Should kids get an Allowance?

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Should kids get an Allowance?
Topic Started: Oct 17 2015, 02:13 PM (506 Views)
VoiceofReason	Oct 17 2015, 11:09 PM Post #11
Posts: 14,809 Group: Members Member #1,071 Joined: Aug 27, 2011	Snidely Whiplash Oct 17 2015, 09:22 PM VoiceofReason Oct 17 2015, 06:42 PM Snidely Whiplash Oct 17 2015, 04:02 PM I do allowance. A general amount plus additional based on chores or exceptional performance at school. Does it help or hurt. I like to think it helps in the long run but that probably depends on the particular child. Hmm... A general amount Plus extra based on chores And extra for good grades. I'll think about that. I'm thinking the general amount will be 0. Extras based on doing a great job on chores. And I am willing to pay a premium for A's. More than an A, that's generally expected. Extra credit type of work and commitment along with good citizenship. I'll pay for A's - she works hard for them. 😊 Citizenship - I expect Outstanding and that's that. Thanks for the input, Your [Disco] Majesty. Edited by VoiceofReason, Oct 18 2015, 10:49 AM.



VoiceofReason	Oct 18 2015, 10:47 AM Post #12
Posts: 14,809 Group: Members Member #1,071 Joined: Aug 27, 2011	Ether Oct 17 2015, 08:21 PM Can't Help It Oct 17 2015, 07:49 PM I agree with Snide, my kids except for the youngest one were rather frugal with their allowances. When the oldest one started driving I gave him extra to help on gas but their dad said I was spoiling him so I left it up to him to decide how to handle it....when he didn't I made a deal with my son, to pay half of his insurance premium and I would provide X$ in gas money...if he ran it all out he walked. So he got a part-time job after football season. We won't talk about the youngest one. Once in started playing basketball and got a partite job that's when that allowance started kicking in. I had to pay for all my uniforms and equipment. Gas, books etc. My mom wanted me to be responsible. I learned a lot my Junior year So, Ether, are you saying your mom continued your allowance while you had a part-time job? Edited by VoiceofReason, Oct 18 2015, 10:49 AM.



VoiceofReason	Oct 18 2015, 10:53 AM Post #13
Posts: 14,809 Group: Members Member #1,071 Joined: Aug 27, 2011	I was never given an allowance of any type, and I didn't ask for anything because I believed money was tight. That's partly why this allowance concept is really foreign to me. When I was working a part-time job and taking the train long distances at night, my parents surprised me with a used car and said they would pay the insurance only, stressing that maintenance costs needed to be expected. I just realized now that they bought the car because I was working nights and just doing whatever I needed to do. And at the same time, they taught me to be responsible and learn to budget for unexpected expenses. Edited by VoiceofReason, Oct 18 2015, 10:59 AM.



cisslybee2012	Oct 18 2015, 04:41 PM Post #14
The REBEL Posts: 46,231 Group: Members Member #556 Joined: Jun 21, 2010	VoiceofReason Oct 17 2015, 02:13 PM I'm thinking about it. I want to come up with an Allowance program for my pre-teen. My oldest never had an allowance - he is a natural saver. He saved all of his birthday monies, and whenever he wanted to buy something, he'd offer to do extra chores to earn a few bucks. Yay. But my youngest is not like that at all. She will spend her first and last cent on a whim. Generally, I think kids should do chores as part of their responsibilities to the family, and should not "get paid" for that. Kids also need to earn and learn the value of a dollar. What are your ideas and thoughts? You are right that children shouldn't be paid to do chores in the house. But I think that an allowance is an important development tool for kids if you can afford it. And if you can, then make it clear why you're giving the allowance. Because you love them very much and are proud of them. That although you have a busy schedule to maintain, they are not forgotten for a minute and are always on your mind. My dad gave me a weekly allowance, which was a powerful love and development seed for me. My mother was so very inconsiderate and said no to everything like click whirr. But my dad was very understanding and giving which made me feel like I count. Though my mother was the chief protector of the family. Where she lacked in sharing and expressing caring she made up for in protecting me. She always saw that no physical harm or wrongdoing came to her family. Which too was a powerful development seed for me. Edited by cisslybee2012, Oct 18 2015, 04:58 PM.



VoiceofReason	Oct 19 2015, 12:35 AM Post #15
Posts: 14,809 Group: Members Member #1,071 Joined: Aug 27, 2011	cisslybee2012 Oct 18 2015, 04:41 PM VoiceofReason Oct 17 2015, 02:13 PM I'm thinking about it. I want to come up with an Allowance program for my pre-teen. My oldest never had an allowance - he is a natural saver. He saved all of his birthday monies, and whenever he wanted to buy something, he'd offer to do extra chores to earn a few bucks. Yay. But my youngest is not like that at all. She will spend her first and last cent on a whim. Generally, I think kids should do chores as part of their responsibilities to the family, and should not "get paid" for that. Kids also need to earn and learn the value of a dollar. What are your ideas and thoughts? You are right that children shouldn't be paid to do chores in the house. But I think that an allowance is an important development tool for kids if you can afford it. And if you can, then make it clear why you're giving the allowance. Because you love them very much and are proud of them. That although you have a busy schedule to maintain, they are not forgotten for a minute and are always on your mind. My dad gave me a weekly allowance, which was a powerful love and development seed for me. My mother was so very inconsiderate and said no to everything like click whirr. But my dad was very understanding and giving which made me feel like I count. Though my mother was the chief protector of the family. Where she lacked in sharing and expressing caring she made up for in protecting me. She always saw that no physical harm or wrongdoing came to her family. Which too was a powerful development seed for me. So it was more like Snidely's, a general amount. Was it adjusted if you had a bad attitude or was disrespectful in some way?



Rick1	Oct 19 2015, 08:52 AM Post #16
Posts: 16,099 Group: Members Member #186 Joined: Dec 7, 2009	Since most kids are walking around with cell phones they aren't paying for, that is their allowance. That is enough. They can save their coins in a jar and have money that way. Kids today are already receiving too much as it is. Edited by Rick1, Oct 19 2015, 09:34 AM.



kennyinbmore	Oct 19 2015, 08:59 AM Post #17
Posts: 18,350 Group: Members Member #452 Joined: Mar 30, 2010	I never did the allowance thing. You want something? Bring me home some A's and B's. I refuse to pay my children to do chores they should be doing anyway.



VoiceofReason	Oct 19 2015, 09:52 AM Post #18
Posts: 14,809 Group: Members Member #1,071 Joined: Aug 27, 2011	Rick1 Oct 19 2015, 08:52 AM Since most kids are walking around with cell phones they aren't paying for, that is their allowance. That is enough. They can save their coins in a jar and have money that way. Kids today are already receiving too much as it is. That's true, Rick. I've told my kids they will have a phone when they can pay for a phone. My 12 year old doesn't have one (and I hear about it from her at least once a week). But she constantly asks for things so I want to find a way for her to "pay" for her stuff. It's really just moving the money from my pocket to hers, but having limited funds it's a feeling she needs to get to know. And, don't you have a step-daughter, Rick? Edited by VoiceofReason, Oct 19 2015, 09:55 AM.



VoiceofReason	Oct 19 2015, 09:54 AM Post #19
Posts: 14,809 Group: Members Member #1,071 Joined: Aug 27, 2011	kennyinbmore Oct 19 2015, 08:59 AM I never did the allowance thing. You want something? Bring me home some A's and B's. I refuse to pay my children to do chores they should be doing anyway. Ditto, ditto. I wonder if my son was so easy because of his gender. He didn't want the latest clothes and fingernail polish.



Rick1	Oct 19 2015, 10:12 AM Post #20
Posts: 16,099 Group: Members Member #186 Joined: Dec 7, 2009	VoiceofReason Oct 19 2015, 09:52 AM Rick1 Oct 19 2015, 08:52 AM Since most kids are walking around with cell phones they aren't paying for, that is their allowance. That is enough. They can save their coins in a jar and have money that way. Kids today are already receiving too much as it is. That's true, Rick. I've told my kids they will have a phone when they can pay for a phone. My 12 year old doesn't have one (and I hear about it from her at least once a week). But she constantly asks for things so I want to find a way for her to "pay" for her stuff. It's really just moving the money from my pocket to hers, but having limited funds it's a feeling she needs to get to know. And, don't you have a step-daughter, Rick? I have a 18 y/o step son. My daughter is 24.



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