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What causes emotional immaturity?


By allisononeill on April 01, 2009


Emotionally immature people are those that haven’t moved onto adult ways of thinking and behaving. They seem to be trapped in a childish mentality but don’t (and probably never will) realize it. It can be a 50, 80, 28 or 35 year old - male or female. It is not a problem confined to one specific age group or gender.

I call it ‘celebrity-itis’ which is something I first heard about when Britney had her much publicized dramas. After learning about it, a lot of things finally made sense to me. Celebrity-itis is when a person’s emotional development slows down drastically (or stops) at whatever age the person found fame. Britney found fame at age 15 and some may argue that she shows a similar emotional age. Apparently, the reason for this developmental slowdown is that at the moment celebrities get their ‘break’ life changes dramatically – they have people running around after them, they get free stuff, they have cameras following them, they get loads of fan mail and asked for autographs everywhere they go. They stop living a normal life and become treated like ‘a star’. Nothing is too much trouble and ‘whatever you need you shall have’. It could be an explanation for why Hollywood marriages rarely last - they enter it without being mature enough to do so.

‘Celebrity-itis’ does happen to ‘regular’ people too, but instead of a ‘big break’ being the life changing event it might be something like losing a parent at a young age. Often such a huge life changing event can lock the person in a developmental ‘pause’. Somewhere when processing their grief they get jammed at that emotional age. I’ve personally seen four very clear examples of this happening:

*35 year old male who hadn’t processed his childhood issues. The more I learnt of him, the more I saw how childish his decision making and actions were. His stunted emotional growth cost him dearly in his life, caused mild mental illness and also negatively impacted his children (which he is oblivious too).

*30 year old male that has parental approval issues. He spends his life trying to impress his (un-impressible) father. His life revolves around that (but he doesn’t consciously see that). He also constantly needs to be seen as a ‘big hero’ – telling very obviously exaggerated stories in which he plays some kind of superman. People don’t like being friends with him because they feel he is fake. He is so busy proving how much better than you he is, that he has no time for authentic, real friendship.

*25 year old female that suffered a traumatic event in her teens. She is very petty, negative and unreliable. After spending time with her people report feeling very glum and pleased to get away. She is preoccupied about what others can give her (gifts and shopping) rather than looking after her own needs as an adult should. She is very judgmental and spends her waking hours saying and thinking awful things about others.

*40 something woman who also suffered a traumatic event in her teens. Her young children witness many immature behaviours, attitudes and decisions that cause them (even at age seven) to question her thought processes and decisions. They seem to have realised that there is something ‘not quite right’ about her, which is sad for them to learn so young. Her chosen peer group isn’t very high on the emotional maturity scale either, so she will be stuck at this level until she makes some life changes.

Emotional immaturity doesn’t affect every celebrity or person who has been through a life changing event, but it does make a lot of sense. The teenage years are a huge time of preparing for adulthood (mentally and emotionally) and if a spanner gets thrown in the works with a big event or receiving huge fame life can become so different, that the development doesn’t continue on a ‘normal’ path.

Signs of emotional immaturity

*You don’t take responsibility for your mistakes and always find someone else to blame.
*You are insecure, often defensive and have low self esteem which you band aid by talking yourself up all the time.
*You are unreliable – often late, not doing what you say you will and letting people down (with hundreds of excuses ready of course).
*When something great happens to someone you know instead of being thrilled for them, you often feel jealous and wish bad things upon them instead.
*You are stuck in childhood accrued patterns of thinking and behaving.

I’d love to hear any stories or examples you have experienced of emotional immaturity in yourself or others and how you overcame and dealt with it. Also what points would you add to the list of signs of emotional immaturity above?



http://www.blogher.com/what-causes-emotional-immaturity
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You're still upset about your daddy choosing alcohol over you. LOL.
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The Doctor,

Look at how fast he ran into this thread. He wants you to interact with him, he's begging for you to give him attention.

Just simply ignore his old rhetoric, and watch how his posts die out..

I do think he is acting his age. His mind is what's in question :D
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What Is Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)?
By Joseph Bennington-Castro Medically Reviewed by Robert Jasmer, MD

BPD may affect as many as 6 percent of the U.S. adult population.

Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious mental health condition that causes people to be unable to adequately control their emotions.

This leads to severe and unstable mood swings, impulsive and reckless behavior, and problems maintaining relationships with other people.


The term "borderline personality disorder" is a holdover from scientists' initial understanding of the condition and is widely considered to be poorly phrased because it's insufficient at describing the essence of the illness.

Experts originally noted that some people with severe BPD exhibited brief periods of psychosis (a break from reality marked by delusions or hallucinations).

This fact led them to believe that BPD was on the border between psychotic illnesses (such as schizophrenia) and neurotic illnesses (such as anxiety disorders), or that it was a borderline version of other mental illnesses, hence the word borderline.

Today, some people prefer other terms instead of BPD, such as "emotional dysregulation."

BPD Prevalence

Borderline personality disorder is estimated to affect about 1.6 percent of the adult population in the United States, but the true prevalence may be as high as 5.9 percent (14 million people), according to the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI).

Among the evidence that the condition may be underdiagnosed is the fact that about three-fourths of all BPD diagnoses occur among women, even though research suggests that it affects both sexes equally.

Men with BPD have often been misdiagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder or depression in the past.

BPD affects 20 percent of patients admitted to psychiatric hospitals and 10 percent of people seeking outpatient mental health treatment, according to the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder.

Causes and Risk Factors


As with other mental health disorders, it's unclear what exactly causes BPD, but scientists believe that the illness develops from a combination of several factors.

Studies of twins suggest that BPD has strong genetic factors. In fact, you're five times more likely to have BPD if you have a first-degree relative with the illness, according to NAMI.

In addition, brain-imaging research suggests that brain structure and activity in people with BPD are different from those without the illness.

For example, people with BPD appear to have increased activity in the brain regions involved with experiencing and expressing emotions (the amygdala and limbic system).

A 2016 report in the journal Biological Psychiatry found that people with BPD have more activity in the left amygdala and less activity in the dorsolateral prefrontal cortex when processing negative emotions, compared with people who don't have BPD.

Environmental factors are also thought to play a role in the development of BPD. Early childhood trauma (physical, sexual, or emotional abuse), neglect, and loss or separation from parents can increase the risk of developing the illness.

BPD Complications

The emotional dysregulation associated with BPD can affect a person's life in many ways, such as by causing:

- Difficulties in school or maintaining steady work
- Marital, family, or other relationship problems, such as divorce
- Issues with the law
- Impulsive and risky behavior (such as unplanned pregnancies, sexually transmitted diseases, drug abuse, reckless driving and vehicle accidents, or altercations with other people)
- People with BPD also have an increased risk of nonsuicidal self-harm (cutting, burning, and other harmful acts), suicide attempts, and death from suicide.

In fact, as many as 80 percent of people with BPD show suicidal behaviors, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. About 4 to 9 percent of people with BPD commit suicide.



http://www.everydayhealth.com/bpd/guide/
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reddgirl64
Jan 10 2017, 02:23 PM
The Doctor,

Look at how fast he ran into this thread. He wants you to interact with him, he's begging for you to give him attention.

Just simply ignore his old rhetoric, and watch how his posts die out..

I do think he is acting his age. His mind is what's in question :D
I can't be his father.
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This is a long one. I will break this up.

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BORDERLINE (EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE) PERSONALITY DISORDER

Is characterized by emotional instability, unstable self-image ("who am I?"), unstable ("love-hate") interpersonal relationships, and poor impulse control.

Is the most prevalent personality disorder in clinical settings and is associated with severe functional impairment, substantial treatment utilization, and high rates of mortality by suicide.

Is strongly associated with substance use disorders, mood disorders, anxiety disorders, and other personality disorders.

Is not due to a medical or substance use disorder.

Prediction

Lasts for years or is lifetime

Problems

Occupational-Economic Problems:

Causes significant impairment in academic or occupational functioning (interrupted education; sudden shifts in vocational aspirations; recurrent job losses)

Critical, Quarrelsome (Low Agreeableness):

Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger

Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation

Careless, Irresponsible (Low Conscientiousness):

Impulsivity at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating)

Worried, Easily Upset (Low Emotional Stability):

Emotional Instability:

Emotional instability due to a marked reactivity of mood

Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior

Chronic feelings of emptiness

Transient, stress-related severe dissociative symptoms

Social Instability:

Unstable, intense, chaotic interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation

Unstable self-image or sense of self

Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment




http://mentalhealth.com/home/dx/borderlinepersonality.html
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Jan 10 2017, 02:26 PM
reddgirl64
Jan 10 2017, 02:23 PM
The Doctor,

Look at how fast he ran into this thread. He wants you to interact with him, he's begging for you to give him attention.

Just simply ignore his old rhetoric, and watch how his posts die out..

I do think he is acting his age. His mind is what's in question :D
I can't be his father.
Damn right you can't. I am White. You Negroid ass lack the qualifications to be my father.
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Borderline (Emotionally Unstable) Personality Disorder 301.83

This diagnosis is based on the following findings:

Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment (still present)

Unstable and intense 'love-hate' relationships (still present)

Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self (still present)


Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (still present)

Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior (still present)

Rapidly shifting emotions (still present)

Chronic feelings of emptiness (still present)

Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (still present)

Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms (still present)
Predictions:

Individuals with Borderline (Emotionally Unstable) Personality Disorder have impaired ability to regulate their emotions, have unstable perceptions of self and others that lead to intense and chaotic relationships, and are prone to act on impulses, including self-destructive impulses.

These individuals:

- Have emotions that can change rapidly and spiral out of control, leading to extremes of sadness, anxiety, and rage.

- "Catastrophize," seeing problems as disastrous or unsolvable, and are often unable to soothe or comfort themselves without the help of another person.

- Become irrational when strong emotions are stirred up, showing a significant decline from their usual level of functioning.

- Lack a stable sense of self: Their attitudes, values, goals, and feelings about themselves may seem unstable or ever-changing, and they are prone to painful feelings of emptiness.

- Have difficulty maintaining stable, balanced views of others: When upset, they have trouble perceiving positive and negative qualities in the same person at the same time, seeing others in extreme, black-or-white terms. Consequently, their relationships tend to be unstable, chaotic, and rapidly changing.

- Fear rejection and abandonment, fear being alone, and tend to become attached quickly and intensely.

- Are prone to feeling misunderstood, mistreated, or victimized.

- While playing the role of "victim", often elicit intense emotions in other people who they manipulate into playing the role of "villan" or "rescuer".

- Stir up conflict or animosity between other people.

- Act impulsively.

- Their work life or living arrangements may be chaotic and unstable.

- May act on self-destructive impulses, including self-mutilating behavior, suicidal threats or gestures, and genuine suicidality, especially when an attachment relationship is disrupted or threatened.

(Note: "Predictions" is only available in the therapist version of the computerized assessment.)
Treatment Goals:

- Goal: overcome fear of abandonment.
If this problem persists: She will continue to show frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. Her frantic efforts to avoid abandonment might include impulsive actions such as self-mutilating or suicidal behaviors.

- Goal: have less unstable and intense "love-hate" relationships.
If this problem persists: She will continue to show a pattern of unstable and intense relationships. She will switch quickly from idealizing other people to devaluing them. She will see things in terms of extremes, either all good or all bad.

- Goal: develop a positive, stable self-image or sense of self.
If this problem persists: Her self-image ("who-am-I?") will continue to be very unstable. There will be sudden and dramatic shifts in her self-image, characterized by shifting goals, values, and vocational aspirations. She will see herself as a "victim" (taking little responsibility for any problem).

- Goal: stop impulsive, self-damaging behavior.
If this problem persists: She will continue to show impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (i.e., gambling, spending money irresponsibly, binge eating, abusing substances, engaging in unsafe sex, driving recklessly, or being impulsively suicidal).

- Goal: stop self-mutilating or suicidal behavior.
If this problem persists: She will continue to have recurrent suicidal gestures such as wrist cutting, overdosing, or self-mutilation. Her self-destructive acts will be precipitated by threats of separation or rejection.

- Goal: stop over-reacting to stress.
If this problem persists: She will continue to have rapidly shifting moods due to extreme reactivity to interpersonal stress (e.g., intense unhappiness, anger, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).

- Goal: discover a meaning or purpose to life.
If this problem persists: She will continue to have chronic feelings of emptiness. She will be easily bored and constantly seeking something to do.

- Goal: better control anger.
If this problem persists: She will continue to be inappropriately angry. Her anger will be triggered when a caregiver or lover is seen as neglectful, withholding, uncaring, or abandoning.

- Goal: stop becoming paranoid or dissociating under stress.
If this problem persists: During periods of extreme stress, she will continue to have transient paranoid ideation or dissociative symptoms (e.g., depersonalization). This will occur most frequently in response to a real or imagined abandonment.



http://mentalhealth.com/home/dx/borderlinepersonality.html
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Jan 10 2017, 02:26 PM
reddgirl64
Jan 10 2017, 02:23 PM
The Doctor,

Look at how fast he ran into this thread. He wants you to interact with him, he's begging for you to give him attention.

Just simply ignore his old rhetoric, and watch how his posts die out..

I do think he is acting his age. His mind is what's in question :D
I can't be his father.
He' not against incest..lol :D

And this gem..
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Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior (still present)


Didn't work before, not working now...

Maybe, he did beat his dick with a hammer, and found out it does hurt :D
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Jan 10 2017, 02:33 PM
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Jan 10 2017, 02:26 PM
reddgirl64
Jan 10 2017, 02:23 PM
The Doctor,

Look at how fast he ran into this thread. He wants you to interact with him, he's begging for you to give him attention.

Just simply ignore his old rhetoric, and watch how his posts die out..

I do think he is acting his age. His mind is what's in question :D
I can't be his father.
Damn right you can't. I am White. You Negroid ass lack the qualifications to be my father.
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Borderline (Emotionally Unstable) Personality Disorder 301.83

This diagnosis is based on the following findings:

Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment (still present)

Unstable and intense 'love-hate' relationships (still present)

Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self (still present)
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