Welcome Guest [Log In] [Register]
We hope you enjoy your visit.


You're currently viewing our forum as a guest. This means you are limited to certain areas of the board and there are some features you can't use. If you join our community, you'll be able to access member-only sections, and use many member-only features such as customizing your profile, sending personal messages, and voting in polls. Registration is simple, fast, and completely free.


Join our community!


If you're already a member please log in to your account to access all of our features:

Username:   Password:
Add Reply
Bet ya didn't even miss me!
Topic Started: Oct 14 2008, 12:35 PM (217 Views)
Cabann
Member Avatar

I am so sorry. I just don't understand why family can't help one another.

I to often ask myself "What is it about me" to be treated the way that they do. The last time I asked my mom for help, to let me use her car so I could get my daughter to her orthopedic surgeon. She has out grown her brace and needed a new one made. I asked everybody around me first and nobody could give up their car for the day. So I call my mom and ask her if she could drive down so I could borrow her car. Nope she was too busy. Then the next day she informed me that she was heading to my sisters to help her out. And she lives futher away. That was the last time I am ever asking my family for help.

Again I am sorry.

edited to add: Are you sure we don't have the same family.lol
Edited by Cabann, Oct 17 2008, 11:27 AM.
Offline Profile Quote Post Goto Top
 
Ravenlost
Member Avatar

MsLynn
Oct 17 2008, 06:21 AM
Cabann
Oct 16 2008, 10:47 PM


"The only person in life you can ever completely depend on is yourself".

trust me, I learned this at a very early age. and i Don't depend on anyone...I did manage a couple of rent free months... and yes i figured this would happen. I just have so much goin on right now.. I was pretty much over what dad did, till he called and gave mom so many things he'd promised to me for years... yeah i knew when he promised that i'd probably never get them, but the fact that he offered them to someone he divorced over 30 years ago, AND SHE ACCEPTED THEM... knowing what he'd done to me and the boys. and the "Mr. Man" pulling his thing on what would have been 6 years for us... and my aunt is in the hospital with a massive stroke, everytime they think they can get her to Rehab, something else goes wrong. now the same parents that couldn't come for me when my son (their grandson) was in neo natal icu, run to her bedside everyday and sit for hours... you should hear how they complained about htis woman.... she's addicted to pain pills and wine, and they were thinking of ways to get her to take to many... HOW FREAKIN SAD IS THAT..... i guess they didn't know anyone in OKC so if they came to see me, no one would know what a sacrafice they were making and tell them how wonderful they were for doing it. I'm sorry I know I'm rambling... Not had much sleep lately, and I don't get more than 8 hrs off at a time till like Thursday..and yes thats my fault for having so many jobs, but i'm having trouble sleeping now when i do have time to lay down.

like i said, i'm just trying to figure out what it is about me that makes people think they don't have to keep their word to me, mind you if something happens, even if its major and easily proven that it really happened, they have a coniption fit on me.

Why is it so easy for someone to Toss me out like garbage and never even give me a second thought. thats all i want to know, what is it about me, that makes EVERYONE think this is acceptable.
What is it about you? It's because you LET THEM. Only you can control how you react to the actions of others. I think it's time you stopped giving them what they want...stop giving them any control over you...stop caring about what they do, what they say, what they think. Start caring about what YOU do and what YOU think.

Don't let their actions bring you down. So your Dad gave your mother, his ex, items he'd promised to you. It's just STUFF and deep in your heart you knew he probably wouldn't keep his word. Why keep clinging to any hope that he will keep his word? Let it go...let him go. You have a tough enough time, so why let this man mess with your head?

So what if they're running to make a big fuss over your aunt? Let them act like selfish idiots, it has no bearing on YOU. Let it go...you have your own life to live and you shouldn't even give them a second thought.

Stop thinking of yourself as garbage and others will stop treating you like garbage. It doesn't happen over night, but it will eventually. You have to rise above their selfish, petty behavior and let it slide off you like water off a duck. BE STRONG and soon the people around you will see you as a strong person and treat you accordingly.

And if they don't? Walk away. You don't need that in your life.
Offline Profile Quote Post Goto Top
 
ladybugbhb

((((hugs)))
Offline Profile Quote Post Goto Top
 
Ravenlost
Member Avatar

Oh my, I hope I didn't sound harsh. I certainly didn't mean to be. I care about you a great deal and want you to feel better about yourself!
Offline Profile Quote Post Goto Top
 
MsLynn

its ok raven, it's just that in the past 6 months i've been "thrown away" so many times by so many people who are supposed to love me, and if these are the people who "love" me I can imagine how other people feel. I shouldnt' have even posted it.. I'm just so mad at my mom... i wish i could get completely away from her but i have to have a sitter for my 8 year old when i work. THEY DON'T SEEM TO TREAT ANYONE ELSE THIS WAY... so thats what i don't understand.

OH HELL, never mind, i'm rambling again and this is my problem, not anyone else's
Offline Profile Quote Post Goto Top
 
Ravenlost
Member Avatar

You need to vent so don't apologize for posting! You can vent here all you need to...we're here for you!
Offline Profile Quote Post Goto Top
 
ladybugbhb

that is right, post away, we wil listne and it willmake you feel somewhat better to get it all out!

((hugs))
Offline Profile Quote Post Goto Top
 
« Previous Topic · Off Topic Chat · Next Topic »
Add Reply