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| Tweet Topic Started: Jun 15 2008, 01:59 PM (139 Views) | |
| psimer | Jun 15 2008, 01:59 PM Post #1 |
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Ok, so I shouldn't be but I am. My 83 year old father has a 63 year old girlfriend. That is not the problem. The problem is that she is his old secretary from about 30 years ago who my mother never liked. And I am sure my mother is rolling over in her grave knowing this woman is in her house. Even worse, she lives about 40 minutes away from him so she drives down on the weekends and stays in my mother's house. Using my mothers things more than likely (thank goodness we have all the jewelry and her clothes were given to charity). I am really upset about this. I feel like he is some how being disrespectful of her in having someone else stay in her home. My mother didn't even allow her older sister to stay in our house with her boyfriend and they were in their 40's. I am sure he is not having sex with her (he's on far too much medication) but at the same time, it's making me nuts. He finally decided to tell us because she stays on the weekends and she wants to be able to answer the phone if he's busy and we call. I would really like to pull her aside and tell her if she touches one thing in my mother's house, I will bitch slap her into next week. My dad isn't a rich man but he's very comfortable. He has quite a bit hidden away and he's not wanting for a single thing. This woman was widowed a few weeks before my mother died and I doubt if she has two pennies to rub together. AAUUGGHHH!!!!! On the other hand, if he has a heart attack and dies, she will be the one to find him..... AAUUGGGHHH!!!! |
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| Cabann | Jun 15 2008, 02:11 PM Post #2 |
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I feel for you and understand exactly how you feel. I took me some time to come to grips with my mom getting married again. I felt like it was way too soon, not even a year after Ray past. But what really bothered me. Dennis (my moms husband ) was dating Ray's sister before Ray died. Right before the passing thay broke up. It really bothered me because one morning when I was staying with my mom before Ray died, Ray's sister and Dennis stayed the night. When I woke up early in the morning my mom and Dennis were no where to be found. I went ouside and spotted them having coffee at a picnic table and by the why Dennis was talking, him and my mom attending games and traveling together, it felt like he was just waiting to make his move. Sure enough a couple weeks after the funeral, those two were dating. And yes my mom told me when her and Dennis first had, well you know. That really bothered me. |
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| psimer | Jun 16 2008, 01:00 PM Post #3 |
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My sister got a call from one of my mother's friends. Apparently there are a group of women ready to haul Pam out of the house if anything happens to my dad. My mom was very well loved and respected and this group is about to go nuts that he is seeing someone. But as my sister said, my relationship with my dad is far more important than getting Pam out of the house. She better not touch the good silver.... |
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| Cabann | Jun 16 2008, 01:33 PM Post #4 |
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I agree with that statement. I just bit my tongue with my mom, I knew she wouldn't listen anyways. :bighug If you need to talk just give me a call. Keep in mind on Mon., Wed., and Fridays the younger kids have my phone until about noon (my time). I walk them 3/4 of the way to their music class and they walk the last 1/4 by themselves. I feel safer just knowing they have my cell with them. |
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| Ravenlost | Jun 16 2008, 05:07 PM Post #5 |
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Why do you suspect she would do something underhanded? Does she have a history of this sort of behavior? |
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| psimer | Jun 17 2008, 12:39 PM Post #6 |
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The stupid part is that I think she has always had a thing for my dad. She's just a Southern country girl who has never been anywhere. She divorced her first husband and buried her second. She wanted my dad to fly with her to Wisconsin to see her daughter because she has never even been in a plane. She is just not in the same league as my dad. But he has already told her that we own the house, not him and so if she is looking for money, heck, he gives me a hard time when I borrow it and he's knows I'll pay him back in a few days if I do (like car emergency). So I can't imagine that she is going to get any cash out of him. And we girls got all the good jewelry (except the Mikimoto pearls that he buried her wearing, her wedding ring and another big diamond ring that he bought her). Pam wouldn't know a Mikimoto pearl if it came up and bit her on the butt. She is so not in my mom's league either. |
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| Ravenlost | Jun 17 2008, 02:08 PM Post #7 |
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Hmmm...I'm just a "Southern country girl" so I'm probably not in the right league to comment as I wouldn't know what a Mikimoto pearl was if it came up and bit me on the butt either. |
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| psimer | Jun 18 2008, 10:36 AM Post #8 |
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Ok, maybe I am being a bit hard but we are talking about my mother and Pam and it's like putting Britany Spears and Betty White on the same level. Not even close. I am going to be respectful but that doesn't mean I have to like it. (Mikimoto are pearls from Japan. They are known for being natural pearls that are all perfectly matched. At one time you could buy an inch of pearl for about $300 but that was a long time ago.) |
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| renagade | Jun 18 2008, 02:46 PM Post #9 |
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I can so relate to this subject in two different dirrections.My FIL let a woman come into his house after MIL passed away and she cleaned him out big time. Stole his checkbook,cleaned out my grandbabies savings and took the fine silver.She is in jail now(yeah we put her there)and FIL has passed on but we didn't even have enough to bury him cause she had cashed out his insurance policies. :angry Now for the second part. Dad has let a woman younger than myself move in with him now that my mom is gone.It is driving me insane also.My problem is I spoke up and really caused a riff between me & dad. We only speak on the phone every once in a blue moon.She pretty much has taken over everything. No matter what you do sometimes ya just can't win. Good luck. |
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| MsLynn | Jun 19 2008, 01:45 AM Post #10 |
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ok from what i can gather, he picked your mom, and he's living comfortable, so he doesn't seem like he has a history of making bad decisions-- sit down and have an open honest heart to heart with your dad.. you may see things in a new light.. I understand that she's not your mother and never will be but he maybe able to help you accept things alittle better you can't let this drive you nuts and if you don't do something thats exactly what its gonna do. Edited by MsLynn, Jun 19 2008, 02:18 AM.
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