| Your worth is determined by the value you add to the lives of others. | |
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| Topic Started: Apr 9 2013, 02:02 PM (1,166 Views) | |
| Snidely Whiplash | Apr 10 2013, 12:23 AM Post #21 |
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It's only meaningful if you buy into it, otherwise psychobabble. |
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| negroplease | Apr 10 2013, 08:14 AM Post #22 |
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So you are only worth something if you add value to.someone e else's life? What if you aren't afforded that opportunity? What if you think you are adding value but the other person doesn't see it as value? Then you are not worth anything. You determine if you are worth something. You determine if.you have value. Not.other people. |
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| negroplease | Apr 10 2013, 08:16 AM Post #23 |
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Snidely and this psychobabble. You.amuse me, especially when you turn around and use psychobabble on others, but call it experience. However, I may agree with you here. |
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| negroplease | Apr 10 2013, 08:17 AM Post #24 |
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But I did say let's discuss people, so I wont say anyone is wrong and you can believe and interpret what you want. |
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| LadyBug1 | Apr 10 2013, 09:35 PM Post #25 |
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Before I responded to Uthant, I'd asked myself "why am i valuable". I was thinking of things, but they all involved other people. I volunteer on Saturdays at a nursing home for a couple of hours. I know I add value to the lives of the people I see. A lot of them have nobody because their families have abandoned them. I started when I lived in St. Louis, and I continued it when I got settled in ATL. You don't have to do anything but sit around and chit-chat. Watch Wheel of Fortune and Family Feud. My job has a tutoring program that's offered to kids in a elementary school close-by. It's strictly volunteer. It's every other Thursday during lunch time. Everyone who wants to do it is assigned to a kid. They're poor kids, who have hand-me-down books from the rich schools. I know I add value, along with the other tutors. These are a couple of examples, but I don't want to go on and on about how nice I am. I was just saying that when I thought of the question, every answer involved someone, besides my myself. The bonus is that nobody makes me do nice things. I do them because I like doing 'em. I feel good. This last little part may be one thing that makes me value-"able" (among many ) .Anyway, that's my take....... Edited by LadyBug1, Apr 10 2013, 09:38 PM.
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| negroplease | Apr 10 2013, 10:15 PM Post #26 |
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No I totally get that. I understand that view take. But , if others dont regard this as adding value to their life, are you then worth nothing? Kind of like the people who you do so many things for, but they dont give a shit and they use the fuck out of you. You do so many things for them that you deem nice, but they dont see this as you adding value to their life, so are you then worth nothing? Or is that YOU determined that what YOU are doing is valuable to them, and so YOU are determining that YOU are worth something because YOU determined that what YOU are doing is adding value to someone else's life. Anyhow, the context of this quote was that women should be submissive and serve men, because a woman's worth is determined by the value she adds to her man's life. Edited by negroplease, Apr 10 2013, 10:21 PM.
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| The SOLE Controller | Apr 10 2013, 10:23 PM Post #27 |
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See? Now agreeing with me didn't hurt so bad afterall, eh? lol ...I tell y'all all of the time; the Beautiful Exchange Of Ideas, doesn't always have to turn Into an ugly ducking. Edited by The SOLE Controller, Apr 10 2013, 10:23 PM.
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| LadyBug1 | Apr 10 2013, 10:44 PM Post #28 |
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"Women should be submissive and serve men, because a woman's worth is determined by the value she adds to her man's life." This is quite different. We aren't talking about self-worth, are we? That's determined by the person, not someone else. It would be crazy for me to continue to do stuff, not knowing that I'm doing something that the other person wants me to be doing. In my cases, it's not ME that has decided that I'm doing a good deed. It's the look on people's faces when I do certain things. That's the only reason I continue. People can usually tell when they're appreciated. Let's just say the person doesn't appreciate whatever you've done, then no, that certainly doesn't mean you're worth nothing, imo. |
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| LadyBug1 | Apr 10 2013, 10:45 PM Post #29 |
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![]() No, it didn't...but, it never does.
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| 72MiMi | Apr 12 2013, 05:03 PM Post #30 |
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Absolutely! If we were valued by others most of us would be "worthless". Too often people don't think we do enough or didn't do something right. I do what I can and that's all anyone should ask for....but we know better. |
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I was just saying that when I thought of the question, every answer involved someone, besides my myself. The bonus is that nobody makes me do nice things. I do them because I like doing 'em. I feel good. This last little part may be one thing that makes me value-"able" (among many 

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