Doctor Saul Santiago

Aug 21 2015, 10:05 AM

Ethos Logos Pathos

Aug 21 2015, 10:00 AM

As long as racism's cop-culture continues to, govern, then only a fellow racist will have no pain and no bitterness.

Racism certainly won't end with a grown male over 36 years of age blog-stalking, name-calling, & spreading lies on a message board.

Ethos Logos Pathos

Aug 21 2015, 10:10 AM

Doctor Saul Santiago

Aug 21 2015, 10:05 AM

Ethos Logos Pathos

Aug 21 2015, 10:00 AM

As long as racism's cop-culture continues to, govern, then only a fellow racist will have no pain and no bitterness.

Racism certainly won't end with a grown male over 36 years of age blog-stalking, name-calling, & spreading lies on a message board.

I agree. Nonetheless I have no problem with you choosing to use your, Life, to do those things you listed...although I am kind of irked that you chose a pro-Black website for carrying on in that way.


...anyhue...



Carry on pal.

Ethos Logos Pathos

Aug 21 2015, 11:31 AM

thx, I'm glad you approve of it and since I counted the commas then I'll be sure to post your quote here ... next time reddgirl uses far, far more commas in a discussion with you where you stayed silent/stay hush-hush about those commas---as a show of your wretched hypocrisy.

VoiceofReason

Aug 18 2015, 03:00 PM

Moon Pie

Aug 14 2015, 12:04 PM

How do you fight with your partner?

Very carefully.

The best thing that works for me, to keep issues from escalating, is proximity and touch.

It's hard to be argumentative when you're holding hands looking at each other.

Moon Pie

Aug 20 2015, 03:51 PM

VoiceofReason

Aug 20 2015, 02:46 PM

Moon Pie

Aug 20 2015, 12:57 PM

VoiceofReason

Aug 19 2015, 01:43 AM

The human touch is very powerful.

It may not be for everyone. But I think if you're not so wrapped up in trying to be right, but you really just want to "talk about it", touch helps to recall the bond a couple has.

Backbone is right. When the relationship is solid and healthy, the hand you hold holds only love for you.

Why you are arguing is important before trying to touch though!

The majority of the time, arguments seem to be misunderstandings. So touching can be a good thing.

Nah.

It's not WHAT you're arguing about that matters. It's HOW you argue that's important.

Folks argue vehemently about which freeway to use to get somewhere just like they argue about who did what to whom last summer. Neither "reason", in my opinion, is worth being disrespected nor worth being disrespectful. I hold the relationships I have in high regard. I love the people in my life too much to "argue" with them. We can disagree, my kids don't have to like my rules or recommendations and as long as they can discuss it respectfully, without name-calling, loud yelling, profanity or other vitriol, I will listen. Sometimes things are just emotional and a break is needed. When that happens, I like to decide on a time to....reconvene. And sometimes you're dealing with stuff or your loved one is dealing with stuff, and you've just got to deal with that on a different timetable.

I used to argue, curse like a sailor, threaten. It takes a lot of energy and it reaps no rewards.

You could council couples!

BGF

Aug 21 2015, 06:36 PM

Moon Pie

Aug 20 2015, 03:51 PM

VoiceofReason

Aug 20 2015, 02:46 PM

Moon Pie

Aug 20 2015, 12:57 PM

VoiceofReason

Aug 19 2015, 01:43 AM

The human touch is very powerful.

It may not be for everyone. But I think if you're not so wrapped up in trying to be right, but you really just want to "talk about it", touch helps to recall the bond a couple has.

Backbone is right. When the relationship is solid and healthy, the hand you hold holds only love for you.

Why you are arguing is important before trying to touch though!

The majority of the time, arguments seem to be misunderstandings. So touching can be a good thing.

Nah.

It's not WHAT you're arguing about that matters. It's HOW you argue that's important.

Folks argue vehemently about which freeway to use to get somewhere just like they argue about who did what to whom last summer. Neither "reason", in my opinion, is worth being disrespected nor worth being disrespectful. I hold the relationships I have in high regard. I love the people in my life too much to "argue" with them. We can disagree, my kids don't have to like my rules or recommendations and as long as they can discuss it respectfully, without name-calling, loud yelling, profanity or other vitriol, I will listen. Sometimes things are just emotional and a break is needed. When that happens, I like to decide on a time to....reconvene. And sometimes you're dealing with stuff or your loved one is dealing with stuff, and you've just got to deal with that on a different timetable.

I used to argue, curse like a sailor, threaten. It takes a lot of energy and it reaps no rewards.

You could council couples!

Here's a good idea that works 99% of the time. Go straight to the make-up sex we'll before the argument starts. You whip that mojo on your husband and anything you ask will be OK.