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One night stands; One night stand that didn’t live up to expectations
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Topic Started: Jul 11 2012, 09:52 PM (15,195 Views)
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Veritas
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Jul 14 2012, 10:00 AM
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- Sari
- Jul 14 2012, 09:42 AM
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Oh and you can know someone for years and still not know who.or what you are sleeping with.
Absolutely! True that. In reference to spontanious acts: And.... I can say that having scheduled romantic interludes is not exactly my cup of tea, either... "Honey - I'm looking at my calendar and I can pencil in some oral sex on the 13th, between 8 - 10 pm." Yes, there is some truth to that, but if you can be with somone for years and not know them, something is definitely wrong with that. Either you are ignoring things that you are seeing or being too trusting. It also begs the question that after years of being with or knowing a person, how can you ever hope to KNOW anyone? What are the salieent requiremnst, criteria, compoments neded to try ad REALLY get to know someone? If that can never be achieved, how can there ever be any real realtionships? The thought is going to always going to be, do I REALLY know this person and when that kind of doubt creeps in, it's likely going to have an adverse impact on the relationship.
I thinks that over time, people change for any number of reasons where the person that you THOUGHT you knew becomes someone else. I more sanguine in that regard because I STILL believe in the possibility of a person being consistent in their behavior over along period of time. Communication, understanding, compromise, mutual respect, consideration and selflessness are all important in maintaining a SOLID relationship that can last for a very long time in my opinion. I don't think that we should ever allow it to become all about waht WE want individually, but rather how can we be the very best that we can be and present that person to the person that we are in a relationship with. jmho.
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kennyinbmore
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Jul 14 2012, 10:27 AM
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Here's another point to be made. IF I were so inclined, I could get coochie everyday from different women, but for ME, it's NEVER been about that. I've never felt the need to just go out and get me some "pussy" just to satisfy an urge. No worries my brother, I'll pick up your slack
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kennyinbmore
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Jul 14 2012, 10:34 AM
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Yes, there is some truth to that, but if you can be with somone for years and not know them, something is definitely wrong with that. Either you are ignoring things that you are seeing or being too trusting. some people are very good at keeping secrets my brother. I mean how many times has some mass murderer gone postal and when they interview his parents, they had no clue because he was a completely normal child? How many women get divorced after 10 or 15 years because they found out their man was having an affair. I get your point, but in my opinion it's not as cut and dried as you're making it out to be.
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Glenn D.
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Jul 14 2012, 10:34 AM
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Yall making it seem too complicated. One night stand.... You meet, like each other, fuck, thats it... seee ya
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Glenn D.
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Jul 14 2012, 10:38 AM
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Had a gew one night stands.
Lady who was married and mad at her husband Lady who I been lusting after hit me off on my birthday Lady who been lusting after me but I was not atracted to. (mercy fuck)
It happens... if your in the arena...
Had one, one night stand with a chick I met when doing some business... we ended up being married for over 20 years, and having 3 children.
Women must realize that with a lot of men in the beginning... they all just a bootie call...
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negroplease
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Jul 14 2012, 10:39 AM
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- Jul 14 2012, 09:24 AM
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What rational person has sex with someone they've met on the first dayum night in this day and age of HIV, new forms of STDs that don't respond to conventional treatments and just plain psychotic people who know how to cloak their "crazy" very well until it's too late? Who the hell can connect with someone so quickly that they are willing to share such an intimate "moment" with them after a few hours of being together? One night stand? More like a one night "chance" of getting your ass hurt or killed or contracting a life long disease.
Lol. V, I cant argue with this at all. But sometimes they happen. And those who do it arent looking for that intimate connection, There are definitely pros and ckns to one night stands Its all about who you are, your personality, if you can handle it, etc.
"its all about that animalistic pleasure and spontaneous moments of fun." Coludn't agree with you more baby girl! In my mind that is what makes it irrational in my opinion because it is "animalistic". However, as I mentioned, I don't see it stopping because "risk" is a turn on for some people. For instance, people who have sex in unconventional places like airplane bathrooms, elevators, or airport corridors, etc., find the idea of possibly being "caught" a turn on. Someone sent me a pic once of this couple having sex high atop of a bridge. How the heck they got there, I have no idea. Again, I think that it lends credence to your comment. speaking strictly from a man's perspective and conversations that we men have from time to time, some cats like coochie strictly for the sake of coochie. The woman simply becomes an "object" and benefit their pleasure. They could care less about anything else about her. In their minds they have to "dehumanize" her and she becomes just one big coochie to them devoid of any other human qualities. Perhaps I'm old fashion in that regard, but I could never see a woman in that way and I DO think about how I would feel if someone viewed my daughter in that way. It's called having a conscience, at least for me. Here's another point to be made. IF I were so inclined, I could get coochie everyday from different women, but for ME, it's NEVER been about that. I've never felt the need to just go out and get me some "pussy" just to satisfy an urge. I need to get to know the woman. Her likes, dislikes, her views on a broad range of topics, how she feels about her family, about Black people, about kids, about money, about relationships in general. Things like that. If she is willing to sex me on the first night, the first thing that is going to pop in my mind is how many other times has she done this and why she has such a low opinion of herself and her body. So I'm going to run like Ursaine Bolt in the other direction. Then I'm going to wonder whether she keeps her "pocket book" clean and healthy. If her punana smells like Jimmy Hoffa is rotting away up in there after 30 years or some things are flowing out of it that could be the topic of a sci fi movie, that is an INSTANT flag to get the hell on!!! Thats what Im talking about boo!
I like men who like monogamy.
And arent on constant pussy quests!
I was just trying to show both sides.
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negroplease
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Jul 14 2012, 10:41 AM
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But having sex on the first night doesnt necessarily mean you have a low opinion of your body.
And I hope you would feel the same way about men who do the same thing on the first night.
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negroplease
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Jul 14 2012, 10:43 AM
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Dont underestimate women so much.
Stop making them look like victims when they may have just wanted some dick and.to move on too
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cisslybee2012
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Jul 14 2012, 10:54 AM
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But having sex on the first night doesnt necessarily mean you have a low opinion of your body.
And I hope you would feel the same way about men who do the same thing on the first night.
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cisslybee2012
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Jul 14 2012, 10:55 AM
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- Veritas
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- Jul 13 2012, 10:21 PM
What rational person has sex with someone they've met on the first dayum night in this day and age of HIV, new forms of STDs that don't respond to conventional treatments and just plain psychotic people who know how to cloak their "crazy" very well until it's too late? Who the hell can connect with someone so quickly that they are willing to share such an intimate "moment" with them after a few hours of being together? One night stand? More like a one night "chance" of getting your ass hurt or killed or contracting a life long disease.
Lol. V, I cant argue with this at all. But sometimes they happen. And those who do it arent looking for that intimate connection, There are definitely pros and ckns to one night stands Its all about who you are, your personality, if you can handle it, etc.
"its all about that animalistic pleasure and spontaneous moments of fun." Coludn't agree with you more baby girl! In my mind that is what makes it irrational in my opinion because it is "animalistic". However, as I mentioned, I don't see it stopping because "risk" is a turn on for some people. For instance, people who have sex in unconventional places like airplane bathrooms, elevators, or airport corridors, etc., find the idea of possibly being "caught" a turn on. Someone sent me a pic once of this couple having sex high atop of a bridge. How the heck they got there, I have no idea. Again, I think that it lends credence to your comment. speaking strictly from a man's perspective and conversations that we men have from time to time, some cats like coochie strictly for the sake of coochie. The woman simply becomes an "object" and benefit their pleasure. They could care less about anything else about her. In their minds they have to "dehumanize" her and she becomes just one big coochie to them devoid of any other human qualities. Perhaps I'm old fashion in that regard, but I could never see a woman in that way and I DO think about how I would feel if someone viewed my daughter in that way. It's called having a conscience, at least for me. Here's another point to be made. IF I were so inclined, I could get coochie everyday from different women, but for ME, it's NEVER been about that. I've never felt the need to just go out and get me some "pussy" just to satisfy an urge. I need to get to know the woman. Her likes, dislikes, her views on a broad range of topics, how she feels about her family, about Black people, about kids, about money, about relationships in general. Things like that. If she is willing to sex me on the first night, the first thing that is going to pop in my mind is how many other times has she done this and why she has such a low opinion of herself and her body. So I'm going to run like Ursaine Bolt in the other direction. Then I'm going to wonder whether she keeps her "pocket book" clean and healthy. If her punana smells like Jimmy Hoffa is rotting away up in there after 30 years or some things are flowing out of it that could be the topic of a sci fi movie, that is an INSTANT flag to get the hell on!!!
Thats what Im talking about boo! I like men who like monogamy. And arent on constant pussy quests! I was just trying to show both sides. If that's true then what makes Sam your E-love?
Why do you always tell him to get her?
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