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| Topic Started: Oct 21 2015, 08:23 PM (344 Views) | |
| Moon Pie | Oct 21 2015, 08:23 PM Post #1 |
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My little girl is, complicated. She's highly opinionated and a natural born "know it all" who will inform anyone they are wrong and she's (obviously) right! It's a struggle between her and my boy who tries so hard to logically explain how she's misinformed on many subjects. While the topics are insignificant to adults, as it's a children's world, it is very serious to my two little ones! Does anyone have any input on how to: Help my boy not take his little sister so seriously Help my little girl learn she doesn't have the final answer or opinion on all topics Help us adults intervene in these sibling "conversations" to help let them learn & grow ??? |
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| VoiceofReason | Oct 21 2015, 08:40 PM Post #2 |
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Hmm. Sounds like there may be a know-it-all in the home that she's copying. 😊 Or, it could be how things are discussed in the home from her perspective. I try to set a good example. When my husband and I disagree, we are very aware that the kids are watching and listening, so small disagreements are handled so as to give the kids examples of waiting your turn and being a good listener. If she's young, all kinds of games that teach waiting your turn, being a good sport, and those sorts of things, being very explicit too, might help. For example when someone is modeling a conversation for her or with her, you might explicitly state "ok, now it's your turn to talk". Holding a thing like a stuffed toy, or ball, to show that it is that person's turn to speak (the balls on your court, haha) could help as well since its a visual que. |
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| Can't Help It | Oct 22 2015, 09:11 PM Post #3 |
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I agree with you, but I'd like to add; Talking to both of them about a given subject IMO works best. My daughter used to be just like MP's little one...just so damn busy meddling with the brothers and "explaining" how things should be done etc. At that point I would intervene and start asking questions...which amounted to putting the responsibility back on them and not me to find a solution. It was not a pretty picture at first because she didn't want any part of listening to them she had to have the last say. At first she wasn't open to compromising but learned after a few mishaps she was going to have to deal with the real world and her brothers were not it. My main reason for doing it this way was because I knew she felt outnumbered with 2 big brothers and a baby brother. She had to prove her pecking order had meaning, so she slammed them constantly until we had several pow-wow's,(come together meetings) she slowly began to understand that they too had some worthy input and it gave them all something to think about in terms of getting along outside of the home. They must be challenged by an adult.....a sibling doesn't carry much weight in "debates". |
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| VoiceofReason | Oct 23 2015, 09:49 PM Post #4 |
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| VoiceofReason | Oct 23 2015, 09:58 PM Post #5 |
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| Plus 1 | Oct 24 2015, 09:18 AM Post #6 |
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This is sad. She heard this from someone else. |
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| Plus 1 | Oct 24 2015, 09:19 AM Post #7 |
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Moon pie, can you give us an example of how your daughter responds?
Edited by Plus 1, Oct 24 2015, 09:31 AM.
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| VoiceofReason | Oct 24 2015, 10:20 AM Post #8 |
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Little ones at this age tend to be like little Parrots. They copy us, it's normal. You hear it in the video of the boy and his mom, too, he's clearly copying her. And she's engaging him which is equivalent to practice for him. Edited by VoiceofReason, Oct 24 2015, 10:21 AM.
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| Moon Pie | Oct 25 2015, 10:52 AM Post #9 |
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Can't Help It and VOR, I agree with you both! Plus 1 here is the most recent experience- My boy learned the basic food groups at school and was excited to share his new knowledge at that night's dinner table. My know it all girl pipes up expressing that Dog Food was also included! My boy argued with her that was not one of the groups, so back and forth they argue about it. Their father tried to explain her brother was right and she gets offended saying that the dog EATS it so it's food! In her "baby logic" she's connecting dots and learning how to view her world but it's her continual insistence she's right, no matter what anyone tries to tell her! |
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| VoiceofReason | Oct 25 2015, 11:19 AM Post #10 |
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I think I love that little girl!! You're going to have to give her to me. I wouldn't change a thing because she is thinking and drawing conclusions. It's interesting to me that Dad tried to tell her your son is "right". That, to me, is putting the focus on who's right and who's wrong. I don't think that's really necessary. I would rather explore her idea, and question her and comment on her good job of thinking about it and drawing some conclusions. I would then probably talk about how there may be a food pyramid for dogs/dog food, and that it's different than people/people food. At a different time, I might even get the dog food, put a little on a saucer, and have her examine it; ask her if it smells good to eat, look good to eat? What about texture? I would focus on the differences - perhaps that dogs like how that dog food smells, people don't. People food is different and so on. I wouldn't focus on right or wrong but focus on giving her the opportunity to examine her hypothesis. This exploration is also another way to discuss what your son learned. I love her. She's a good thinker! Edited by VoiceofReason, Oct 25 2015, 02:43 PM.
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