Why this black man hasn't dated since 1998

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Why this black man hasn't dated since 1998
Topic Started: Nov 9 2014, 07:13 PM (3,379 Views)
kennyinbmore	Nov 10 2014, 12:28 PM Post #11
Posts: 18,350 Group: Members Member #452 Joined: Mar 30, 2010	To be honest back when I was doing the serious date thing, the women I dated wouldn't know what my income was for at least a couple of months. It's really none of their business until I decide I wish to disclose it.



Big Mike	Nov 10 2014, 02:46 PM Post #12
Posts: 3,204 Group: Members Member #355 Joined: Feb 10, 2010	kennyinbmore Nov 10 2014, 12:28 PM To be honest back when I was doing the serious date thing, the women I dated wouldn't know what my income was for at least a couple of months. It's really none of their business until I decide I wish to disclose it. The woman don't have to know, if a man income is not where he want it to be it can affect his self esteem. A rich man with millions of dollars is going to have a high self esteem when it comes to dating. Edited by Big Mike, Nov 10 2014, 02:47 PM.



kennyinbmore	Nov 10 2014, 03:18 PM Post #13
Posts: 18,350 Group: Members Member #452 Joined: Mar 30, 2010	Big Mike Nov 10 2014, 02:46 PM The woman don't have to know, if a man income is not where he want it to be it can affect his self esteem. No one can fix a loser like that but himself



Akachi	Nov 10 2014, 04:36 PM Post #14
Posts: 468 Group: Members Member #2,320 Joined: May 4, 2014	James Nov 10 2014, 12:30 AM Akachi Nov 9 2014, 10:34 PM I wouldn't necessarily classify this cat a "good Black man". He still has much to learn if he wishes any woman, or anybody to take him seriously as a contender on the planet. At 34, he should be Alpha male enough to demand and stack more paper than he currently claims. This is the classic example of a man settling into one particular lifestyle, when the goal of a man is to constantly upgrade his lifestyle/living situation. Remain hungry, never settle. He seems a rather sad case, begging women to accept him, when the very female psyche with regards to dating/mating is rooted in security. Money can affect some men self esteem, especially when we live in a country where it seems like a lot of women are out for money, or judge men based on their money. And that's why Brothers of good stature should expand their global view, by getting their passports, learning new languages and opening businesses on the international level. You'll find whereas the Black man in America has to contend with Black she-devils, there are seas of good, homegrown women elsewhere that do value the presence and power of Black men.



Akachi	Nov 10 2014, 04:41 PM Post #15
Posts: 468 Group: Members Member #2,320 Joined: May 4, 2014	nevergiveup Nov 10 2014, 03:08 AM Should love and a relationship be based on a persons income? You speak of "love" and "relationships" as if the two are mutually exclusive. They're not. In your study of classical civilizations, the "I respect you" marriage lasted longer than the "I love you" marriage, for most women are emotionally immature, therefore they love you one day, and..........you get the picture. You enter a marriage with a business minded woman who can help you expand your empire and its operations. If you want love, find an eighteen year old and make her a long term mistress. Right now, Black men need women that are business savvy and have domestication to them. They exist, you just gotta cut Boomquesha them off. The "I Love You" fairytale marriage is still fairly new in its relevance to the world. The "I respect you and will build with you" marriage/relationship is what one needs. This is why cats shouldn't be dating broke broads.



Akachi	Nov 10 2014, 04:55 PM Post #16
Posts: 468 Group: Members Member #2,320 Joined: May 4, 2014	beserker Nov 10 2014, 12:16 PM Akachi Nov 9 2014, 10:34 PM He seems a rather sad case, begging women to accept him, when the very female psyche with regards to dating/mating is rooted in security. Quote: when the very female psyche with regards to dating/mating is rooted in security. true but mostly untrue in the other races... it`s still an important factor in blacks, but b4 we start usual ``black this and dat".... know this is more a social and class issue.. people who recently escaped poverty and the new very rich don`t ever want to be reminded of poverty in close quarters daily go ahead and correlate where the black race is at economically in America and the prevalence of above started phenomenon in black female -male interaction folks u gotta stop cussing out the brother ps: my advise for the brother is... dunno about marry up or marry down.... if it`s an issue why bother? u can`t change people`s belief nor have any right to attempt to do dat .... just change your own perception there is somebody out there for everyone... go out and find her Well, I would counter what you're saying with, as I would say to the 34 year old cat that originally posted this on the Root, that these are the types of Black women he should seek companionship with, that is, if he's truly serious. Usually I'd tell a Brother to save himself the hassle and just go get a nice Eastern European, a nice Latina,a nice Asian, a nice Arab or a nice North or East African sista and call it a day. However, since some cats remain stuck on that, "I'm gonna stick with the Black woman" drivel, here are the only sorts of sistas he should consider, whenever he gets his self-esteem and manhood up enough to rake in the sort of $$$$$$ an Alpha male is prone to make: Types of Black women Black men with their careers/lives intact should date: 1) Black woman that comes from a two parent household. This is essential, being that most Black women are more likely to get indoctrinated with some feminist dogma if mom is the only one present in the house. 2) Does she fear her Father? You can tell when a sister has divine respect for her Father because she never complains about a "shortage of good men" or takes time to dog Brothers. Good women don't do that. 3)Comes from a middle class/suburb environment. This is key. The last thing you want is some ghetto broad with the hand-out/poverty mentality. You're trying to build an empire with her but you can' t because her family is all up in your face everyday asking for stuff. 4)Between the ages of seventeen to twenty-four. 5) Has an income of at least $28,000(meaning, she's bringing something to the table). 6) Has to have an elevated mind outside of the typical "Black identity/Black experience/be like a nigger-r-us",meaning, you can take her to a banquet/corporate party and it' s not out of her element.



kennyinbmore	Nov 10 2014, 05:20 PM Post #17
Posts: 18,350 Group: Members Member #452 Joined: Mar 30, 2010	lol I don't know where to start, so I guess I should just say nothing



reddgirl64	Nov 10 2014, 05:49 PM Post #18
Posts: 10,087 Group: Members Member #284 Joined: Dec 16, 2009	Types of Black women Black men with their careers/lives intact should date: Quote: 1) Black woman that comes from a two parent household. This is essential, being that most Black women are more likely to get indoctrinated with some feminist dogma if mom is the only one present in the house. Check Quote: 2) Does she fear her Father? You can tell when a sister has divine respect for her Father because she never complains about a "shortage of good men" or takes time to dog Brothers. Good women don't do that. My father would never, ever want me to fear him, however, he is my role model for all men, including the one I have, therefore Check Quote: 3)Comes from a middle class/suburb environment. This is key. The last thing you want is some ghetto broad with the hand-out/poverty mentality. You're trying to build an empire with her but you can' t because her family is all up in your face everyday asking for stuff. Check. The mantra of all the men in my family.. The women work because they want too, never because they have too... Quote: 4)Between the ages of seventeen to twenty-four. Nope... Quote: 5) Has an income of at least $28,000(meaning, she's bringing something to the table). Get the fuk outta here. My daughter is 24, she makes almost $40K.. My salary is 4x this number..so nope Quote: 6) Has to have an elevated mind outside of the typical "Black identity/Black experience/be like a nigger-r-us",meaning, you can take her to a banquet/corporate party and it' s not out of her element. Check Now, all you're saying is what I've been saying towards black men... Nobody is in the ghetto fabulous line looking for a man. I'm going to try the Euro line, next time I'm looking for a hubby/mate! The good black men, will all be taken, only thing left will be boys like Uthant!



reddgirl64	Nov 10 2014, 06:01 PM Post #19
Posts: 10,087 Group: Members Member #284 Joined: Dec 16, 2009	kennyinbmore Nov 10 2014, 05:20 PM lol I don't know where to start, so I guess I should just say nothing Oh go ahead, try.. I took the test!



kennyinbmore	Nov 10 2014, 06:49 PM Post #20
Posts: 18,350 Group: Members Member #452 Joined: Mar 30, 2010	I'll keep it short. I disagee with 1-5 for reasons I won't bother getting into and leave it at that



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