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| Sex before marriage | |
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| Topic Started: Oct 31 2008, 07:17 AM (464 Views) | |
| ocean_politc | Nov 4 2008, 04:19 AM Post #31 |
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It really comes down to the religious views of the person being asked this question. If one of religion this action would certainly be a no..But I know those who go to Catholic High Schools and such and find themselves ending up pregnant. Although, the school they go to doesn't depict them at all. But this question will never really have a "written in stone" answer to it. It is all about personal and religious views. |
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| Bunny | Nov 4 2008, 06:28 AM Post #32 |
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Look, I"m way too young for you guys to properly take account of my opinion, but for me, it's a mixed thing. I think that 16 is too young, but I'm not against sex before marriage. I'm not for sleeping with your Girl/boyfriend if you've only known him/her for a week, but if it's been say, a year, or two, and you really know each other well, and love each other, then I don't see a reason why not. Like I say, I'm really too young to think much about this =D Edited by Bunny, Nov 4 2008, 06:28 AM.
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| The 10th Plague | Nov 4 2008, 03:27 PM Post #33 |
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Well, I haven't read all of the four pages here, as the topic title actually says enough. I have totally nothing against sex before marriage (I myself was 15 when I lost my virginity. Maybe a bit early, that's true, but I surely don't regret it). I don't see why sex should only be done after marriage. Does marriage change a person? I think not. The person is exactly the same before and after marriage. That person now only bears the title "husband" or "wife", but nothing else has changed. So then, why only have sex after marriage? All animals mate. They mate when they want it to, not when something says that they should. So why would humans, also animals, be limited by marriage? And we're all human. We can't deny we all have our lusts. Those lusts got us pretty far. Without them, we'd be pretty much extinct by now. Then why should we try to get rid of these lusts. And let's be honest, giving in to these lusts gives a lot of joy. And sex is nothing 'dirty' either. We've all been created by sex. And even if there is a God, what would he have logically against it? He'd given us those lusts, so why would he have something against it? However, losing ones virginity changes someone's life for sure. So anyone should really think about it. I've just seen a show last night which featured a boy of eleven years old who already had sex. I do think that's wrong. I don't think a boy of 11 can perceive what losing his virginity means. They interviewed the boy, and he surely had no clue about what he was doing. He knew literally how to 'put it in', but that's only basic. Sex is also a psychological game, and I think children can't understand that game yet. I think the parents of that boy were very unaware of what their kids were doing, and they should have prevented it from happening. However, some people get adult pretty early. One person may already be ready for sex at the age of 14, whilst the other may be ready for it at an age of 25. If two persons love each other, what can you possible have against them having sex? However, sex can have its negative points: disease, unwanted pregnancy etc. That's why education about sex should start at a young age, ALSO in elementary school. Education will give children the knowledge to think about, to use contraception methods. And even if pregnancy occurs unwanted (because no single contraception method is 100% safe.) someone can apply abortion if that person wants it. Especially in the first few days (and first weeks) of the pregnancy, man cannot speak about a fully fledged human yet. It then is only a clump of cells, with no limbs, organs or brain. |
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| Sardoniscorn | Nov 9 2008, 11:29 AM Post #34 |
Holy tapdancing Baal, get me the fuck ouuta here
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I'm of binary opinion regarding this. I definately think that people shouldn't have to wait 'till marriage, but an age limit sounds reasonable. How is it any different from alcohol, driving or owning a weapon? There are pleasures involved but there can be dire consequences to onesself and other people if the uh.. well.. equipment is used by mentally undeveloped youths who cannot foresee the consequences of thei actions or take responsibility for their behaviour. After all, the potency of the tools granted to us by nature is undeniable. Better it be used wisely by someone, say, over 18. |
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| tay20 | Nov 9 2008, 04:25 PM Post #35 |
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Sex before marriage is a huge choice and honestly, I don't think that one can make that choice at 16 while weighing all of the possible outcomes. I don't understand why kids are in such a hurry these days to run out and have sex. A lot of kids don't use any kind of protection and they hardly even talk about the use of protection. There are babies being born every day to parents that keep getting younger and younger. Seriously, what kind of life is that for a baby? Do kids realize that it takes WORK and I mean a lifetime of work to raise a child? 16 is too young. It is. But that's just me. But I don't think that people should have to wait until marriage. Because that's just an insane thought. It's not right for everyone. Edited by tay20, Nov 9 2008, 04:26 PM.
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| Mad_Hatter | Nov 9 2008, 04:26 PM Post #36 |
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18 or older? Don't you think that's a bit unrealistic? I mean, you have to go through high school before you hit that age and everyone knows HS is a sexual minefield. XD I heard once that most girls lose their virginity on Prom night. I think that's bull. Girls at my school seemed to start Sophomore and Junior year usually. Edited by Mad_Hatter, Nov 9 2008, 04:27 PM.
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| tay20 | Nov 9 2008, 04:37 PM Post #37 |
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I think 17 is a little more reasonable. But 16, a year can do a world of difference. I just wish that kids would take the time to think about it all. |
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| Mad_Hatter | Nov 9 2008, 04:48 PM Post #38 |
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^ Yeah, everything in moderation. And 16 sounds ok to me. If you can drive a car, hold a job, emancipate yourself from you parents, I think you might be ready to take charge of your body. |
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| ringofscars | Nov 13 2008, 07:42 AM Post #39 |
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I don't understand the hang-ups about sex before marriage. But to me marriage means little. It's a piece of paper. What makes a relationship work is commitment, love, trust, friendship and so on.
I couldn't agree more with this. For me it's not something that is given or taken. Kids are going to do it, I'm all for education. At least then they know what they could be getting themselves in for. They're going to do it anyway and it's damn stupid and short-sighted not to educate. I know some religions and some people in general are against sex ed in schools and I disagree wholeheartedly with them. |
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| LexLuv101 | Nov 21 2008, 10:04 AM Post #40 |
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Sex before marriage lets you know what you are in for. I'd hate to accidentally get stuck with someone who did not match me, compatibility wise, in bed. There are different chemistries you just can't know of until you do the actual deed. Also, sex drive and views on different sexual experimentation is important. You can talk about them together but of course that's never good enough to let you know the truth. |
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