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What Are You Willing To Tolerate; Your breaking point before you tell someone to get the F--k on.
Topic Started: Jan 14 2013, 09:23 PM (1,068 Views)
Backbone

The other day, a poster alluded to an issue that took placed on my block about two months ago. A neighbor, down the street from where I live, got into a heated exchange with his wife resulting in the police being called.

Come to find out, he had viciously assaulted his wife, sending her to the hospital.

Fast forward a week or so later, she’s back home with her family and the two of them look as natural as an oak tree shedding leaves for the fall season.

Not knowing the dynamics of their situation, nor do I care to be privy to such information, I’m wonder, what is the breaking point for a person; the line that no one should cross; the DEAL BREAKER that ends relationships?

There are numerous reasons why people stay in relationships and of course it all depends on the person,

However, I thought this would be interesting (considering the video depicting a man screaming at the top of his lungs demanding a lady to get lost) to know what a person is willing to tolerate.
Edited by Backbone, Jan 14 2013, 09:25 PM.
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Backbone
Jan 14 2013, 09:23 PM
The other day, a poster alluded to an issue that took placed on my block about two months ago. A neighbor, down the street from where I live, got into a heated exchange with his wife resulting in the police being called.

Come to find out, he had viciously assaulted his wife, sending her to the hospital.

Fast forward a week or so later, she’s back home with her family and the two of them look as natural as an oak tree shedding leaves for the fall season.

Not knowing the dynamics of their situation, nor do I care to be privy to such information, I’m wonder, what is the breaking point for a person; the line that no one should cross; the DEAL BREAKER that ends relationships?

There are numerous reasons why people stay in relationships and of course it all depends on the person,

However, I thought this would be interesting (considering the video depicting a man screaming at the top of his lungs demanding a lady to get lost) to know what a person is willing to tolerate.
Maybe it depends on how independent you are. Or how much self-esteem you have.

Me, I don't tolerate anything other than a loving/caring relationship. Even if all we're doing is f$&#ing, I wont be mistreated, disrespected, beat up.......none of that.

My answer to the question is: not very much.
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My dad beat my mom on and off for all the years they were married. I decided she was weak to stay with him. At one point, after he gave her a really bad beating, she finally left him. I remember thinking it was great! Then, my eldest sister who was in high school was killed - just the wrong place at the wrong time. My mom went back to my violent dad.

All that to say, I think that "breaking point" just depends on the situation and the mindset at the time. The next time they fought, she protected herself and he ended up in the hospital; he left her. A happy ending.
Edited by NoBull, Jan 15 2013, 12:50 AM.
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I’m wonder, what is the breaking point for a person; the line that no one should cross; the DEAL BREAKER

I use to have three Deal Breakers regarding my marriage. They were Addiction, Adultery, and Abuse. (When I was dating, a guy could simply chew with his mouth open & I was done.) My feeling is that anything other than those three could be worked through.

The one I'm more flexible on nowadays is Addiction. I think, after 16 years of marriage, I'd owe it to him to try and work through that one.


Edited by VoiceofReason, Jan 15 2013, 01:37 AM.
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It's very easy to say what we won't tolerate but until you are facing that dilema, you don't know what you will do. Couples fight and get back together all the time.
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Jan 15 2013, 09:56 AM
It's very easy to say what we won't tolerate but until you are facing that dilema, you don't know what you will do. Couples fight and get back together all the time.
Exactly bro. B-)
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Jan 15 2013, 11:08 AM
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I like this.
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Jan 15 2013, 09:56 AM
It's very easy to say what we won't tolerate but until you are facing that dilema, you don't know what you will do. Couples fight and get back together all the time.
That is an excellent point.

But I think I really wont tolerate the cheating thing.

Even if it is a one time thing. Accepting it sets a pattern of behavior that you will accept it again, and the trust for me would be broken.

And ditto for abuse. I dont give a flying fuck what anyone says, there is never a reason to go around abusing people. Hard day at work, or I had too many drinks MY ASS.

Keep your hands to yourself. And the same for emotional abuse, it shows a total lack of respect.

Something in the relationship is dysfunctional and it will not work in the long run. Not for me.

I believe in working in a marriage, but you shouldnt have to work at that.

Edited by negroplease, Jan 15 2013, 01:04 PM.
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Jan 15 2013, 09:56 AM
It's very easy to say what we won't tolerate but until you are facing that dilema, you don't know what you will do. Couples fight and get back together all the time.
I used to be willing to tolerate more, but not now.

Life is too short, and I'm no spring chicken.
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