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Why this black man hasn't dated since 1998
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Topic Started: Nov 9 2014, 07:13 PM (3,375 Views)
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Marcus
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Nov 12 2014, 03:11 PM
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I haven't dated in years myself because of my bad experiences with black women. My problem wasn't money, my problem was I was dating black women that I thought were good honest women and they turned out to be cheaters. Some black women can burn you out and turn you off completely with dating.
Brother, you're posting as a defeated man, stop that. The excuse making and complacency in your post is not only pitiful, and if other Brothers aren't feeling this post, imagine how unattractive this is to women? Of most of the defeatist posts you render here, this by far takes the crown. A lot of young Brothers these days don't have Fathers, Uncles,the Brother that owns the Corner Store, etc., to teach them the game and hip them to what women are about at an early age. This is why I giggle sometimes at what cats on here post about women(i.e. "Black Women are Getting Worse with Tattoos", "Black Women Don't Like Nice Guys"). While you were posting all of that, you could've been out in the real world meeting real women. A man, especially a Black man, should always be achievement minded and always seek to better himself/his situation. You do realize American Black women aren't the only women on the face of the planet right? Or, your mind got tricked into that old, "I must stay loyal to Black women to experience Black power", type dogma? From your post, "some women burn you out and turn you off completely from dating". Dude, that's not only tragic, cynical and sorry for a man to post something sentiment like that, but that shows cats aren't prepared for life, because life is about ups and downs, triumphs and tragedies,mistakes and missteps. You can blame someone for knocking you down, but you can only blame yourself if you refuse to get back up. Stop embracing victimhood.
I'm not posting as a defeated man, I'm being honest about the bad relationships that I've been in with black women. Should I lie and say that I've been in good relationships with black women that were faithful to me?
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Nov 12 2014, 04:00 PM
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I haven't dated in years myself because of my bad experiences with black women. My problem wasn't money, my problem was I was dating black women that I thought were good honest women and they turned out to be cheaters. Some black women can burn you out and turn you off completely with dating.
Brother, you're posting as a defeated man, stop that. The excuse making and complacency in your post is not only pitiful, and if other Brothers aren't feeling this post, imagine how unattractive this is to women? Of most of the defeatist posts you render here, this by far takes the crown. A lot of young Brothers these days don't have Fathers, Uncles,the Brother that owns the Corner Store, etc., to teach them the game and hip them to what women are about at an early age. This is why I giggle sometimes at what cats on here post about women(i.e. "Black Women are Getting Worse with Tattoos", "Black Women Don't Like Nice Guys"). While you were posting all of that, you could've been out in the real world meeting real women. A man, especially a Black man, should always be achievement minded and always seek to better himself/his situation. You do realize American Black women aren't the only women on the face of the planet right? Or, your mind got tricked into that old, "I must stay loyal to Black women to experience Black power", type dogma? From your post, "some women burn you out and turn you off completely from dating". Dude, that's not only tragic, cynical and sorry for a man to post something sentiment like that, but that shows cats aren't prepared for life, because life is about ups and downs, triumphs and tragedies,mistakes and missteps. You can blame someone for knocking you down, but you can only blame yourself if you refuse to get back up. Stop embracing victimhood.
I'm not posting as a defeated man, I'm being honest about the bad relationships that I've been in with black women. Should I lie and say that I've been in good relationships with black women that were faithful to me?
Not that I thought you would but you didn't understand a word the man typed
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Nov 12 2014, 04:46 PM
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Peace Brother,
My words weren't intended to cause harm to Marcus. I just tire of seeing Brother accept defeat/accept one lot in life.
That is indeed some cool Brotherly Love, my friend, But when you use the same words that the Cauca-cliq use onto him...what are you really seeking to accomplish? Last thing we need to read is you joining in on the culture of White-racism which the cliq and their cop brings here.
Peace,
I can never be an accomplice to racism, and I don't embrace being a victim to it either. I just believe in self-reliance totally, i.e. what Booker T. Washington championed, Marcus Mosiah Garvey championed and what the Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad championed. No man rules your destiny, you do. Sure, I will concede in that we didn't choose to have systematic, plutocratic racism happen and continue to happen to us, but we have the choice of whether we want it to continue to hold us back.
I reflect much on our greatness as people, because I know we've descended from a mighty people and can ascend to greatness once more, once we stop giving another race that much power.
As an example, it's like a Brother who has three kids. He just lost his job for whatever reason. His three children at home are starving. Can he realistically look into their eyes and tell them that the reason they're starving is because of "white supremacy/racism"? No, a man will not make those types of excuses nor let such events set the agenda for him. He's going to do what's necessary to feed his kids/tribe.
At what point do we stop crediting another race so much and realize our people need to step their game up because we're the ones f1cking up now?
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Akachi
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Nov 12 2014, 04:52 PM
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I haven't dated in years myself because of my bad experiences with black women. My problem wasn't money, my problem was I was dating black women that I thought were good honest women and they turned out to be cheaters. Some black women can burn you out and turn you off completely with dating.
Brother, you're posting as a defeated man, stop that. The excuse making and complacency in your post is not only pitiful, and if other Brothers aren't feeling this post, imagine how unattractive this is to women? Of most of the defeatist posts you render here, this by far takes the crown. A lot of young Brothers these days don't have Fathers, Uncles,the Brother that owns the Corner Store, etc., to teach them the game and hip them to what women are about at an early age. This is why I giggle sometimes at what cats on here post about women(i.e. "Black Women are Getting Worse with Tattoos", "Black Women Don't Like Nice Guys"). While you were posting all of that, you could've been out in the real world meeting real women. A man, especially a Black man, should always be achievement minded and always seek to better himself/his situation. You do realize American Black women aren't the only women on the face of the planet right? Or, your mind got tricked into that old, "I must stay loyal to Black women to experience Black power", type dogma? From your post, "some women burn you out and turn you off completely from dating". Dude, that's not only tragic, cynical and sorry for a man to post something sentiment like that, but that shows cats aren't prepared for life, because life is about ups and downs, triumphs and tragedies,mistakes and missteps. You can blame someone for knocking you down, but you can only blame yourself if you refuse to get back up. Stop embracing victimhood.
I'm not posting as a defeated man, I'm being honest about the bad relationships that I've been in with black women. Should I lie and say that I've been in good relationships with black women that were faithful to me?
Nobody can chide you for your honesty. Your experiences are......indeed your experiences. However, is the solution, as you're doing, to cut off interaction with women all together? Sorry man, but as long as this planet exists, men and women are going to seek companionship with one another. You just have to find out what and who works for you.
Learn how to cultivate your inner Alpha male. Learn the right game that attracts females you like. Take time to improve yourself. If you think you've only seen beautiful women in America, I would encourage you to obtain a passport then you can see what beautiful women truly are and how men are truly supposed to interact with women.
Network, gain international contacts for your business endeavors. Now those are solutions that cause one to active. All that sitting around bashing Black women only keeps you passive and hiding in the basement. Put your life into motion today, or else you'll be stuck in jack-off land or Stroke-Yourself-Ville forever. The choice is yours.
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Nov 12 2014, 05:36 PM
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Peace,
I can never be an accomplice to racism, and I don't embrace being a victim to it either. I just believe in self-reliance totally, i.e. what Booker T. Washington championed, Marcus Mosiah Garvey championed and what the Most Honorable Elijah Muhammad championed. No man rules your destiny, you do. Sure, I will concede in that we didn't choose to have systematic, plutocratic racism happen and continue to happen to us, but we have the choice of whether we want it to continue to hold us back.
I reflect much on our greatness as people, because I know we've descended from a mighty people and can ascend to greatness once more, once we stop giving another race that much power.
As an example, it's like a Brother who has three kids. He just lost his job for whatever reason. His three children at home are starving. Can he realistically look into their eyes and tell them that the reason they're starving is because of "white supremacy/racism"? No, a man will not make those types of excuses nor let such events set the agenda for him. He's going to do what's necessary to feed his kids/tribe.
At what point do we stop crediting another race so much and realize our people need to step their game up because we're the ones f1cking up now?
Once again, I totally agree.
I also subscribe to the mantra of self-determination philosophy of Booker T. Washington.
I purchased & read Message to the Black Man by Elijah Muhammad as a teen.
The only true chains that can hold the black man down are the self-imposed, mental ones.
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Nov 12 2014, 05:39 PM
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I haven't dated in years myself because of my bad experiences with black women. My problem wasn't money, my problem was I was dating black women that I thought were good honest women and they turned out to be cheaters. Some black women can burn you out and turn you off completely with dating.
Brother, you're posting as a defeated man, stop that. The excuse making and complacency in your post is not only pitiful, and if other Brothers aren't feeling this post, imagine how unattractive this is to women? Of most of the defeatist posts you render here, this by far takes the crown. A lot of young Brothers these days don't have Fathers, Uncles,the Brother that owns the Corner Store, etc., to teach them the game and hip them to what women are about at an early age. This is why I giggle sometimes at what cats on here post about women(i.e. "Black Women are Getting Worse with Tattoos", "Black Women Don't Like Nice Guys"). While you were posting all of that, you could've been out in the real world meeting real women. A man, especially a Black man, should always be achievement minded and always seek to better himself/his situation. You do realize American Black women aren't the only women on the face of the planet right? Or, your mind got tricked into that old, "I must stay loyal to Black women to experience Black power", type dogma? From your post, "some women burn you out and turn you off completely from dating". Dude, that's not only tragic, cynical and sorry for a man to post something sentiment like that, but that shows cats aren't prepared for life, because life is about ups and downs, triumphs and tragedies,mistakes and missteps. You can blame someone for knocking you down, but you can only blame yourself if you refuse to get back up. Stop embracing victimhood.
I'm not posting as a defeated man, I'm being honest about the bad relationships that I've been in with black women. Should I lie and say that I've been in good relationships with black women that were faithful to me?
Nobody can chide you for your honesty. Your experiences are......indeed your experiences. However, is the solution, as you're doing, to cut off interaction with women all together? Sorry man, but as long as this planet exists, men and women are going to seek companionship with one another. You just have to find out what and who works for you. Learn how to cultivate your inner Alpha male. Learn the right game that attracts females you like. Take time to improve yourself. If you think you've only seen beautiful women in America, I would encourage you to obtain a passport then you can see what beautiful women truly are and how men are truly supposed to interact with women. Network, gain international contacts for your business endeavors. Now those are solutions that cause one to active. All that sitting around bashing Black women only keeps you passive and hiding in the basement. Put your life into motion today, or else you'll be stuck in jack-off land or Stroke-Yourself-Ville forever. The choice is yours.
Some folks are content to go in circles.
We can only help them to empower themselves once they summon the courage to walk in a straight line first.
It takes courage to move forward.
Nothing intimidating or awe-inspiring about a grown male that goes in circles, engaging in the same non-productive activities.
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Nov 12 2014, 07:19 PM
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I haven't dated in years myself because of my bad experiences with black women. My problem wasn't money, my problem was I was dating black women that I thought were good honest women and they turned out to be cheaters. Some black women can burn you out and turn you off completely with dating.
Brother, you're posting as a defeated man, stop that. The excuse making and complacency in your post is not only pitiful, and if other Brothers aren't feeling this post, imagine how unattractive this is to women? Of most of the defeatist posts you render here, this by far takes the crown. A lot of young Brothers these days don't have Fathers, Uncles,the Brother that owns the Corner Store, etc., to teach them the game and hip them to what women are about at an early age. This is why I giggle sometimes at what cats on here post about women(i.e. "Black Women are Getting Worse with Tattoos", "Black Women Don't Like Nice Guys"). While you were posting all of that, you could've been out in the real world meeting real women. A man, especially a Black man, should always be achievement minded and always seek to better himself/his situation. You do realize American Black women aren't the only women on the face of the planet right? Or, your mind got tricked into that old, "I must stay loyal to Black women to experience Black power", type dogma? From your post, "some women burn you out and turn you off completely from dating". Dude, that's not only tragic, cynical and sorry for a man to post something sentiment like that, but that shows cats aren't prepared for life, because life is about ups and downs, triumphs and tragedies,mistakes and missteps. You can blame someone for knocking you down, but you can only blame yourself if you refuse to get back up. Stop embracing victimhood.
I'm not posting as a defeated man, I'm being honest about the bad relationships that I've been in with black women. Should I lie and say that I've been in good relationships with black women that were faithful to me?
Not that I thought you would but you didn't understand a word the man typed
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Nov 12 2014, 07:29 PM
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........ Some black women can burn you out and turn you off completely with dating.
sure...
the world is not a fairytale.. there are bad people out there for real...
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shady come in all shades of color..don`t focus on 1 shade
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never never ever expect shady to treat u any different because u of same color of shade
ps
ever heard about the scorpion and frog story ?..... ``its my nature"
let me refresh your memory
The Scorpion and the Frog
One day, a scorpion looked around at the mountain where he lived and decided that he wanted a change. So he set out on a journey through the forests and hills. He climbed over rocks and under vines and kept going until he reached a river.
The river was wide and swift, and the scorpion stopped to reconsider the situation. He couldn't see any way across. So he ran upriver and then checked downriver, all the while thinking that he might have to turn back.
Suddenly, he saw a frog sitting in the rushes by the bank of the stream on the other side of the river. He decided to ask the frog for help getting across the stream.
"Hellooo Mr. Frog!" called the scorpion across the water, "Would you be so kind as to give me a ride on your back across the river?"
"Well now, Mr. Scorpion! How do I know that if I try to help you, you wont try to kill me?" asked the frog hesitantly.
"Because," the scorpion replied, "If I try to kill you, then I would die too, for you see I cannot swim!"
Now this seemed to make sense to the frog. But he asked. "What about when I get close to the bank? You could still try to kill me and get back to the shore!"
"This is true," agreed the scorpion, "But then I wouldn't be able to get to the other side of the river!"
"Alright then...how do I know you wont just wait till we get to the other side and THEN kill me?" said the frog.
"Ahh...," crooned the scorpion, "Because you see, once you've taken me to the other side of this river, I will be so grateful for your help, that it would hardly be fair to reward you with death, now would it?!"
So the frog agreed to take the scorpion across the river. He swam over to the bank and settled himself near the mud to pick up his passenger. The scorpion crawled onto the frog's back, his sharp claws prickling into the frog's soft hide, and the frog slid into the river. The muddy water swirled around them, but the frog stayed near the surface so the scorpion would not drown. He kicked strongly through the first half of the stream, his flippers paddling wildly against the current.
Halfway across the river, the frog suddenly felt a sharp sting in his back and, out of the corner of his eye, saw the scorpion remove his stinger from the frog's back. A deadening numbness began to creep into his limbs.
"You fool!" croaked the frog, "Now we shall both die! Why on earth did you do that?"
The scorpion shrugged, and did a little jig on the drownings frog's back.
"I could not help myself. It is my nature."
Then they both sank into the muddy waters of the swiftly flowing river.
Self destruction - "Its my Nature", said the Scorpion...
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Nov 12 2014, 08:03 PM
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Peace,
I can never be an accomplice to racism, and I don't embrace being a victim...
As an example, it's like a Brother who has three kids. He just lost his job for whatever reason. His three children at home are starving. Can he realistically look into their eyes and tell them that the reason they're starving is because of "white supremacy/racism"? No, a man will not make those types of excuses nor let such events set the agenda for him. He's going to do what's necessary to feed his kids/tribe.
Once again, you failed to address the real USA problem with any reasonable rational response my friend. That's why do EmoDweeb came coSigning you, bcuz he hates Black people so he loves it when you put forth arguments which disregard realities and ignore forces which are factually acting upon The Black American Experience.
See, here's an example...in using your own analogy which you presented;
I lost my job due to racism, once, and I went home/look into my kids eyes and told them that the reason we're going to have to economize for a few weeks is because of "white supremacy/racism". Then I broke it down to them how this same future treatment is waiting for them, if they get darker. Yes, I did in fact do that.
And after putting them in the bed, I woke up the next morning and went found me a new job. Got hired 2 days after applying. But when I got hired, I told them couldn't start right away.
It was on a Monday.
But I started that Thursday, because I needed those 3 days to perfect my racial-discrimination complaint down at the local EEOC office, from the job I had just got fired from. That perfected complaint wound up winning me a finding of racial-discrimination, and all deserving compensation thereof. No Black person who I know of, views that situation as one which features me making excuses.
Now, I know you're not going to respond with a tangible nor viable reply, because your real life experiences don't delve this deep into reality. And it's no fault of yours, of course, but please just read/embellish my experience as yet another ounce of proof of "that America" which you have to start accounting for, if you expect your gameplan to ever be productive for aiding USA Black males.
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Nov 12 2014, 08:08 PM
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Peace,
I can never be an accomplice to racism, and I don't embrace being a victim...
As an example, it's like a Brother who has three kids. He just lost his job for whatever reason. His three children at home are starving. Can he realistically look into their eyes and tell them that the reason they're starving is because of "white supremacy/racism"? No, a man will not make those types of excuses nor let such events set the agenda for him. He's going to do what's necessary to feed his kids/tribe.
Once again, I don't know if you did it purposely but...you failed to address the real USA problem with any reasonable rational response my friend. That's why DocEmoDweeb came coSigning you, bcuz he hates Black people so he loves it when any one here puts forth arguments which disregard realities and ignore forces which are factually acting upon The Black American Experience.
See, here's a real life example...similar to your own analogy which you presented;
I lost my job due to racism, once, and I went home/look into my kids eyes and told them that the reason we're going to have to economize for a few weeks is because of "white supremacy/racism". Then I broke it down to them how this same future treatment is waiting for them, if they get darker. Yes, I did in fact do that.
And after putting them in the bed, I woke up the next morning and went found me a new job. Got hired 2 days after applying. But when I got hired, I told the Senior Partner that I couldn't start right away.
It was on a Monday.
So I started that Thursday, because I needed those 3 days to go perfect my racial-discrimination complaint down at the local EEOC office, via the job I had just got fired from. Well, that perfected complaint wound up winning me a "finding" of racial-discrimination, and all deserving compensation thereof. No Black person who I know of, views that situation as one which features me making excuses. It was a situation where I fight against racism while still working hard to feed my family. It's called Multi-tasking.
Now, I know you're not going to respond with a tangible nor viable reply, because your real life experiences don't delve this deep into reality in order to speak to that example. And it's no fault of yours, of course, but please do just read/embellish my experience -----as yet another ounce of proof of "that America" which you have to start accounting for, if you expect your gameplan to ever be productive for aiding USA Black males.
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