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Your Body: Fighting Fair in Relationships
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Topic Started: Aug 14 2015, 12:01 PM (1,135 Views)
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VoiceofReason
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Aug 20 2015, 02:46 PM
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- Moon Pie
- Aug 20 2015, 12:57 PM
- VoiceofReason
- Aug 19 2015, 01:43 AM
The human touch is very powerful.
It may not be for everyone. But I think if you're not so wrapped up in trying to be right, but you really just want to "talk about it", touch helps to recall the bond a couple has.
Backbone is right. When the relationship is solid and healthy, the hand you hold holds only love for you.
Why you are arguing is important before trying to touch though! The majority of the time, arguments seem to be misunderstandings. So touching can be a good thing. 
Nah. 
It's not WHAT you're arguing about that matters. It's HOW you argue that's important. 
Folks argue vehemently about which freeway to use to get somewhere just like they argue about who did what to whom last summer. Neither "reason", in my opinion, is worth being disrespected nor worth being disrespectful. I hold the relationships I have in high regard. I love the people in my life too much to "argue" with them. We can disagree, my kids don't have to like my rules or recommendations and as long as they can discuss it respectfully, without name-calling, loud yelling, profanity or other vitriol, I will listen. Sometimes things are just emotional and a break is needed. When that happens, I like to decide on a time to....reconvene. And sometimes you're dealing with stuff or your loved one is dealing with stuff, and you've just got to deal with that on a different timetable.
I used to argue, curse like a sailor, threaten. It takes a lot of energy and it reaps no rewards.
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Moon Pie
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Aug 20 2015, 03:51 PM
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- VoiceofReason
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- VoiceofReason
- Aug 19 2015, 01:43 AM
The human touch is very powerful.
It may not be for everyone. But I think if you're not so wrapped up in trying to be right, but you really just want to "talk about it", touch helps to recall the bond a couple has.
Backbone is right. When the relationship is solid and healthy, the hand you hold holds only love for you.
Why you are arguing is important before trying to touch though! The majority of the time, arguments seem to be misunderstandings. So touching can be a good thing.
Nah. It's not WHAT you're arguing about that matters. It's HOW you argue that's important. Folks argue vehemently about which freeway to use to get somewhere just like they argue about who did what to whom last summer. Neither "reason", in my opinion, is worth being disrespected nor worth being disrespectful. I hold the relationships I have in high regard. I love the people in my life too much to "argue" with them. We can disagree, my kids don't have to like my rules or recommendations and as long as they can discuss it respectfully, without name-calling, loud yelling, profanity or other vitriol, I will listen. Sometimes things are just emotional and a break is needed. When that happens, I like to decide on a time to....reconvene. And sometimes you're dealing with stuff or your loved one is dealing with stuff, and you've just got to deal with that on a different timetable. I used to argue, curse like a sailor, threaten. It takes a lot of energy and it reaps no rewards.
You could council couples!
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VoiceofReason
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Aug 20 2015, 09:13 PM
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Aw, thank you.
Your name fits you. You are a true sweetie.
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U Thant
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Aug 21 2015, 12:47 AM
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- Aug 16 2015, 10:48 PM
I might try your approach! Just, go invisable until the smoke clears! :-)
It might be a better approach to cease (recent) aid to a cliq with their bringing the, smoke, bcuz things will certainly clear up then.
Peace
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U Thant
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Aug 21 2015, 12:51 AM
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- Doctor Saul Santiago
- Aug 20 2015, 10:38 AM
- Ethos Logos Pathos
- Aug 20 2015, 10:24 AM
You meant, it is natural for racist cops to enter a calm state...when women who hate darkskinned-Blacks come grace you with their affection.
Women far & wide love my thrice-blessed, chocolate coated skin.
Noper.
You are a racist White HISP, cop, and women love your skin for that reason only...as its a default feature to yall's hatred of darkskinned-Blacks.
And, I like that about you and the racist women who align themselves with you. It helps me make yall easier to, identify, for 'real Blackfolk' who are readers of this website.
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Doctor Magnus Warlock
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Aug 21 2015, 09:53 AM
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- Doctor Saul Santiago
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- Aug 20 2015, 10:24 AM
You meant, it is natural for racist cops to enter a calm state...when women who hate darkskinned-Blacks come grace you with their affection.
Women far & wide love my thrice-blessed, chocolate coated skin.
Fuk'n A.. Word!!! Right on, brother!
I proudly present the Goddess of the Crimson Rapture.
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Doctor Magnus Warlock
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Aug 21 2015, 09:55 AM
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- Ethos Logos Pathos
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- Doctor Saul Santiago
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You meant, it is natural for racist cops to enter a calm state...when women who hate darkskinned-Blacks come grace you with their affection.
Women far & wide love my thrice-blessed, chocolate coated skin.
Noper. You are a racist White HISP, cop, and women love your skin for that reason only...as its a default feature to yall's hatred of darkskinned-Blacks. And, I like that about you and the racist women who align themselves with you. It helps me make yall easier to, identify, for 'real Blackfolk' who are readers of this website.
Perhaps one day, you will let go of all the pain & bitterness governs your ever move.
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U Thant
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Aug 21 2015, 10:00 AM
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As long as racism's cop-culture continues to, govern, then only a fellow racist will have no pain and no bitterness.
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VoiceofReason
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Aug 21 2015, 10:04 AM
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- Doctor Saul Santiago
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- reddgirl64
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- Doctor Saul Santiago
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- Ethos Logos Pathos
- Aug 20 2015, 10:24 AM
You meant, it is natural for racist cops to enter a calm state...when women who hate darkskinned-Blacks come grace you with their affection.
Women far & wide love my thrice-blessed, chocolate coated skin.
Fuk'n A.. Word!!! Right on, brother!
I proudly present the Goddess of the Crimson Rapture.
"Word"?
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Doctor Magnus Warlock
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Aug 21 2015, 10:05 AM
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- Ethos Logos Pathos
- Aug 21 2015, 10:00 AM
As long as racism's cop-culture continues to, govern, then only a fellow racist will have no pain and no bitterness.
Racism certainly won't end with a grown male over 36 years of age blog-stalking, name-calling, & spreading lies on a message board.
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