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Gender Double Standard w/ Infidelity?
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Topic Started: Mar 29 2016, 02:07 PM (545 Views)
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U Thant
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Apr 3 2016, 03:43 AM
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- Doctor Magnus Warlock
- Mar 29 2016, 05:39 PM
Tattoos can be like fingerprints with identifying people.
Do you have to bring police-talk into every discussion? Lighten up, you are not on the job here.
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Ronroyce
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Apr 3 2016, 02:09 PM
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- Doctor Magnus Warlock
- Mar 29 2016, 05:42 PM
She is a 20 y/o kid with not much in regards to life experiences.
I do hope she uses this experience to grow as a person.
Funny enough, this story is a clear example of why CB is so vigilant with her niece.
No one wants their daughter going through stuff like this in such a public fashion.
I'm very glad that you get to see and UNDERSTAND that 20/year olds are KIDS with not much life experiences..
Hope we can maintain that same belief and not open up a double standard when it's time to identify 20 Year Black Kids as what they are... Kids, without much life experience...
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Ronroyce
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Apr 3 2016, 02:15 PM
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And this is not a Gender double standard... Of course 20 year old kids without much life experience as you term it, dont recognize that their Social Media lives is open for all to see and critique.. Of course MEN want what they think is a good girl and are gonna be sour when they perceive a Man going all out for a woman and she Cheats on him.... Just like Women will get sour when they perceive a woman being sweet and loyal and they Man Leaves her for another woman....
None of this has anything to do with Double standards...
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Doctor Magnus Warlock
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Apr 5 2016, 10:51 AM
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- Doctor Magnus Warlock
- Mar 29 2016, 02:07 PM
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In response, likely to the public backlash and her overflowing Instagram notifications, Kehlani, a new artist deleted her entire Instagram page, losing all of those followers. While she never addressed the picture directly, deleting an entire Instagram page, particularly as a new artist, is very close to an admission of guilt.
What happened afterward has been quite annoying. Men from all corners of the earth (read: young, Black men in America) have been blasting Kehlani and the rest of “these hoes” who don’t know how to handle or appreciate “a nice guy.” Not having the full story about the current status of the couple’s relationship, not knowing if Irving is indeed a “nice guy.” And what I find particularly irritating is that when male artists, entertainers and athletes cheat on their wives and girlfriends, there is no trending topic. Men don’t call these other men hoes. They don’t express their allegiance to the “good girl” who was hurt privately and publicly humiliated. Instead, men shrug their shoulders and offer explanations about biology, monogamy and access when you have money like these public figures. Hell, some of them might even celebrate the man for being “out here.”
The discussion about PartyNextDoor and his foul ways have yet to cross my path.
At the very end of the day, I feel sorry for Kehlani. Not because I’m excusing her infidelity; if that’s really what happened, but more so because I’m thinking about her career and her mental health. Having scads of angry, disconnected people from all over the internet trying to speak on your morals and character is enough to drive any sane person mad. Working on the internet, I know that feeling well. So even if she did make a mistake, I hope she has some positive and uplifting people in her corner who are keeping her off of social media and reminding her of all the good qualities she possesses. And I hope she’s truly internalizing that message.
But then there’s the career piece as well. No one, who is serious about their craft as an artist, wants scandal to be associated with their name before they’ve had a chance to prove themselves and blow up in the industry. But today, sadly, that’s the position in which Kehlani finds herself. Sadly, there will be tons of people who will hear about her for the very first time today, in relation to these allegations of cheating.
Hopefully, she can bounce back from all of this. Use this laser focus on her life either to her career advancement or to reconnect with the people who will continue to ride for her and her artistry. But in the meantime, the fellas out there, looking to throw the first stone, should back back.
http://madamenoire.com/622591/kehlani-ayesha-curry-and-the-double-standard-when-women-cheat/#disqus_thread
Here is where I see the double standard.
How often do male celebrities find their cheating ways trending?
How often do men put other men on blast like this?
Cheating celebrity men are almost seen as acceptable, but this young woman was held to a higher standard.
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reddgirl64
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Apr 5 2016, 11:16 AM
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Look no further than this..
http://hollywoodlife.com/2016/03/30/nick-young-cheated-iggy-azalea-dangelo-russell-leaked-video/
The villian is Dangelo, whereas Nick is seen as a victim. Not a cheater, but as someone who's been betrayed.
Where's the sympathy for Iggy? Isn't she the real victim? Nick is having a hard time mentality, so he is not with the team, however, it's because he can't get over what someone, Dangelo, did to him, not what he did to Iggy..
Such double and warped standards..
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Doctor Magnus Warlock
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Apr 5 2016, 11:28 AM
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Look no further than this.. http://hollywoodlife.com/2016/03/30/nick-young-cheated-iggy-azalea-dangelo-russell-leaked-video/The villian is Dangelo, whereas Nick is seen as a victim. Not a cheater, but as someone who's been betrayed. Where's the sympathy for Iggy? Isn't she the real victim? Nick is having a hard time mentality, so he is not with the team, however, it's because he can't get over what someone, Dangelo, did to him, not what he did to Iggy.. Such double and warped standards..
Exactly!
A cheating male should be equally vilified as a cheating female.
I read one report that Nick was pulled due to declining performance on the court, and this latest drama was the last straw.
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reddgirl64
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Apr 5 2016, 11:42 AM
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Look no further than this.. http://hollywoodlife.com/2016/03/30/nick-young-cheated-iggy-azalea-dangelo-russell-leaked-video/The villian is Dangelo, whereas Nick is seen as a victim. Not a cheater, but as someone who's been betrayed. Where's the sympathy for Iggy? Isn't she the real victim? Nick is having a hard time mentality, so he is not with the team, however, it's because he can't get over what someone, Dangelo, did to him, not what he did to Iggy.. Such double and warped standards..
Exactly! A cheating male should be equally vilified as a cheating female. I read one report that Nick was pulled due to declining performance on the court, and this latest drama was the last straw.
Those with double standards are hypocrites. It's the blame game, never the accountability game. Nick should say, forget what Dangelo did, I was wrong for what I did. I must accept the responsibility for my actions, and stop blaming someone, for putting my actions, out there!
All those calling Kehlani a hoe, I guarantee, they are cheaters themselves.
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Doctor Magnus Warlock
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Apr 5 2016, 11:46 AM
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- Doctor Magnus Warlock
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Look no further than this.. http://hollywoodlife.com/2016/03/30/nick-young-cheated-iggy-azalea-dangelo-russell-leaked-video/The villian is Dangelo, whereas Nick is seen as a victim. Not a cheater, but as someone who's been betrayed. Where's the sympathy for Iggy? Isn't she the real victim? Nick is having a hard time mentality, so he is not with the team, however, it's because he can't get over what someone, Dangelo, did to him, not what he did to Iggy.. Such double and warped standards..
Exactly! A cheating male should be equally vilified as a cheating female. I read one report that Nick was pulled due to declining performance on the court, and this latest drama was the last straw.
Those with double standards are hypocrites. It's the blame game, never the accountability game. Nick should say, forget what Dangelo did, I was wrong for what I did. I must accept the responsibility for my actions, and stop blaming someone, for putting my actions, out there! All those calling Kehlani a hoe, I guarantee, they are cheaters themselves.
That is what really irks me.
So many people really don't want to take any personal responsibility for their actions.
You know what my BFF said about those that get a kick out of throwing stones.
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reddgirl64
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Apr 5 2016, 11:57 AM
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- Doctor Magnus Warlock
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- reddgirl64
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Look no further than this.. http://hollywoodlife.com/2016/03/30/nick-young-cheated-iggy-azalea-dangelo-russell-leaked-video/The villian is Dangelo, whereas Nick is seen as a victim. Not a cheater, but as someone who's been betrayed. Where's the sympathy for Iggy? Isn't she the real victim? Nick is having a hard time mentality, so he is not with the team, however, it's because he can't get over what someone, Dangelo, did to him, not what he did to Iggy.. Such double and warped standards..
Exactly! A cheating male should be equally vilified as a cheating female. I read one report that Nick was pulled due to declining performance on the court, and this latest drama was the last straw.
Those with double standards are hypocrites. It's the blame game, never the accountability game. Nick should say, forget what Dangelo did, I was wrong for what I did. I must accept the responsibility for my actions, and stop blaming someone, for putting my actions, out there! All those calling Kehlani a hoe, I guarantee, they are cheaters themselves.
That is what really irks me. So many people really don't want to take any personal responsibility for their actions. You know what my BFF said about those that get a kick out of throwing stones.
The same is with Lamar Odom. (I saw you rehashed the thread)
I know Khloe wants to save him, but he is on a destructive path. The Kardashians are his only support (his family is so broken), and if they give up on him, who does he have left?
The former players and union will only do so much. Odom needs to grow up and stop being selfish. I truly believe addicts are the most selfish people on earth. All they think about is their wants. He has children, who on earth does he think is being a parent, in his absence?
He's putting his desire and weakness for drugs over his duties as a parent. If he was a woman, I wonder what the 'responses' would be? How she doesn't love her kids, she's a bad parent, etc..
However, none of that rhetoric is applied to Odom..
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Doctor Magnus Warlock
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Apr 5 2016, 12:21 PM
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I confess, I am guilty of this double standard, with Lamar as an example.
I have openly supported him because I watched much of his career in Los Angeles.
I actually did post about Odom not thinking about his kids when he went to that brothel. His kids have to deal with the fallout of his actions daily. His failings should not be their burden.
I have looked at Khloe as playing some part in Odom's downward spiral, but he ultimately chose to make every bad decision.
A lot of people look at Lamar in a favorable light, and want a happy ending for him, despite his self-destructive tendencies. I am in that group.
I do think public sentiment would be different if Lamar's actions were committed by a female celebrity.
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