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Friendships.....; What makes them, what breaks them?
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Topic Started: Aug 1 2012, 04:09 PM (1,251 Views)
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G. A. W.
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Aug 1 2012, 05:32 PM
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- Aug 1 2012, 05:23 PM
You'd be doing what Sari did.
Attacking your friend for having your back to protect the ass who disrespected you.
Women do that all the time.
Many just don't feel right unless a man is abusing them. And they will have no one interfering with that need. A man's bullshit is more valuable to them than friends or family in their corner. Cissly - I never said it was a man who was sending me the original texts...
(I never said it wasn't, either...) but I just want to make sure that's understood.... 
Carry on.
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VoiceofReason
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Aug 1 2012, 05:38 PM
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- Aug 1 2012, 05:23 PM
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- Aug 1 2012, 04:59 PM
- Sari
- Aug 1 2012, 04:25 PM
- cisslybee2012
- Aug 1 2012, 04:14 PM
Gee Sari...
You don't appreciate your friend having your back.
But if you don't want anybody to read your messages, then don't make it available to them to read.
Cissly - OMG if you only KNEW. If you only....... KNEW. But you're right! I shouldn't keep information out for someone to have access to if I didn't want it read, yes, indeed........ But it was a rush of events... packing.... traveling.... making arrangements... it was all rush rush........... No excuses... BUT - yes, she does have my back. She's a very aggressive woman.... and so different than I am....... and handles things differently than I do...... She emailed me.... saying she was sorry she angered me, but she was NOT sorry for what she text back to the original sender!! LOL She's like that.... In other words, if she had it to do over again, she wouldn't have changed anything!
I probably would have told my friend.... "Listen, I'm a grown ass woman. I don't need you to fight any battles for me. Now, if shits going down and I tell you about it, that means I want your opinion, your input, maybe your help. But short of that, you overstepping. And I'd appreciate it, in the future, leave my crap to me, ok? Don't get it twisted, I love you.". Yeah, I'd forgive her.
You'd be doing what Sari did. Attacking your friend for having your back to protect the ass who disrespected you. Women do that all the time. Many just don't feel right unless a man is abusing them. And they will have no one interfering with that need. A man's bullshit is more valuable to them than friends or family in their corner. It would not matter to me if my friend was responding to a man or if she were responding to a female. The issue is not to kick one ass over the other. Sometimes all asses need a foot in them.
The point is, she was not invited to give her opinion, much less a response to an issue I am dealing with, period. Doesn't matter if it was a text, a piece or mail, or an answering machine message - she was not invited to participate.
Some women do choose to protect "their man" at the expense of their other relationships. Not applicable in this case. But thanks for the comment.
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cisslybee2012
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Aug 1 2012, 05:38 PM
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- Aug 1 2012, 05:32 PM
- cisslybee2012
- Aug 1 2012, 05:23 PM
You'd be doing what Sari did.
Attacking your friend for having your back to protect the ass who disrespected you.
Women do that all the time.
Many just don't feel right unless a man is abusing them. And they will have no one interfering with that need. A man's bullshit is more valuable to them than friends or family in their corner.
Cissly - I never said it was a man who was sending me the original texts... (I never said it wasn't, either...) but I just want to make sure that's understood....  Carry on. Well you did say:
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Negative issue: She's actually caused more drama / hardship than she thought would happen........ So when women are talking about drama, more drama, and hardship, it's usually over a man, because women don't use the term hardship unless they're talking about men.
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VoiceofReason
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Aug 1 2012, 05:42 PM
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- Sari
- Aug 1 2012, 05:32 PM
- cisslybee2012
- Aug 1 2012, 05:23 PM
You'd be doing what Sari did.
Attacking your friend for having your back to protect the ass who disrespected you.
Women do that all the time.
Many just don't feel right unless a man is abusing them. And they will have no one interfering with that need. A man's bullshit is more valuable to them than friends or family in their corner.
Cissly - I never said it was a man who was sending me the original texts... (I never said it wasn't, either...) but I just want to make sure that's understood....  Carry on.
Well you did say: - Quote:
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Negative issue: She's actually caused more drama / hardship than she thought would happen........
So when women are talking about drama, more drama, and hardship, it's usually over a man, because women don't use the term hardship unless they're talking about men. Doesn't matter if it was an x-lover, friend or family member. The friend invaded her privacy, and needed correction.
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cisslybee2012
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Aug 1 2012, 05:43 PM
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- truthisrespect
- Aug 1 2012, 05:38 PM
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- truthisrespect
- Aug 1 2012, 04:59 PM
- Sari
- Aug 1 2012, 04:25 PM
- cisslybee2012
- Aug 1 2012, 04:14 PM
Gee Sari...
You don't appreciate your friend having your back.
But if you don't want anybody to read your messages, then don't make it available to them to read.
Cissly - OMG if you only KNEW. If you only....... KNEW. But you're right! I shouldn't keep information out for someone to have access to if I didn't want it read, yes, indeed........ But it was a rush of events... packing.... traveling.... making arrangements... it was all rush rush........... No excuses... BUT - yes, she does have my back. She's a very aggressive woman.... and so different than I am....... and handles things differently than I do...... She emailed me.... saying she was sorry she angered me, but she was NOT sorry for what she text back to the original sender!! LOL She's like that.... In other words, if she had it to do over again, she wouldn't have changed anything!
I probably would have told my friend.... "Listen, I'm a grown ass woman. I don't need you to fight any battles for me. Now, if shits going down and I tell you about it, that means I want your opinion, your input, maybe your help. But short of that, you overstepping. And I'd appreciate it, in the future, leave my crap to me, ok? Don't get it twisted, I love you.". Yeah, I'd forgive her.
You'd be doing what Sari did. Attacking your friend for having your back to protect the ass who disrespected you. Women do that all the time. Many just don't feel right unless a man is abusing them. And they will have no one interfering with that need. A man's bullshit is more valuable to them than friends or family in their corner.
It would not matter to me if my friend was responding to a man or if she were responding to a female. The issue is not to kick one ass over the other. Sometimes all asses need a foot in them. The point is, she was not invited to give her opinion, much less a response to an issue I am dealing with, period. Doesn't matter if it was a text, a piece or mail, or an answering machine message - she was not invited to participate. Some women do choose to protect "their man" at the expense of their other relationships. Not applicable in this case. But thanks for the comment. I know what you mean.
I learned from my friend back in the day to let women have their abusive man.
Stay out of it.
They really believe they need to be abused.
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VoiceofReason
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Aug 1 2012, 05:43 PM
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To me, having her back would have been saying, "girl, I saw the text from so and so. Why are you letting them disrespect you like that?", and then drop some knowledge and some love.
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cisslybee2012
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Aug 1 2012, 05:44 PM
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- truthisrespect
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- cisslybee2012
- Aug 1 2012, 05:38 PM
- Sari
- Aug 1 2012, 05:32 PM
- cisslybee2012
- Aug 1 2012, 05:23 PM
You'd be doing what Sari did.
Attacking your friend for having your back to protect the ass who disrespected you.
Women do that all the time.
Many just don't feel right unless a man is abusing them. And they will have no one interfering with that need. A man's bullshit is more valuable to them than friends or family in their corner.
Cissly - I never said it was a man who was sending me the original texts... (I never said it wasn't, either...) but I just want to make sure that's understood....  Carry on.
Well you did say: - Quote:
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Negative issue: She's actually caused more drama / hardship than she thought would happen........
So when women are talking about drama, more drama, and hardship, it's usually over a man, because women don't use the term hardship unless they're talking about men.
Doesn't matter if it was an x-lover, friend or family member. The friend invaded her privacy, and needed correction. Agreed.
She needs other slaves for friends.
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cisslybee2012
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Aug 1 2012, 05:45 PM
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To me, having her back would have been saying, "girl, I saw the text from so and so. Why are you letting them disrespect you like that?", and then drop some knowledge and some love. As you said,
It doesn't matter.
If she wants that abusive man than leave her alone.
I agree with you on that all the way.
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G. A. W.
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Aug 1 2012, 05:48 PM
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- Aug 1 2012, 05:23 PM
You'd be doing what Sari did.
Attacking your friend for having your back to protect the ass who disrespected you.
Women do that all the time.
Many just don't feel right unless a man is abusing them. And they will have no one interfering with that need. A man's bullshit is more valuable to them than friends or family in their corner.
Cissly - I never said it was a man who was sending me the original texts... (I never said it wasn't, either...) but I just want to make sure that's understood....  Carry on.
Well you did say: - Quote:
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Negative issue: She's actually caused more drama / hardship than she thought would happen........
So when women are talking about drama, more drama, and hardship, it's usually over a man, because women don't use the term hardship unless they're talking about men. Very interesting point, indeed.
However, I don't wish it to be assumed it was a male....
Edited by G. A. W., Aug 1 2012, 05:49 PM.
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VoiceofReason
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Aug 1 2012, 05:51 PM
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To me, having her back would have been saying, "girl, I saw the text from so and so. Why are you letting them disrespect you like that?", and then drop some knowledge and some love.
As you said, It doesn't matter. If she wants that abusive man than leave her alone. I agree with you on that all the way. I think it would be weak to let the friend "handle" the issue for her. I don't see how you think that would be cool.
Anyway, Cissley, if you help yourself to my phone messages... You and me, we gone have a prob. I'm just saying.
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