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Black women should be "Grateful" White men want them?; What I was told last week....
Topic Started: Sep 16 2012, 11:45 AM (1,403 Views)
G. A. W.
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Etienne, a curator for an art gallery, asked me to accompany him on a business trip to Chicago. This stunning looking white guy with coal black hair and ice cold blue eyes framed in long black eye lashes, tall and smart looking dressed in his Brioni and Miyake threads........is a man I see every single work day morning on my way to the office.

We have a "morning" relationship, where we greet and flirt as I walk past his art gallery on my way to the elevators to ascend to the floor that holds my office. On occasion, I've even given him a homemade muffin I'd baked to share with my co-workers. Over the years, he and I would spend no more than 10 mins every morning together, Mon - Friday.

So, my shock when he asked me to go with him to Chicago. He made it sound soooooooo lovely.... museums, restaurants he named, art galleries and shows, etc... These are things I indeed am interested in...

I politely thanked him for offering, then gently declined. And to my surprise, he was NOT happy with my answer....

He became indignant and was obviously slighted by the fact I would not go with him. I expressed how in actuality, we did not truly even know each other. We've never even sat down together to have a cup of coffee....how could he believe I'd run off to Chicago for a week?

His cold blue eyes, already icy looking, became hard and wicked looking, boring into me. He informed me that I should feel "Lucky" that he asked me to go with him and that I was an "arrogant black bitch!"

Ok..................................................

I was truly shocked and dumbfounded and my brain was racing 1000 miles an hour trying to soak in how this idiot could have the audacity to say this to me....

After controlling my first reaction to take an ink pen from his desk and stab him in the throat with it, I glared at him with my black eyes (my eyes are black, not brown...) and informed him that I hoped he had a good day and with clenched hands, I left...

After spending 20 minutes in the Ladie's Water Closet, just letting my adrenalin surge through my nervous system.... and talking myself out of going back down stairs to tell him what I really thought of him.......

I started to think about what he said.... that I, as a black woman, should be "grateful" he asked me to be with him. I have dated white men before. I've slept with white men. I've NEVER EVER EVER had a white guy inform me I should be grateful for it, however....

So, I'm simply sharing my first experience of being a black bitch who doesn't appreciate the attentions of a pompous well dressed white bastard...

Who never had the guts to ask me for a cup of coffee, or dinner, or a movie... or anything... but yet "expects" me to run off to Chicago with him for a week!!!

How totally, absurd............
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Cartman
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You thought about stabbing him in the throat with an ink pen.

You sound like my kind of woman. LOL.
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G. A. W.
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Cartman
Sep 16 2012, 11:56 AM
You thought about stabbing him in the throat with an ink pen.

You sound like my kind of woman. LOL.
Damien, you have no idea just how wicked.............

Well.

Never mind.

You like violent women?
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One time a dark skin Black woman told me that I was lucky that she gave me a chance to even speak to her. She said that Black women aren't into Black nerds.

I told her that's the reason why Black women lead the way when it comes to STDs, out of wedlock pregnancies, and section 8 queens.

BTW, I don't get my generalizations about Black women from Black men or etc. Black women tell me shit about them, and they're proud of it.
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Sari
Sep 16 2012, 11:58 AM
Cartman
Sep 16 2012, 11:56 AM
You thought about stabbing him in the throat with an ink pen.

You sound like my kind of woman. LOL.
Damien, you have no idea just how wicked.............

Well.

Never mind.

You like violent women?
I like smart violent women.

I don't like scary women who claim to be hardcore.
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G. A. W.
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Cartman
Sep 16 2012, 12:02 PM
Sari
Sep 16 2012, 11:58 AM
Cartman
Sep 16 2012, 11:56 AM
You thought about stabbing him in the throat with an ink pen.

You sound like my kind of woman. LOL.
Damien, you have no idea just how wicked.............

Well.

Never mind.

You like violent women?
I like smart violent women.

I don't like scary women who claim to be hardcore.
Any violent woman is scary, Damien.

In my own humble opinion anyway...

But a controlled calm woman who knows how to defend herself.... I think that is sexy.

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Sari
Sep 16 2012, 12:04 PM
Cartman
Sep 16 2012, 12:02 PM
Sari
Sep 16 2012, 11:58 AM
Cartman
Sep 16 2012, 11:56 AM
You thought about stabbing him in the throat with an ink pen.

You sound like my kind of woman. LOL.
Damien, you have no idea just how wicked.............

Well.

Never mind.

You like violent women?
I like smart violent women.

I don't like scary women who claim to be hardcore.
Any violent woman is scary, Damien.

In my own humble opinion anyway...

But a controlled calm woman who knows how to defend herself.... I think that is sexy.

I'm talking about women who talk shit to me, but when one of my female friends gets in their face, they bitch out and start crying.

It's funny as fuck to watch a bitch in her late 20s cry, because a female friend of mine is about to whoop her ass. If I didn't save that stupid ass woman, she would have been tossed in a dumpster after she got her ass beat.
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Glenn D.

Sari..

I am offended for you. This is an example of the plantation mentality that still exists amongst some white's. White men in particular. THis clown had audacity to be offended when you politely declined his invtation. This is a perfect example of how certain images hurt us as a people. Judging only by my observations of you in this forum... I cant understand why he'd imagine you would do such a thing. Were I your man.... He and I would share some conversation about his behaviour toward you.

This whole inherent black slut thing is hurting us... Most (about 80%) of all the black women I meet are perfectly normal, and do nothing overt to project that image. About 15% of those I meet do project that or a similar image. While nowhere near being the majority it's the degenrate, slut image of black women that prevails. This I blame on the media, including that media controlled by the black community.

I am insulted by his assumption that your so devoid of quality in your life that you might compromise your morals to sample some of his life style.

I'm insulted that he would assume that you would be so cheap that you would take his offer seriously.

I'm insulted that he fee'ls comfortable referring to you as a "Black Bitch" and expects to do so without any consiquence.

In short this individual needs to run into a black man who dont subscribe to that magical fear of white people. He needs to be spoken to. I'd suggest that next time he feel the need to buy some dark meat... just hit the local strip bar, and pick up someone who is used to that kind of treatment.

This kind of shit really piss me off...
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Please pardon me (a former long time lurker to this site) but you handled yourself well given the situation. I wonder how it will be when you cross paths with that bastard again.
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G. A. W.
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Glenn, thank you.. indeed you are correct about the Plantation Mentality issue.

I do not deny there was friendly flirting each morning, "Why Etienne, that blue tie makes your eyes pop out!" or something close to the same..... all I can imagine, is that any attention at all I showed him must have created in his mind, I was open for him. What a fool......

My brother, Jonah, is actually so upset he's made me promise next week I complain to his superiors. Which I've agreed to do.... Jonah threatened that if I didn't do it, he would. And Jonah, will drive all the way to my work just to have a chat with not only Etienne, but with his boss, as well.

I do know, that an individual who is quite close to me....when I told him of the situation he was not happy either.... and spoke horrible of Etienne! If he was capable of showing up at the art gallery the next day, I would actually be worried of a physical confrontation....... he said something about Etienne losing teeth and his head being kicked in....and.......

oh my................


@ LFB, Thank you.... I was furious on the inside but I remained calm and didn't say or do anything that would cause me regret later... personally or professionally or legally.

To answer about crossing paths again, well that is interesting. I was considering parking in the back of the building and simply going up the back stair well vs. using the parking garage and going by the art gallery to the elevators again.... not wanting to bump into him....

But I thought about it for a while and decided, NO WAY. I'm not going to allow that creep to change my routine, I've been using this parking garage for several years, I always walk to the elevators...I always pass the art gallery.... I am NOT going to change, because of him.

So actually, the whole "Black bitch / you should be grateful to me" scene happen on Thursday... so Friday morning I did my normal on the way to the office route.

As I walked pass the Art Gallery, obviously Etienne was not around to greet me, as per the past few years. I did see him, though.. in the window....and I just looked at him... straight on looked at him... He lowered his head.....

That weak pathetic bastard did not have the ability to man up and look me in the eyes.........

I just kept walking down the hall, to the elevators... with my head held high......shoulders back..... with a bright smile, on my face.

It was going to be a great Friday............ and... it was.

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