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The root cause of the break down of the black family
Topic Started: Nov 12 2012, 05:28 AM (2,134 Views)
kennyinbmore
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shutupalready
Nov 15 2012, 11:34 PM
What do you think of men telling the younger fellas that they need to make better choices and be responsible truth.

I see.you cosigning what women need to do, but as usual, not too many want to tell these young men to stop running amuck.
Actually it looks like she cosigned my post which included what both men and women needed to do. Just sayin' :)
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Mal

The Black community is like a snake with its head cut off. The basis, strength and protecting our community must start with Black men. There is no excuse for not raising our kids, not setting a good example for our sons and not providing for our families. It takes two to make a baby and for some reason it is deep in too may black men that security and stability does not come from having a stable family life and marriage. The most successful black men meet and marry strong, intelligent sisters that have their back. We need to take a step back and work on ourselves. There is no better time than now for the black community to start taking responsibility and building ourselves up.
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kennyinbmore
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Half of marriages end in divorce. I agree with the raising your children part, but being married doesn't guarantee you anything
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negroplease

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Nov 15 2012, 11:14 PM
kennyinbmore
Nov 14 2012, 10:53 AM
Rick1
Nov 14 2012, 10:32 AM
This is where the older females come in to play. Most aren't schooling these young girls and telling them not to get pregnant and believe nothing coming from a man's mouth.
There's a lot of truth to that Rick and Truth. Without doing any black woman bashing SUA, women have to realize the quickest route to poverty is having children when you're single. Use birth control and make those brothas strap it up every time,or just say NO. While in a perfect world men should have the common sense to do so, a woman can't depend on a man when ultimately, she'll be the one dealing with the consequences
Well said.

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Kenny,

I dont see you telling brothas anything in here.

Just you telling women what they need to do and what they need to make brothas do.

Im asking her about men giving their advice to the fellas as you seem to think women need to do to ladies.

Imjustsayin KennyB :D
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kennyinbmore
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shutupalready
Nov 16 2012, 10:59 AM
Kenny,

I dont see you telling brothas anything in here.

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Use birth control and make those brothas strap it up every time,or just say NO. While in a perfect world men should have the common sense to do so
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negroplease

kennyinbmore
Nov 16 2012, 11:11 AM
shutupalready
Nov 16 2012, 10:59 AM
Kenny,

I dont see you telling brothas anything in here.

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Use birth control and make those brothas strap it up every time,or just say NO. While in a perfect world men should have the common sense to do so
You just said in a perfect world they should have the common sense to do so.

This is almost an excuse as to why they arent doing things actually.

But I dont want to get into a fight with my homie KennyB, so I will just say ok then.
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negroplease

So like I said Truth, what do you think of men sitting down having discussions and giving advice, just like women need to do to these young girls.

I am sure you would agree.

I truthfully, tire of hearing, the boys will be boys shit, while simultaneously ragging on women.

Teach them both responsibility.

And Kenny B, I know you already agreed with this, so dont worry, I got you.
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kennyinbmore
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shutupalready
Nov 16 2012, 11:15 AM
kennyinbmore
Nov 16 2012, 11:11 AM
shutupalready
Nov 16 2012, 10:59 AM
Kenny,

I dont see you telling brothas anything in here.

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Use birth control and make those brothas strap it up every time,or just say NO. While in a perfect world men should have the common sense to do so
You just said in a perfect world they should have the common sense to do so.

This is almost an excuse as to why they arent doing things actually.

But I dont want to get into a fight with my homie KennyB, so I will just say ok then.
It's not an excuse for anything. The fact is responsible men do responsible things. But regardless of how responsible or irresponsible a man is, the woman can always say NO. I've had women tell me a condom wasn't necessary, I told them I use a condom or no sex. You have to be responsible for your own life. I don't depend on a woman for my sexual health. The women I'm with shouldn't depend on me for theirs.
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Mal

Black people need to stop with using divide and rule. It is not a case of us and them with regards to black men and women. We all need to have each others backs. Stop being promiscuous because you will harm yourself and others, stop not using protection because you will harm your children, stop behaving irresponsibly and taking life lightly. We all need to do better.
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shutupalready
Nov 15 2012, 11:34 PM
What do you think of men telling the younger fellas that they need to make better choices and be responsible truth.

I see.you cosigning what women need to do, but as usual, not too many want to tell these young men to stop running amuck.
Well, I'm not co-signing only what women need to do. I have a son and a daughter. They both have to be responsible and smart.

As a matter of fact, I've been wondering if I've given my son the wrong advice. He asked me about dating. (We've had an open dialogue, I think, about sex so far.) He hasn't started dating, but now there is a girl he thinks is special. He wants to spend time with her. I've told him its ok to go out as a group, with her, and friends, to movies, go-kart racing or whatever activity, or the mall. I told him its too soon for exclusive dating. He's 16.

My concern is that I've told him "no" regarding exclusive dating. Am I accidentally teaching him to play the field? My intent is that he learns to get to know someone before settling into a "relationship".

What do you guys think? How do you teach a young man to be...picky? ^_^
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