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What Are You Willing To Tolerate; Your breaking point before you tell someone to get the F--k on.
Topic Started: Jan 14 2013, 09:23 PM (1,071 Views)
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Jan 15 2013, 01:02 PM
Rick1
Jan 15 2013, 09:56 AM
It's very easy to say what we won't tolerate but until you are facing that dilema, you don't know what you will do. Couples fight and get back together all the time.
That is an excellent point.

But I think I really wont tolerate the cheating thing.

Even if it is a one time thing. Accepting it sets a pattern of behavior that you will accept it again, and the trust for me would be broken.

And ditto for abuse. I dont give a flying fuck what anyone says, there is never a reason to go around abusing people. Hard day at work, or I had too many drinks MY ASS.

Keep your hands to yourself. And the same for emotional abuse, it shows a total lack of respect.

Something in the relationship is dysfunctional and it will not work in the long run. Not for me.

I believe in working in a marriage, but you shouldnt have to work at that.

I hear you SUA, people should keep their damn hands to themselves. It all starts with abusive language, to intimemdation, to physical abuse. One hit here, "oh I' m sorry, I didn't mean it" to I'm going to fuck you up.

Next thing you know, it an way of life.

Shit doesn't get better move the fuck on!
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I've gotten into an altercation one time as an "adult", early 20's, with a boyfriend at the time. I don't remember what it was about but at the end of it all, as I lay trying to sleep that night, I realized that I was terrified of the possibilities. The man was a foot taller than me! I was lucky.

I got up, got his stuff together that had been at my place, put it all in garbage bags, and delivered it neatly and without fanfare, to the steps of his mothers house. There was no getting back together, there was no need to talk it out, it was simply over in my book.

Before that event, a man putting his hands on me in anger was a deal-breaker. So yes, you can know what you're willing to tolerate.
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Habitual liar, that my number one deal breaker. There’s a saying, if you will lie, you will cheat, if you will cheat, you will steal, and so on and so on....

When you are force to be concern about you partner then its time to make a change.

Question for those who say physical abuse is a deal breaker, are we talking about an one time smack or multiple punches?

For me, one time can be a deal breaker.
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Jan 15 2013, 11:10 PM
Habitual liar, that my number one deal breaker. There’s a saying, if you will lie, you will cheat, if you will cheat, you will steal, and so on and so on....

When you are force to be concern about you partner then its time to make a change.

Question for those who say physical abuse is a deal breaker, are we talking about an one time smack or multiple punches?

For me, one time can be a deal breaker.
Mental abuse can be just as bad, if not worse for some people.

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Backbone
Jan 15 2013, 11:10 PM
Habitual liar, that my number one deal breaker. There’s a saying, if you will lie, you will cheat, if you will cheat, you will steal, and so on and so on....

When you are force to be concern about you partner then its time to make a change.

Question for those who say physical abuse is a deal breaker, are we talking about an one time smack or multiple punches?

For me, one time can be a deal breaker.
Yeah, lying is a good one.

As far as the physical abuse.... I don't think people were meant to be hit. Period. So, one act of attempting to hurt me physically, was it.
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Backbone
Jan 15 2013, 11:10 PM
Habitual liar, that my number one deal breaker. There’s a saying, if you will lie, you will cheat, if you will cheat, you will steal, and so on and so on....

When you are force to be concern about you partner then its time to make a change.

Question for those who say physical abuse is a deal breaker, are we talking about an one time smack or multiple punches?

For me, one time can be a deal breaker.
One time is a deal breaker.

That's all I need to know. You are a violent person and you need to get the hell away from me.
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Jan 15 2013, 11:20 PM
Backbone
Jan 15 2013, 11:10 PM
Habitual liar, that my number one deal breaker. There’s a saying, if you will lie, you will cheat, if you will cheat, you will steal, and so on and so on....

When you are force to be concern about you partner then its time to make a change.

Question for those who say physical abuse is a deal breaker, are we talking about an one time smack or multiple punches?

For me, one time can be a deal breaker.
One time is a deal breaker.

That's all I need to know. You are a violent person and you need to get the hell away from me.
I wish more sister would recognize such violent behavior and act accordantly.
Edited by Backbone, Jan 15 2013, 11:47 PM.
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Jan 15 2013, 11:37 PM
shutupalready
Jan 15 2013, 11:20 PM
Backbone
Jan 15 2013, 11:10 PM
Habitual liar, that my number one deal breaker. There’s a saying, if you will lie, you will cheat, if you will cheat, you will steal, and so on and so on....

When you are force to be concern about you partner then its time to make a change.

Question for those who say physical abuse is a deal breaker, are we talking about an one time smack or multiple punches?

For me, one time can be a deal breaker.
One time is a deal breaker.

That's all I need to know. You are a violent person and you need to get the hell away from me.
I wish more sisters would recognize such violent behavior and act accordantly.
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ALO

My friend says that saying "if you will lie, you will cheat, if you will cheat, you will steal, and so on and so on....

Thats pure bullshit, I know many people who lie and they don't steel,cheat or kill etc.

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ALO
Jan 16 2013, 01:51 AM
My friend says that saying "if you will lie, you will cheat, if you will cheat, you will steal, and so on and so on....

Thats pure bullshit, I know many people who lie and they don't steel,cheat or kill etc.

That you know of, most people that lie usually are willing to cheat in life on something. Lets not be naive here.
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