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Friendships.....; What makes them, what breaks them?
Topic Started: Aug 1 2012, 04:09 PM (1,250 Views)
kennyinbmore
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truthisrespect
Aug 1 2012, 04:51 PM
For me, it would've been crossing the line.


There's no reason you should have to lock your phone or put personal things aside because your friend is visiting.....unless, Unless you know she's a nosy rosy and you've accepted this about her.

Same here. I've been friends with my best friend for over 20 years and I know she'd never do something like that and she knows I wouldn't and don't have to even consider something like that ever happening
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cisslybee2012
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truthisrespect
Aug 1 2012, 05:51 PM
cisslybee2012
Aug 1 2012, 05:45 PM
truthisrespect
Aug 1 2012, 05:43 PM
To me, having her back would have been saying, "girl, I saw the text from so and so. Why are you letting them disrespect you like that?", and then drop some knowledge and some love.
As you said,

It doesn't matter.

If she wants that abusive man than leave her alone.

I agree with you on that all the way. ;)
I think it would be weak to let the friend "handle" the issue for her.
I don't see how you think that would be cool.

Anyway, Cissley, if you help yourself to my phone messages... You and me, we gone have a prob. I'm just saying. ^_^
Well it don't really appear that the friend was handling her business. But simply that the friend reacted to something she saw that she felt wasn't cool.

I mean,

Sari likely isn't telling the whole story. Because a person very particular about their privacy don't just lay their privacy around to be seen, point one, and point two: being that the friend was able to read her messages indicates such a relationship between them and Sari is merely upset because her friend told off a guy she likes. :)

So it doesn't appear that her privacy is the issue at all, but her friend toeing the line between her and a man, which is a whole different issue.
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cisslybee2012
Aug 1 2012, 06:14 PM
truthisrespect
Aug 1 2012, 05:51 PM
cisslybee2012
Aug 1 2012, 05:45 PM
truthisrespect
Aug 1 2012, 05:43 PM
To me, having her back would have been saying, "girl, I saw the text from so and so. Why are you letting them disrespect you like that?", and then drop some knowledge and some love.
As you said,

It doesn't matter.

If she wants that abusive man than leave her alone.

I agree with you on that all the way. ;)
I think it would be weak to let the friend "handle" the issue for her.
I don't see how you think that would be cool.

Anyway, Cissley, if you help yourself to my phone messages... You and me, we gone have a prob. I'm just saying. ^_^
Well it don't really appear that the friend was handling her business. But simply that the friend reacted to something she saw that she felt wasn't cool.

I mean,

Sari likely isn't telling the whole story. Because a person very particular about their privacy don't just lay their privacy around to be seen, point one, and point two: being that the friend was able to read her messages indicates such a relationship between them and Sari is merely upset because her friend told off a guy she likes. :)

So it doesn't appear that her privacy is the issue at all, but her friend toeing the line between her and a man, which is a whole different issue.
:O

B-)

Sari!
Edited by VoiceofReason, Aug 1 2012, 06:24 PM.
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kennyinbmore
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truthisrespect
Aug 1 2012, 06:19 PM
:O

B-)

Sari!
Don't you just love the world according to Ciss? :D
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cisslybee2012
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kennyinbmore
Aug 1 2012, 06:34 PM
truthisrespect
Aug 1 2012, 06:19 PM
:O

B-)

Sari!
Don't you just love the world according to Ciss? :D
I wouldn't share my privacy and then complain because my friend blew it between me and a scum bag. :D

I would just keep my phone out of reach and find another scum bag. :D

There's nothing more plentiful than scum bags. :D
Edited by cisslybee2012, Aug 1 2012, 06:52 PM.
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Cissly is right, I'm obviously not telling the whole story. However, Cissly - you have an uncanny way of making issues out to be about how evil and wicked men are... this is NOT the time to do that. I'm just saying.

And my situation is and has been from the beginning: if your best mate was at your house checking on your house / animals / etc.. while you were on a traveling escapade... and heard the phone ring... she answers it......then after explaining to the caller I'm not home, I don't have my cell phone, I'm out of the country, why I'm gone, etc...... then she sees I have X amount of number of texts..and reads them.

Not only did she read them, she text the individual BACK and was horrible to this person; apparently for being horrible to me first.

So the issue is: She read my texts then she replied and told this person he / she was an idiot, they didn't deserve my friendship, she called him / her a delusional arrogant selfish defensive dumbass. She called this person a liar! And she said this person was "infantile" because he / she refused to discuss (me) in an adult manner... And she called herself a "gatekeeper" to access to ME and if the OT didn't like it - that was their problem and they could go F themselves..... (yea, she has a mouth on her.)

So she's stepped in between two friends... who obviously were having a private beef with each other...for the OT to be texting the selfish things to me in the 1st place....

So - was she wrong to defend me? No. Was she wrong to try and protect my integrity? No. Was she wrong in "how" she handled it? Possibly.........that's my question.

And she wouldn't have discussed this with me 1st.... because she claims I'm "too nice."

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cisslybee2012
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But Sari,

Men are no more wicked than women are.

So why all the defense for men?
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cisslybee2012
Aug 1 2012, 07:08 PM
But Sari,

Men are no more wicked than women are.

So why all the defense for men?
Cissly - I don't deny men and women are equally wicked. They happen to be equally wonderful.

The difference between you and me is that I notice the wonderful in men, you don't seem to very often....

And this is not about if men or women are wicked or evil or wonderful or great....

It's simply - has my g/f overstepped a line, in spite of she thinking she was really doing the right thing?

And she's unapologetic about it.

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cisslybee2012
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Sari,

Your friend is more valuable than that scum bag you're going on about.

Scum bags are a dime a dozen, but a true friend is like a needle in a haystack. True friends are an endangered species.
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cisslybee2012
Aug 1 2012, 07:23 PM
Sari,

Your friend is more valuable than that scum bag you're going on about.

Scum bags are a dime a dozen, but a true friend is like a needle in a haystack. True friends are an endangered species.
Cissly - I totally agree with this statement, 100 percentile.

Thank you darling.... grazie, indeed!!

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