in. Now, the VERY odd thing. I took a girlfriend with me. She has come most every visit. She is the one I got the orange winged for, that was cheap. She has come every time but for some reason this time she SNAPPED, and I mean SNAPPED. I asked her nicely to take a few pics, I asked and tried to include her in the conversations. I asked her opinion on some things, and yet when I mentioned to Nathan that I was a bit concerned of the temp in the room as the hen was somewhat hunched and shaking, that she may be scared or cold. Jill, my friend said, she is cold because you sprayed her with bath water and now she needs a heat lamp. I said no, she is not even, and before I could say wet, she turned, waved her hand, and told me to F OFF!! right in front of Nathan, I was SHOCKED to say the least. I asked her, did u just tell me to f off, she didnt answer, once twice and then the third time, she finally admitted it. Long story short, she started screaming, swearing, yelling and CRYING, and threatened to leave and take the train home. Me and Nathan were beyond stunned. We thought she had lost her mind. Anyway when she went outside, Nathan asked if she ever spoke to me like that before and I said never! So, I have PROOF that the hen is and was completely DRY, and had ZERO reason to be cold or shaking other than fear or concern. So all I was trying to say was, the water was such a fine mist that her coat was not even wet, pics prove it. So she couldnt possibly be cold. So why the hell did she go off. Well after throwing a second hissy fit, Nathan finally went out and asked her what the hell was wrong. She said, and I quote, I am sick of this shit, you guys sluffing me off like what I have to say in not important. I told her my only concern was the birds at the time, and that I am concentrating on them, and not her and that after I leave I can hear what she has to say, but while I am inspecting and problem solving, I am focused and dont chit chat to anyone, including Nathan. I told her she should not take offense like that. I had also prewarned her in the car that I would not answer any questions from nathan or anyone until I finished my assessment and inspection of the birds and nestboxes. I know this has bothered her before that Nathan goes to me for all the medical, breeding, buying info, and why she is jealous is beyond me. She was only invited as a second to make contact with him in the event she can get a young bird from him cheap one day. So how she is on a high horse is beyond me. Nathan is my contact and he trusts me. She is just a tag along for her own pleasure. I always drive and pay all the gas and bring the goodies and whatever. I dont by any means disclude her but I shouldnt have to baby sit a grown woman. She is 52 for Gods sake. U think she would conduct herself better. Anyways after that embarrasing display, Im sure not going to ask her out there again. I couldnt believe she could conduct her self in public like that. I mean screaming and throwing a tantrum like a 4 year old kid. VERY bizzare. A side of her I dont want to know. Nathan was horrified and pleaded with us to work it out, I said I'd work it out alright, avoid the crazy biatch from now on. Pity. But she is flighty that way, I have seen some warning signs before regarding her cursing out other people she knows to me, but NEVER like that. Totally socially unacceptable. I mean, act that way if a stranger is muggin you or kicking ur dog or something, but to a friend who has gotten you two almost free birds and a few more and rehabing her parrotlet, deals on parrotlets, GIVING her and her freind free meds and bla bla bla, the list goes on. Thats how she decides to repay and treat me in public no less. hahahah WOW, is all I have to say, WOW. I will post the pics when I get a minute. By the way, the 5 eggs were all clear. The rosellas eggs clear as well. So he will have to rethink his set up, timing, and pairs. |
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| VIOLET12 | Mar 5 2010, 11:18 PM Post #24 |
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My, my, my. What a story. "Real friends" sometimes need a second chance. I am sure she will call you and apologize and then tell you what was "really" bothering her. Since she is home now she is probably really embarrassed. If not ...her loss. I wonder if the parrot had been hurt or harassed before. Didn't you say she lived in a store before? Sounds like their needs to be some more girls around there or maybe.... she should run for her life. |
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| Crazy Bird Lady | Mar 6 2010, 01:12 AM Post #25 |
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Yes thats what I think, a few more hens may even the odds and make her feel more comfy. I hope the blanket does that for her. We worked out the problem with my friend but I am now gun shy, it was such an extreme reaction that I am sure there is some other underlying cause, but I am not interested in opening that can of worms. She seems miffed that other people have been taking advantage of her. I have encouraged her not to take it, but I have NEVER done that to her at all. I have been very generous to her, gone out of my way to make her feel included and stroke her ego. So that reaction was way out of line. She will have to sort out her feelings and come to some grips. I will just give her her space for now and let her work it out. A man who she puppy sits for has got her upset, and a mutual girlfreind of ours has her upset, so she must have taken it out on me. When I asked her why, and asked was it because she felt comfortable enough with me to blow up and take it out on me, she said, it must be the case. I think she surprised herself. I will let her be and she can cool off. I dont mind letting it slide like it never happened. She is a good person overall, just needs some self control. I remember the one other time now that I saw this side of her. I had a male friend on the speaker phone, and he made a rather rude sexual remark. She heard and went off the deep end, similar to this but without crying. She was screaming into the phone, swearing at him and telling him, he should not talk to a married woman that way, and the he was a disgusting pig and so on. Althougth I thought it was sweet of her to defend me, it was quite disturbing how she blew up almost out of control. She is a red head afterall, so she must have that temper to go with it lol. I feel tho that she should apologize for the outburst tho. Even if to just show she cares and has some type of respect. Even if she doesnt apologize to me, she should to Nathan, it was hard to take and a bit scary for him. I felt bad for him. |
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| VIOLET12 | Mar 6 2010, 03:28 AM Post #26 |
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Sounds like she has been holding a few feelings inside and today something "triggered" her anger and she lost control. I feel sorry that that happened to her but I feel more sorry for you as you didn't have a clue. Well...it was kind of you to talk it over with her and give her some space. Is she the friend you took with you to the "Tiel Man's house?" How is he by the way ... have you heard anything new? |
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| Crazy Bird Lady | Mar 6 2010, 05:05 AM Post #27 |
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Hhaah great memory and yes, the very same, thats another thing, I got her 2 tiels for free. Im beginning to think its me. I think sometimes when u are too nice, people walk all over you. I have this other girlfreind who treats Jill like crap, like a lesser person snooty and like an employee and I always tell Jill not to let her or the dog guy walk all over her and yet, Im the one she snapped on???? I think it is because she feels more comfortable with me, but I thought we were better freinds than that. I feel a bit sad that she didnt feel respectful enough towards me to hold her temper or at least talk to me about it in a civilized manner, instead of choosing to snap. He is doing ok, he is waiting on a bone marrow transplant. I just spoke to him yesterday and got the ring band number on his lilac crowned amazon. We are trying to rack his history. On a nicer note, I had a guy friend, the one with the shar pei pups drop by 3 days in a row. Yesterday he brought me ice cream, today he came by special just to bring my dogs a treat. It was so nice to be appreciated. I had clipped all 3 pups nails 3 days ago and would not take money from him. It was so nice of him to think of my dogs. How happy was I
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| VIOLET12 | Mar 6 2010, 05:25 AM Post #28 |
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A good feeling. Stay away from too much stress. |
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| VIOLET12 | Mar 6 2010, 05:32 AM Post #29 |
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I'm off to the hospital tomorrow to see Hope. I found out some things today I am not happy about. But, again it is not my business. Some times I just don't know how to stay detached.........I am trying to work on that problem and stay positive for .... my own self. Thats a new idea. ha ha Me and Ed off to bed. Birdies all clean and nice for a great Saturday morning. Ed bath and nail clip tomorrow. Take care..........get rest...let your mind be at peace.
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| cspags | Mar 6 2010, 03:56 PM Post #30 |
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Wow. Sorry I have not been around lately, mom had a horrid week, pain is under control now, so thats a big relief. Maryann how horrible. Even if your friend has alot going on she needs a little anger management. Way too over the top. Trust me I understand stress but still you need to learn some control. She needs to learn appreciation and to vent to you rather than take it out on you. TOO MUCH DRAMA FOR ME |
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So that made me happy. He has stopped all purchasing for now, he is moving shop and going to build actual habitats for the birds, he is talking 400 sq ft per pair, we will see if that really happens. He has the money thats for sure. Lets hope he has the vision.





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