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You left the Abuser, Now What?
Topic Started: Aug 16 2015, 03:04 PM (574 Views)
U Thant
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Doctor Saul Santiago
Aug 16 2015, 05:52 PM

immaturity
Noper.

You didn't find it immature when you put that niggu, D, personal info online
You didn't find it immature when you would privately beg, Sari, to stop posting to me----while being dumb enough to think she would not mention it to me.
You didn't find it immature when you would join in to confrontations I had with LadyBug when she told galactic lies on me about 'The Knockout Game' even though I never ever said a word to you---you still joined in to aid in shyt-starting antics toward me.
You didn't find it immature when you took my words out of, context, in quote after quote after quote for months now.

So don't use your expert-hypocrisy to whine and cry and scream immature game, now, you deceitful and racist White HISP cop.
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You can read the whole article following the link below. I decided to just post the options for women (and men) looking to get out of an abusive situation.

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Domestic Violence Shelters or Refuges

All abused women should know about Domestic Violence Shelters because they can be life savers. A Domestic Violence Shelter (sometimes also called a Women's Shelter or Refuge) is a place where you can go, usually along with your children, and stay in safety when you need to escape an abusive relationship. All basic needs are catered for in a shelter, with food, a place to sleep and keep your belongings and childcare offered. Shelters are not intended to be a permanent or long term answer, but a stepping stone on the way to an independent, safer life. They vary in the extra services they can offer, but all should be able to put you in touch with the right people and organisations you need to establish a new life. Services that should be available include:

- Counselling

- Legal advice

- Support groups

- Counselling and support for children

- Employment and training programmes to help you find work

- Health services

- Educational opportunities

- Financial assistance

Your rights and privacy

A Domestic Violence Shelter may ask for your name, but you do not have to give your real name and details. If the shelter you go to is in your locality, giving a false name may help to prevent your ex partner from being able to trace you. Shelters usually do try to keep their location secret, and also do their best to protect the privacy of their residents, but taking your own extra safety measures can be advisable.

Staying safe after you have left an abusive partner

Leaving an abusive partner is not always the end of the story. It's important to take precautionary measures to keep yourself safe even after you have left, especially in the early days. Here's what you can do to stay safe:

- Move to a new town or area if at all possible. It isn't easy, moving away from family and friends, but getting away from your partner and staying safe is paramount.

- Change your children's schools. Your ex partner will always have a way of finding you and you children if he knows where they go to school. He may turn up and try to catch you as you collect or drop off the children, or he may even try to snatch them himself. If you do have to keep the children at their old schools, make sure that the staff know the situation and understand that they must only allow the children to leave with you or a person who is nominated by you in person.

- When you set up a new home, get an unlisted phone number.

- Use a PO Box number for mail rather than your own name and address.

- Change your bank, making sure that you have cancelled all the old accounts that your partner shared or knew of.

- Change your routines. Remember that your partner knew you very well, and is aware of the route you take to work, where you socialise and the times that you usually come and go from the house. If you are staying in your old locality, it is even more important to alter these routines.

- Change where you shop. Even going to the supermarket can be a problem if your partner knows where you habitually shop. Find a different supermarket, and shop at different times to avoid his finding you through this.

- Always carry a cell phone that is ready to use. Never let your cell phone run out of charge or account balance so that you can call for help should your ex partner approach you. Programme in important numbers so you can call quickly, and remember that if you are in danger you can call 911 (US) or 999 (UK).

Restraining Orders

Another thing that you can do to protect yourself from a violent ex partner is to take out a restraining order on him. A Domestic Violence Helpline or Shelter should be able to put you in touch with a member of a legal team who can advise you on this. However, it's also important to understand that a restraining order can only be acted upon if it is violated and reported. Also, restraining orders may be enforced differently in different localities. Some are quick to make an arrest, but others may simply issue a caution, leaving you still vulnerable.

If you live in the US, you can find out how a restraining order will work in your neighbourhood by calling 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or get in touch with your nearest Domestic Violence Coalition. If you live in the UK (where several different types of protective orders may be used), more information about restraining orders can be obtained from the Women's Aid organisation. Telephone 0117 944 4411 or email incomprehensibility. (NB: The foregoing contacts are for obtaining information, not for emergency use. If you need urgent help in the UK, call 0808 200 247.

http://www.womensaid.org.uk/domestic-violence-survivors-handbook.asp?section=000100010008000100330002

Recovering from abuse and moving on

It isn't easy, recovering from an abusive relationship, but with the right help and support you can do it. Once you have followed the steps outlined above and set up your new life, you are ready to heal the scars, both mental and physical, and move forwards.

It is important not to assume that you can recover too quickly, however. Abuse can leave very deep emotional scars that stay long after the physical ones have healed. Make the most of your opportunities to have counselling or therapy, and be sure to attend support groups where possible. Keep in touch with supportive friends and family members too, as their help can be invaluable as you try to put the past behind you. Don't rush into new relationships. Your judgement can be clouded by the trauma of what you have been through, and you need time to rediscover yourself and address your relationship needs before you become involved with a new man. Too many women plunge straight from one disastrous, abusive relationship into another if they don't take time to heal first.

Resources
In an emergency you can call the number for the emergency services in your country. In the US it is 911, in the UK it is 999.

The following resources can be of help at various stages of dealing with an abusive relationship.

US: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE)

UK: Women's Aid: 0808 200 247.

Canada: National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-363-9010

Australia: 1800RESPECT 1800-737-732

Worldwide: Find your nearest services on http://www.hotpeachpages.net/

You can also find out more about local women's shelters :

US: Womenslaw: http://www.womenslaw.org/gethelp_type.php?type_name=State%20and%20Local%20Programs

UK: Women's Aid : http://www.womensaid.org.uk/domestic-violence-survivors-handbook.asp?section=000100010008000100330002

NOTE for male victims of domestic abuse:

although this article is aimed at helping women victims of abuse, it is recognised that this is not an exclusively female issue. Men too can be victims of abuse. If you are a male victim, the following resources are for you:

In the US and Canada:

The Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women @ http://dahmw.org/
In the UK:

Mankind @ http://www.mankind.org.uk/
In Australia:

One in Three @ http://www.oneinthree.com.au/



http://leavingabuse.com/domestic_abuse/help-for-abused-and-battered-women.html
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Aug 16 2015, 06:00 PM
Doctor Saul Santiago
Aug 16 2015, 05:52 PM

immaturity
Noper.

You didn't find it immature when you put that niggu, D, personal info online
You didn't find it immature when you would privately beg, Sari, to stop posting to me----while being dumb enough to think she would not mention it to me.
You didn't find it immature when you would join in to confrontations I had with LadyBug when she told galactic lies on me about 'The Knockout Game' even though I never ever said a word to you---you still joined in to aid in shyt-starting antics toward me.
You didn't find it immature when you took my words out of, context, in quote after quote after quote for months now.

So don't use your expert-hypocrisy to whine and cry and scream immature game, now, you deceitful and racist White HISP cop.
Look at all that old baggage you brought to a thread about women seeking to move on from abusive relationships.

Look man-child, you can always man-up, report my racism, and other alleged wrongdoings to the mass-media, and other outlets.

If your evidence is so on point, it should not take over two years to see me face true justice.

You are carrying on like a helpless pre-teen, hoping that someone more masculine & resourceful than you will pick up the baton that is yours alone to carry.

No, you started this path, you need to man-up, and see it through.

Going in circles in this wimpy fashion only makes you look even more ineffective.
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Aug 16 2015, 06:11 PM
Doctor Saul Santiago
Aug 16 2015, 05:14 PM
One reason chicks don't find you appealing is
And I get to find solace in knowing the 4 reasons you just posted that are 1)only the racist chics who hate Black men, find you appealing. And 2)it hurts your heart to know in fact that those saaaame racist chics came your way after I told them to beat it in 2012-'13 once they took racism's Oath yepper back in the days when they used to show me the saaaaame ________ which they now show you.

Yepper back in the days 4)when those saaaame racist chics saw a real pic of me and got very excited in this forum, whereas you cannot ever make such a claim about when they saw a pic of you.







Now, go in the corner and BooHooHoo over that fact which will hurt you, to swallow.
Yes, I am the sole focus of your e-existence.

You allowing me to have this much power over you is a turn-off to women.

But you already knew that.
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Doctor Saul Santiago
Aug 16 2015, 05:14 PM
One reason chicks don't find you appealing is
And I get to find solace in knowing the 4 reasons you just posted that are 1)only the racist chics who hate Black men, find you appealing. And 2)it hurts your heart to know in fact that those saaaame racist chics came your way after 3)I told them to beat it in 2012-'13 once they took racism's Oath yepper back in the days when they used to show me the saaaaame ________ which they show to you now.

Yepper back in the days 4)when those saaaame racist chics saw a real pic of me and got very excited in this forum, whereas you cannot ever make such a claim about when they saw a pic of you.







Now, go. Find a corner and BooHooHoo over those facts which will hurt you, to swallow.
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Doctor Saul Santiago
Aug 16 2015, 06:13 PM
You allowing me to have this much power over you is a turn-off to women.
Any woman who engages you and refuses to challenge you about how you to login and be this much of a, stealth-racist, toward darkskinned-Blacks is a woman who is ineligible to turn me on. So your rant is n/a to me.

And the rest of the women outside of those, have no problem with me here.

And the women you reference are also women who deserve the same treatment which you get from me. And so, I give it to them. Ask Ciss ask reddgirl ask z ask Truthie. They know.


Edited by U Thant, Aug 16 2015, 06:20 PM.
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Doctor Saul Santiago
Aug 16 2015, 05:25 PM
My sister-in-law's cousin told me before she got married she was going to keep her own separate bank account just for herself. She did that just in case things did not work out with her mate.

Smart move, I say.
Agreed. :)
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Aug 16 2015, 06:13 PM
Doctor Saul Santiago
Aug 16 2015, 05:14 PM
One reason chicks don't find you appealing is
And I get to find solace in knowing the 4 reasons you just posted that are 1)only the racist chics who hate Black men, find you appealing. And 2)it hurts your heart to know in fact that those saaaame racist chics came your way after 3)I told them to beat it in 2012-'13 once they took racism's Oath yepper back in the days when they used to show me the saaaaame ________ which they show to you now.

Yepper back in the days 4)when those saaaame racist chics saw a real pic of me and got very excited in this forum, whereas you cannot ever make such a claim about when they saw a pic of you.







Now, go. Find a corner and BooHooHoo over those facts which will hurt you, to swallow.
More spamming from the man-child.

If you were confident in this post, you would only need to post it.......once.

You must have quite the history with being ignored.

Ken allows you to spam to your little heart out here.

Which somewhat explains why you would rather live life on a message board, instead of face to face with real people.
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Aug 16 2015, 06:18 PM
Doctor Saul Santiago
Aug 16 2015, 06:13 PM
You allowing me to have this much power over you is a turn-off to women.
Any woman who engages you and refuses to challenge you about how you to login and be this much of a, stealth-racist, toward darkskinned-Blacks is a woman who is ineligible to turn me on. So your rant is n/a to me.

And the rest of the women outside of those, have no problem with me here.

And the women you reference are also women who deserve the same treatment which you get from me. And so, I give it to them. Ask Ciss ask reddgirl ask z ask Truthie. They know.


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Aug 16 2015, 06:18 PM
Doctor Saul Santiago
Aug 16 2015, 06:13 PM
You allowing me to have this much power over you is a turn-off to women.
Any woman who engages you and refuses to challenge you about how you to login and be this much of a, stealth-racist, toward darkskinned-Blacks is a woman who is ineligible to turn me on. So your rant is n/a to me.

And the rest of the women outside of those, have no problem with me here.

And the women you reference are also women who deserve the same treatment which you get from me. And so, I give it to them. Ask Ciss ask reddgirl ask z ask Truthie. They know.


As usual, you show the world why I am the sole focus of your e-existence.

So now I am stealth racist.

As all can see, instead of putting your people first by seeing face justice for my alleged racism, you want to go on & on about popularity.

Man-child.....your priorities are a joke.
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