| Unique Connection; Would your child know you?? | |
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| Topic Started: Apr 22 2015, 11:57 AM (1,211 Views) | |
| reddgirl64 | Apr 22 2015, 11:57 AM Post #1 |
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The children, aged three to nine, touch the women’s faces, smell t-shirts, even nuzzle noses to identify their moms. And, in each case, the kids find the right person – sometimes even throwing their arms around mom before removing the blindfold. “These children know their mothers. They trust them, they trust the uniqueness of the relationship,” she says. “It is not a bond with just any nice person, it is a unique bond with that one mother. They know their 'feel.’” https://www.yahoo.com/parenting/remarkable-bond-between-mom-child-shown-in-117008972667.html Edited by reddgirl64, Apr 22 2015, 12:00 PM.
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| VoiceofReason | Apr 22 2015, 12:37 PM Post #2 |
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That's a cute way to honor moms on Mother's Day. |
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| VoiceofReason | Apr 22 2015, 12:41 PM Post #3 |
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"This is why children need a bond with at least one loving, responsive caregiver. They get to know that person (mother, father, grandparent or whoever is their main caregiver) and through that ‘knowing,’ they develop their sense of trust in who they are as a person and what they can expect from others and the world.” Edited by VoiceofReason, Apr 22 2015, 12:42 PM.
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| reddgirl64 | Apr 22 2015, 12:54 PM Post #4 |
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I concur. My oldest daughter adopted two boys. The youngest, she's had since he was a baby, the oldest was kinda, distant. He knew his bio mom, and missed her so... Last year, on Mother's Day, I took him shopping for his mom. He asked me if it was ok, if he could have two mommies... It still amazes me, even tho his bio mom, left him alone, he was in/out of foster care, he still remembers and loves her. He still has that bond, or connection to her. I think, most women would have given up, it's been tough. He had therapy for two years, and he's act's out sometimes, however, she says, would you have given up on your kids?? No one can say, she's not their mom! |
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| kennyinbmore | Apr 22 2015, 12:57 PM Post #5 |
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Exactly
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| cisslybee2012 | Apr 22 2015, 03:05 PM Post #6 |
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The REBEL
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Great thread Ms. Reddi!
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| cisslybee2012 | Apr 22 2015, 03:12 PM Post #7 |
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The REBEL
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Yes. Attachment is inevitable and essential to a baby. But in later years, a child becomes more concerned with their source, which is their birth mother. No matter how wonderful and thorough another caretaker to that child is, if the child knows that this person isn't their biological mother, it will not remove that child's concern with their source. This is evidenced by adopted children who was raised very well in a very loving home, but in later years tracked down their birth mother. |
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| cisslybee2012 | Apr 22 2015, 03:30 PM Post #8 |
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The REBEL
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It's not amazing. But simply that most people have yet to understand the link between child and mother. The strength of the bond between child and mother is supposed to be balanced or equal. But because we wind up growing detached from our maternal energies and do not fully understand this connection as a result, it turns out that the bond from the child to parent is stronger than that from the parent to child. This is evidenced by adults who would kill to protect their mother, even though their mother never displayed such protection of them. We tend to yearn and heart throb for a father, but in reality we go stark raving mad if someone endangers our mother, the same as we instinctively look only at the mother when harm comes to a child. And the thing is, our parents never displayed such a protective instinct for us when we were children. But we have that instinct for them. And we pass this down to generations, where that maternal instinct is strong on parents but weak on children. But you see, maternal energies are energies that have to go somewhere the same as every other type of energy. So if it is not directed where it belongs, which is on children, then it goes someplace else, and where it goes is to men. As in woman is made as man's helpmate and men comes first with women. But nevertheless, despite all of the psychological mix up and confusion with the partiality to males and fathers, it's illusion, because we still go stark mad if anyone endangers our mother. And we most of all fail to recognize a boy's need for his mother. We tend to think that a father is what a boy need, and we are blind to how acutely a boy needs his mother and how his inner world is shattered without her. There's many distinctive characteristics in adult males linking to it. Edited by cisslybee2012, Apr 22 2015, 04:07 PM.
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| negroplease | Apr 22 2015, 10:14 PM Post #9 |
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Love! So cute |
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| U Thant | Apr 23 2015, 06:05 AM Post #10 |
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a sorryAZZ Caucasoid woman abandons her kid, and you call it "cute" and "love" ...but I bet you don't dare call it that whenever it's time to talk greezee about absent Black dads, eh? ...lol... Your sorryAZZ bytches must be out of yall's rabid, minds, if yall think you're going to peacefully turn this website into your own little St. Patrick's Day Irish Pub. racist, White bytches. |
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