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Dad uses Facebook to teach daughter a lesson
Topic Started: Feb 11 2012, 05:26 PM (511 Views)
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a most horrible dad tbh

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dunno can see were he is coming from but gonna be a fun household for him
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a most horrible dad tbh
I think he's great, and you should read the updates, I post them here.
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Well if I had had a dad like that, who had no respect for my privacy and read stuff not meant for his eyes, then threw a tantrum and killed my laptop and thought I should pay for the bullets I would have left home asap and would never have spoken to him again. It might be fun watching but it must be a horror to be his child!

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Well if I had had a dad like that, who had no respect for my privacy and read stuff not meant for his eyes, then threw a tantrum and killed my laptop and thought I should pay for the bullets I would have left home asap and would never have spoken to him again. It might be fun watching but it must be a horror to be his child!
No Citro you are commenting on this only knowing what the punishment was.
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UPDATE: Dad uses Facebook to teach daughter a lesson

The father from the controversial video
comments on reactions to his video on his own Facebook page.ORIGINAL STORY AND VIDEO HERE

TOMMY JORDAN'S FACEBOOK PAGE HERE
Attention Media Outlets:
While we appreciate the
interest you're all putting forth to get in touch with us regarding the
video, we're not going to go on your talk show, not going to call in to
your radio show, and not going to be in your TV mini-series.


Some of you think I made an acceptable parenting decision and others
think I didn't. However, I can't think of any way myself or my daughter
can ...respond to a media outlet that won't be
twisted out of context. The Dallas news TV news already showed that in
their brief 5 minute interview with the psychologist.


Additionally, there's absolutely NO way I'm going to send my child the
message that it's OK to gain from something like this. It would send her
a message that it's OK to profit at the expense of someone else's
embarrassment or misfortune and that's now how I was raised, nor how she
has been raised.

So I say thank you from all of us. If we have
anything to say, we'll say it here on Facebook, and we'll say it
publicly, but we won't say it to a microphone or a camera. There are too
many other REAL issues out there that could use this attention you're
giving us. My daughter isn't hurt, emotionally scarred, or otherwise
damaged, but that kind of publicity has never seemed to be to have a
positive effect on any child or family.

If you're a news outlet
that wants to ask us a question, feel free to so via email. I'm sure by
now my email address is easy enough to find. It might take me awhile to
get to a response because I'd have to sort through the "Die you
bastard" emails to find it, but we will respond if its something that we
feel merits it. Otherwise, sorry... no interviews, no talk shows, no
call-ins.

If we respond to anything, it will be on here, and it
will be in a way that our words can't be misconstrued or edited for
appeal to specific audience or shock value.

Now, I'm going to
try to get to work for the day.
Best of luck to all of you out
there... and PLEASE give my phone a break.
==========================================

HOW HANNAH GOT CAUGHT


HOW SHE GOT CAUGHT: The Dog Did It.. no, really.

I finally
came out and told her this today, partly because it was too funny NOT to
share.

When my daughter made her post, she used Facebook's
privacy settings to block "Family" and "Church" friend's lists. All her
other friends could see it. We, of course could not.

One of our
dogs is always getting in photos and therefore has her own Facebook pa...ge.
It's just a cute dumb thing we did for fun. Well, the dog's profile is
rarely used except when funny pictures of her are posted. Since that's
not too often, and she has very few friends on Facebook, her wall is
kind of bare, with relatively few posts showing up on it.

The
other night we gave the dog a bath and there was a funny photo we
uploaded to Facebook and tagged her in. I logged in as the dog the next
morning to comment on the photo. However when I logged into the dog's
profile, my daughter had forgotten to add her to the "family" list....
so our family dog's profile showed her post right there on the front
page.

It wasn't any parent-hacking, computer spying, or
monitoring of any kind.. the dog actually ratted her out completely by
accident. She hasn't petted that dog all day today...HANNAH'S REACTION


For those that wondered, commented, criticized, and just in general
wanted to know:
My daughter came through it fine.

Yes,
she's in trouble, and yes she's grounded, but that doesn't mean every
moment of her life has to be miserable. She's going to come to terms
with the changes that will be present for a while; no TV privileges, no
Internet, etc.

In the meantime, once the initial anger passed,...
she sat with me reviewing some of the comments that have come in via
Facebook and YouTube. One person even suggested collecting the shell
casings and auctioning them on eBay. I said I’d do it if it would help
contribute to her college fund! When I told her about it, she thought a
minute, got a funny calculating expression on her face and said, “in
that case you should shoot my phone too. We can use more bullets and
I’ll go half-sies with ya on it! It’s not like I’m going to need it any
time soon. And I can use the money we get to buy a new one.”


While the whole point of this story isn’t funny, what is funny to me is
how weak some people out there think kids are. Our kids are as strong as
we help them to be. My daughter took a horrible day in her life, had
her crying fit, then got over it, accepted her punishment, and hasn’t
let it (or people’s comments) destroy her strength. I don’t get any
credit for that. She’s strong and able to overcome almost anything life
throws at her.

Since this unsuspectingly threw her into the
limelight much more strongly than either of us intended, I asked her if
she wanted to make her own response video, and told her I’d let her do
it if she wanted to. She doesn’t like being in front of the camera, so
she declined, but I’ve told her if she wants to write a response or post
a video response, I’d be OK with it. It’s only fair considering the
viral nature of the whole thing. So far she’s not really interested.
Quite frankly it seems she’s gotten bored of it much faster than the
general public has. If that changes I’ll post it here.
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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS:



Media Response to Anita Li, from the Toronto Star

Since you
took the time to email us with your requests like we asked, I’ll take
the time to give you an honest follow-up response. You’ll have to
forgive me for doing so publicly though; again I want to be sure my
words are portrayed the way I actually say them, not cut together to
make entirely different points.

Your questions were:
Q: Why
did y...ou decide to reprimand your daughter over a public medium like
YouTube?

A: Well, I actually just had to load the video file
itself on YouTube because it’s a better upload process than Facebook,
but the intended audience was her Facebook friends and the parents of
those friends who saw her post and would naturally assume we let our
children get away with something like that. So, to answer “Why did you
reprimand her over a public medium like Facebook” my answer is this:
Because that’s how I was raised. If I did something embarrassing to my
parents in public (such as a grocery store) I got my tail tore up right
there in front of God and everyone, right there in the store. I put the
reprisal in exactly the same medium she did, in the exact same manner.
Her post went out to about 452 people. Mine went out to about 550
people… originally. I had no idea it would become what it did.

Q:
How effective do you think your punishment was (i.e. shooting her
laptop and reading her letter online)?

A: I think it was very
effective on one front. She apparently didn’t remember being talked to
about previous incidents, nor did she seem to remember the effects of
having it taken away, nor did the eventual long-term grounding seem to
get through to her. I think she thought “Well, I’ll just wait it out and
I’ll get it back eventually.” Her behavior corrected for a short time,
and then it went back to what it was before and worse. This time, she
won’t ever forget and it’ll be a long time before she has an opportunity
to post on Facebook again. I feel pretty certain that every day from
then to now, whenever one of her friends mentions Facebook, she’ll
remember it and wish she hadn’t done what she did.

The second
lesson I want her to learn is the value of a dollar. We don’t give her
everything she asks for, but you can all imagine what it’s like being
the only grandchild and the first child. Presents and money come from
all sides when you’re young. Most of the things she has that are “cool”
were bought or gifted that way. She’s always asked for very few things,
but they’re always high-dollar things (iPod, laptop, smartphone, etc).
Eventually she gets given enough money to get them. That’s not learning
the value of a dollar. Its knowing how to save money, which I greatly
applaud in her, but it’s not enough. She wants a digital SLR camera. She
wants a 22 rifle like mine. She wants a car. She wants a smart phone
with a data package and unlimited texting. (I have to hear about that
one every week!)

She thinks all these things are supposed to be
given to her because she’s got parents. It’s not going to happen, at
least not in our house. She can get a job and work for money just like
everyone else. Then she can spend it on anything she wants (within
reason). If she wants to work for two months to save enough to purchase a
$1000 SLR camera with an $800 lens, then I can guarantee she’ll NEVER
leave it outside at night. She’ll be careful when she puts it away and
carries it around. She’ll value it much more because she worked so hard
to get it. Instead, with the current way things have been given to her,
she's on about her fourth phone and just expects another one when she
breaks the one she has. She's not sorry about breaking it, or losing it,
she's sorry only because she can't text her friends. I firmly believe
she'll be a LOT more careful when she has to buy her own $299.00
Motorola Razr smartphone.

Until then, she can do chores, and lots
and lots of them, so the people who ARE feeding her, clothing her,
paying for all her school trips, paying for her musical instruments, can
have some time to relax after they finish working to support her and
the rest of the family. She can either work to make money on her own, or
she will do chores to contribute around the house. She’s known all
along that all she has to do is get a job and a lot of these chores will
go away. But if you’re too lazy to work even to get things you want for
yourself, I’m certainly not going to let you sit idly on your rear-end
with your face glued to both the TV and Facebook for 5 to 6 hours per
night. Those days are over.

Q: How did your daughter respond to
the video and to what happened to her laptop?

A: She responded to
the video with “I can’t believe you shot my computer!” That was the
first thing she said when she found out about it. Then we sat and we
talked for quite a long while on the back patio about the things she
did, the things I did in response, etc.

Later after she’d had
time to process it and I’d had time to process her thoughts on the
matters we discussed, we were back to a semi-truce… you know that
uncomfortable moment when you’re in the kitchen with your child after an
argument and you’re both waiting to see which one’s going to cave in
and resume normal conversation first? Yeah, that moment. I told her
about the video response and about it going viral and about the
consequences it could have on our family for the next couple of days and
asked if she wanted to see some of the comments people had made. After
the first few hundred comments, she was astounded with the responses.

People
were telling her she was going to commit suicide, commit a gun-related
crime, become a drug addict, drop out of school, get pregnant on
purpose, and become a stripper because she’s too emotionally damaged now
to be a productive member of society. Apparently stripper was the
job-choice of most of the commenters. Her response was “Dude… it’s only a
computer. I mean, yeah I’m mad but pfft.” She actually asked me to post
a comment on one of the threads (and I did) asking what other job
fields the victims of laptop-homicide were eligible for because she
wasn’t too keen on the stripping thing.

We agreed we learned two
collective lessons from this so far:

First: As her father, I’ll
definitely do what I say I will, both positive and negative and she can
depend on that. She no longer has any doubt about that.

Second:
We have always told her what you put online can affect you forever.
Years later a single Facebook/MySpace/Twitter comment can affect her
eligibility for a good job and can even get her fired from a job she
already has. She’s seen first-hand through this video the worst possible
scenario that can happen. One post, made by her Dad, will probably
follow him the rest of his life; just like those mean things she said on
Facebook will stick with the people her words hurt for a long time to
come. Once you put it out there, you can’t take it back, so think
carefully before you use the internet to broadcast your thoughts and
feelings.




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Taken from Tommy Jordan's Facebook Page
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well even if he got into her 'private" part of Facebook by accident I still think he had no right to read it or do what he did, the only thing that I agree with is this:

She thinks all these things are supposed to be
given to her because she’s got parents. It’s not going to happen, at
least not in our house. She can get a job and work for money just like
everyone else. Then she can spend it on anything she wants (within
reason). If she wants to work for two months to save enough to purchase a
$1000 SLR camera with an $800 lens, then I can guarantee she’ll NEVER
leave it outside at night. She’ll be careful when she puts it away and
carries it around. She’ll value it much more because she worked so hard
to get it. Instead, with the current way things have been given to her,
she's on about her fourth phone and just expects another one when she
breaks the one she has. She's not sorry about breaking it, or losing it,
she's sorry only because she can't text her friends. I firmly believe
she'll be a LOT more careful when she has to buy her own $299.00
Motorola Razr smartphone.

that's why botting for cash to play this game we all play is ridiculous in my opinion, same as staking.

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If you read the update you will realise he didn't look at her 'Private' part of Facebook. The post appeared on their Dogs notice board, he simply read the Dog's notice board. No ones privacy was ever compromised!

Given the above I take it that you fully support him now then.
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two wrongs does not make 1 right, like I stated before even tough he got there because the dog had access, it was not meant for his eyes and he knew it, I am sure she was out of line in what she said or he would not have been so upset, but to me that was still invading her privacy then posting everything on facebook was revenge, since when do parents have to resort to methods you would use against enemies? Tbh idc about the laptop, it was the making her pay for his destructive actions that is upsetting to me, if he was so upset he wanted to use bullets instead of a can of water then that was his problem. Also to me the use of the bullets was a very threatening gesture, like stay in line or the next time I use a bullet its on you.

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1. Can you state the 2 wrongs please?

2. You never stated he got there via the dog, you said 'who had no respect for my privacy and read stuff not meant for his eyes'. nothing there about the dogs Facebook page, and the dog can't read BTW so she didn't post it for the dog. It also wasn't private due to the fact she posted it to 249 people, so her privacy was never invaded.

3. 'Revenge' its discipline, what has he to gain?

4. 'methods you would use against enemies?' whats that mean? He did nothing to her he removed access to her laptop permanently, its now in the trash the gun was just a dramatic method to an end.

6. She would pay for the bullets etc, I can't understand any one thinking that she will pay for those bullets., that was just dramatic statement.

7. 'Also to me the use of the bullets was a very threatening gesture', she wasn't present during any of this and never saw her laptop afterwards.

So reading between the lines, you just didn't like the us of guns to prove a point. Well its overly dramatic, but she was not present during the video. She states thats she can't believe a lot of the comments left. On the two wrongs don't make a right, do you know how many death threats this guy has received. Did he ever threaten any her with VIOLENCE!!!!!!! There are a lot worse parents out there than his guy, to me he is one of the good guys.




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My real question is, if you think this guy did it all wrong.

What would you do to discipline your daughter?
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guess way this plays you can see who has kids an who hasnt over the net gun was a bit OTT (can see were some people were coming from on that ) shudda used sledge hammer
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lol Shaw hammer would have bothered me less then the gun, still water would have done the job as well and nobody could see anything threatening in that, just pouring it out or dump it in the bathtub would have worked way better in my opinion. Furthermore after he found it by accident he knew it was not meant for his eyes, and whatever was said there if it was that upsetting to me I would have had a word with her after taking a deep breath and counting to 10. After all I am supposed to be parenting and am supposed to be a grown-up and should be able to handle a teenager. And I should be able to explain why her post on Facebook upset me so much I felt I had to take some of her "rights" like the use of the laptop she never paid for. I would never make it a public thing just because she did that's why I call it revenge.

And I do agree Boxer that the guy did not deserve the 'hate-mail" but then what had he expected by going public the way he did. He is right about stuff on internet biting people after years since it can be found sooner or later and will be there for years and years!

Also I agree that there are way worse people around, that does not make his actions right in my eyes, like I said She might have been very annoying and hurtful, no reason for retaliation this way and in public too.

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OK I read ALL of that.

He had no choice but to address that post, you can't just ignore it. The Video post was sent the same people she post to, one of those made it public and he was forced to post it for everyone to see.

Your saying it wrong for him to be violent to a laptop, but its OK for everyone else to threaten to kill him in hate mail, your expectations are JUST SO WRONG!!!!! Nothing is said to condemn these people, only the person who destroyed a laptop with a gun.

The bottom line is he DIDN'T make it public, it was sent to the same audience as her post!!

She knew it was very hurtful because she blocked "Family" and "Church", and that it would make its way back to her family.
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