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One night stands; One night stand that didn’t live up to expectations
Topic Started: Jul 11 2012, 09:52 PM (15,196 Views)
cisslybee2012
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Well I learned in my own experience with dating that even somebody you talked to everyday for six months or longer can still be a one night stand to that person, and have dangerous results over a breakup. In other words, a stopping of the sexual activity. He tried to harm me physically and harassed me until I moved to a new location for simply walking away peacefully.

So I don't play the one night stand game. I don't dabble down that alley.

It's getting to the point that every time I turn the news on I'm hearing about a murder occurring with no signs of a break in or links of visitors anybody the deceased knew could pinpoint which are likely resulting from night stands.
Edited by cisslybee2012, Jul 13 2012, 11:24 PM.
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True to some extent, but you have a better chance of seeing "red flags" and discovering a person's STD/HIV status over a 6 month period than you do after only two or three hours. Where I agree with you is that even after 6 months you can discover that the person has major issues (dangerous and/or psychotic). The key, in my opinion, is to trust your instincts along with the things that you are seeing which shouldn't be ignore. There are often simple ways to find out who people really are. Sometimes all it takes is a short conversation. If you are an attentive listener, you can learn a whole lot in a short period of time, but you won't learn their HIV/STD status that way unless they are brutally honest enough to tell you. There are probably very few people, if any, who are going to give up that kind of information after only a few hours......maybe never.
Edited by Veritas, Jul 13 2012, 11:58 PM.
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cisslybee2012
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Jul 13 2012, 11:56 PM
True to some extent, but you have a better chance of seeing "red flags" and discovering a person's STD/HIV status over a 6 month period than you do after only two or three hours. Where I agree with you is that even after 6 months you can discover that the person has major issues (dangerous and/or psychotic). The key, in my opinion, is to trust your instincts along with the things that you are seeing which shouldn't be ignore. There are often simple ways to find out who people really are. Sometimes all it takes is a short conversation. If you are an attentive listener, you can learn a whole lot in a short period of time, but you won't learn their HIV/STD status that way unless they are brutally honest enough to tell you. There are probably very few people, if any, who are going to give up that kind of information after only a few hours......maybe never.
Well,

If I were to date somebody and thinking of doing it with him, pre testing would be mandatory. And if he's negative, condoms would still be mandatory.

But back in the day I didn't know anything about life or what red flags to look for. So my instincts led me to back out altogether because I saw dating as too dangerous. Men were all over me everywhere I went, and these men were dependent on some kind of substance or alcohol. Many were married. I just refused to live my life on drugs and sex, or somebody's double life stashed in the closet.

The Bee wasn't going out like that. Period. I chose freedom over slavery, and lived my whole life clean. And clean is how I'm going out. ;)
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Jul 13 2012, 10:21 PM
What rational person has sex with someone they've met on the first dayum night in this day and age of HIV, new forms of STDs that don't respond to conventional treatments and just plain psychotic people who know how to cloak their "crazy" very well until it's too late? Who the hell can connect with someone so quickly that they are willing to share such an intimate "moment" with them after a few hours of being together? One night stand? More like a one night "chance" of getting your ass hurt or killed or contracting a life long disease.
i agree with u there..

don`t forget about efficiency of labor concept..... all dat WORK for couple of hours of unpredictable performance and outcome

my belief is if iam putting dat much work i better be hitting dat shit ON DEMAND from that day onwards

if u really HAVE to do a one night stand ,why not dial up pu..y from an agency ... at least u KNOW what u getting, etc

oh don`t forget they can PERFORM david lettermen pet tricks better too. lol

Edited by beserker, Jul 14 2012, 03:46 AM.
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negroplease

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Jul 13 2012, 10:21 PM
What rational person has sex with someone they've met on the first dayum night in this day and age of HIV, new forms of STDs that don't respond to conventional treatments and just plain psychotic people who know how to cloak their "crazy" very well until it's too late? Who the hell can connect with someone so quickly that they are willing to share such an intimate "moment" with them after a few hours of being together? One night stand? More like a one night "chance" of getting your ass hurt or killed or contracting a life long disease.
Lol.

V, I cant argue with this at all. But sometimes they happen.

And those who do it arent looking for that intimate connection, its all about that animalistic pleasure and spontaneous moments of fun.

There are definitely pros and ckns to one night stands

Its all about who you are, your personality, if you can handle it, etc.
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Oh and you can know someone for years and still not know who.or what you are sleeping with.
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I have never had a one night stand though. They always came back for more.
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Jul 14 2012, 08:50 AM
its all about that animalistic pleasure and spontaneous moments of fun.

YESSSSSSS!!!!!!!!
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Jul 14 2012, 08:50 AM
Veritas
Jul 13 2012, 10:21 PM
What rational person has sex with someone they've met on the first dayum night in this day and age of HIV, new forms of STDs that don't respond to conventional treatments and just plain psychotic people who know how to cloak their "crazy" very well until it's too late? Who the hell can connect with someone so quickly that they are willing to share such an intimate "moment" with them after a few hours of being together? One night stand? More like a one night "chance" of getting your ass hurt or killed or contracting a life long disease.
Lol.

V, I cant argue with this at all. But sometimes they happen.

And those who do it arent looking for that intimate connection, There are definitely pros and ckns to one night stands

Its all about who you are, your personality, if you can handle it, etc.
"its all about that animalistic pleasure and spontaneous moments of fun."

Coludn't agree with you more baby girl! In my mind that is what makes it irrational in my opinion because it is "animalistic". However, as I mentioned, I don't see it stopping because "risk" is a turn on for some people. For instance, people who have sex in unconventional places like airplane bathrooms, elevators, or airport corridors, etc., find the idea of possibly being "caught" a turn on. Someone sent me a pic once of this couple having sex high atop of a bridge. How the heck they got there, I have no idea. Again, I think that it lends credence to your comment. speaking strictly from a man's perspective and conversations that we men have from time to time, some cats like coochie strictly for the sake of coochie. The woman simply becomes an "object" and benefit their pleasure. They could care less about anything else about her. In their minds they have to "dehumanize" her and she becomes just one big coochie to them devoid of any other human qualities. Perhaps I'm old fashion in that regard, but I could never see a woman in that way and I DO think about how I would feel if someone viewed my daughter in that way. It's called having a conscience, at least for me.

Here's another point to be made. IF I were so inclined, I could get coochie everyday from different women, but for ME, it's NEVER been about that. I've never felt the need to just go out and get me some "pussy" just to satisfy an urge. I need to get to know the woman. Her likes, dislikes, her views on a broad range of topics, how she feels about her family, about Black people, about kids, about money, about relationships in general. Things like that. If she is willing to sex me on the first night, the first thing that is going to pop in my mind is how many other times has she done this and why she has such a low opinion of herself and her body. So I'm going to run like Ursaine Bolt in the other direction. Then I'm going to wonder whether she keeps her "pocket book" clean and healthy. If her punana smells like Jimmy Hoffa is rotting away up in there after 30 years or some things are flowing out of it that could be the topic of a sci fi movie, that is an INSTANT flag to get the hell on!!!

Edited by Veritas, Jul 14 2012, 09:27 AM.
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Jul 14 2012, 08:50 AM
Oh and you can know someone for years and still not know who.or what you are sleeping with.
Absolutely!

True that.

In reference to spontanious acts:

And.... I can say that having scheduled romantic interludes is not exactly my cup of tea, either...

"Honey - I'm looking at my calendar and I can pencil in some oral sex on the 13th, between 8 - 10 pm."
Edited by G. A. W., Jul 14 2012, 09:43 AM.
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