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Don't Change
Topic Started: Mar 3 2009, 10:23 PM (281 Views)
Todd-ster
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i feel like ranting......and i didnt know about what. so like i always do, i'll talk about myself :D

apparently!.......i am no in-between kind of person. people either hate me, or love me. i tend to say people just love me, since i dont even glance at the ones that do hate me. im not the type to sit in a circle and share my feelings.....so, i'll make this short.

when i was about 16, i drifted away from the things i knew. i was, and still am, the guy that everyone loved being around. you know that jock in your high school thats the center of attention? yeah, that sums up my high school life. like the majority of 16 year olds, i was partying.

i let alcohol take control of me. to the point, where it was always in full control.

it pissed people off that i wasn't being positive. im known for being negative and cocky lol. im just that kind of person. i was confused and aggravated...why were they all asking me to change in order to put down the whiksey? when i was the funny one making them laugh or smile, they probably would have taken a frying pan to my head if i mentioned the word change.

my whole little rant.........don't change. through the good times or through the BAD. changing won't take away the problem in front of your face. it'll just take away everything else.
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YesterdaysDreams
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ok I will agree here to an extent. There are times when a person has to change for themselves, not for someone else. I know I have had to at least.
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Todd-ster
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i refuse to change lol. even if its for better. idk, guess thats just the way i work.
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Duchess Dizufish
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do you think people should stay the same forever, no matter what?
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Todd-ster
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i think people can do whatever they want. i tend to care more about myself, because i am living my own life. if someone wants to change? well, power to them......who am i to tell them not to? i just know that i have been who i am for a really long time. i don't remember ever completly changing. i grew up a little from my 15-16 year old stage........but im still that same guy. and i always will be.
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The Poetic Prince
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I have my doubts that it is truly possible for anyone to never change at all. Even when we become older, I think we are always constantly changing. Change is a part of self improvement, it is a part of our growth as human beings. Of course, I can see why some people may believe they don't change: the changes can be very subtle.

Not only do we, as people, change, but our lives are always changing and evolving. There's always something new out there for us. :)

I do think intentional change can serve a purpose, but it should be to fit our own needs and desires, not to satisfy others, unless of course we are constantly hurting other people...
Edited by The Poetic Prince, Mar 8 2009, 01:27 AM.
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NeonXCupcake
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I still think you're the best.
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m&m.Michael.
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To Neon, yes he will always be the best. Along with Charlee.

To Poetic Prince, and so far...he has never changed. I watched him grow, I raised him. From day one, he was the same. My mom can even back me up on that one. He has been the outgoing one. Even if it has gotten him in trouble before. He has always been the one to lure in a crowd. With personal issues, he has never changed. He improves, because he tries hard...he doesn't have to change in order to improve.

Believe me, I was one of the people who tried "changing him for the better," and pushed me out of his life so far that I almost lost him forever. From me trying to change him, he actually changed me. In order for me to gain my brother back, I had to accept he is who he wants to be. He is Todd, and I finally want him to be just that...not anything else.
Edited by m&m.Michael., Mar 8 2009, 10:44 AM.
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YesterdaysDreams
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change is the one constant thing in time. I do not believe others can change a person for the better, a person can take advice or read a book that changes them. I think this happens without the person ever really knowing that it HAS changed them. Like Prince said often change in self is so subtle that it happens and we are just caught in the current of change. To change one self for anyones benefeit other than yourself is robbing your own sense of self. If a person is to change, it should be something they do naturally not in force no matter how much it may be a needed change.
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The Poetic Prince
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I completely agree with Kimmie. Before, when I said, "it [change] should be to fit our own needs and desires, not to satisfy others, unless of course we are constantly hurting other people..." what I meant was not that we should ever change to satisfy other people. I mean, of course we don't need to be constantly hurting other people, but if that is who we are, then we must be true to ourselves. I would say that I don't believe we can experience personal happiness until we begin bringing happiness to others. We need to think of ourselves and provide for ourselves, but happiness and friendship works kind of like a marriage: give and take, draw happiness from the happiness of others, you get returned what you give, karma, etc...

As for changing OTHER PEOPLE for the better? How is it possible to change other people? You can't take them in your hands and shape them like clay, can you? The only thing you can do is nag them about what's wrong with them and tell them they need to change. I believe that if one's intentions in such a thing are truly noble, then it would be best to just love them as they are, and when they are ready to change, they will, but it will be because that is what they want to do, not because some outside force is dictating to them what they need to be. But we are who and what we are, we can't love everyone we meet in life, we can't even LIKE everyone we meet in life! But we can accept everyone we meet in life for being who and what they are.
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