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Topic Started: Apr 12 2010, 09:13 PM (228 Views)
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     I need help. I have been failing school and barely getting by for the past 2-3 years. My mother is an alchohaulic who blames everything on me and I can't deal with the stress anymore. Can you help me out?


This might be one of the things wherein you really have to stand up and get your bottoms heated up for surely you're going to go downhill if you keep this going. First of all, your mother shouldn't be like that unless of course there really is a ground-smashing event that recently happened (parent separation, abuse or etc...). She needs to handle herself again, and for that to happen she would need support from the people she would listen to the most. Only you can handle this along with your siblings & father. I'm not sure though if your mother and father is still together but if they are, they really need to settle some ground rules because if they're not going to do that, your life will go terribly wrong. You, yourself can make a big impact with this problem, how? Concentrate on your classes, give your parents some will to stand up and talk to your mother every time you can. She needs your support, a bit of your own opinion on the things that is happening. If she blames everything on you, understand it first for she is stressed. Talk to her, try to show her that you love her even though she's mostly confused at times. If you can't understand a certain subject, tell her (probably if she really is stressed, she will blame you for how dumb you are and such along those lines) but after that, don't be discouraged. After that, do learn what you asked her and then when you already learned it, tell it to her.

Communication is one basic key to a family's well being. Along with that is showing love. You can't always sit around and not talk to her, basically you have to. If you're grades are going down, consult her for advice, with that she would feel some need of guidance from her child. She raised you and did everything for you to grow up and she wouldn't do anything bad to you. Cruel mothers are quite rare so I think your mother is not one of those mothers who would throw away their children. Show her some love, ask her for support and do support her back if she have problems. Sometimes, simple "good night"s, "i love you"s could go a long long way. She would be shocked and this would be hard especially if you're not used to doing it but it is worth it.

Everything starts at home, so when you have accomplished that, you'll have your mind set up for education which in my opinion should be also a priority. Study hard and don't laze off. Keep a steady schedule of your time to balance your school work and social time, that way you won't fail.

Final Quote: "starting from where you were just a bud, you'll see that you can bloom with just a simple drop of water everyday"

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Awww <3 that quote is so sweet. I'm sure this person is very pleased.
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