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Topic Started: Jan 5 2012, 01:29 AM (8,802 Views)
negroplease

truthisrespect
Aug 24 2012, 10:29 AM
shutupalready
Aug 23 2012, 08:35 PM
I still say both parents could work the bare minimum and raise those kids then!!!

But yes, I imagine all that is stressful. But most women who miss all that and want all that aren't all that career oriented. They like the stay a home.life.


As for those other women who don't, not overrated.

Retiring by 30 might not be so bad.

I think I would be bored though.

Its all about working a job you love I suppose.
Of course, but both working "the bare minimum" is unrealistic, isn't it? Both may not be interested in "equal" parenting. I can't even imagine what that looks like.

In life we specialize, we gravitate to those things we are good at and have passion for...child-rearing is no different. If my husband had been the one who bore the child, he may have had a hard time leaving him with strangers. We both "had" a baby per say, but he went back to work three days later with no quams about it. Whereas I stayed off work nearly a year because I felt passionate about being the primary caretaker of our kid.

Off topic. This is what pisses me off when the clones start talking about women taking men's money after divorce. They disregard that the woman may have sacrificed mucho dinero by becoming primary caretaker. You can't get those earning years back, and it's impossible to make up that experience gap.

So, the woman is not taking the mans money. She's splitting a small part of what her sacrifice allowed him to generate for the family.
The bare minimum is realistic.

The men who are super career oriented and want to get the very top in life, are they overrrated, like the women mentioned are?

He could work his job, just like she and not strive to make it to the top of the chain at the expense of sacrificing his family time.

Since we want to say women doing this is overrated.

Whats wrong with equal parenting?

Didnt you both have that child, shouldnt you both be there to raise it?

What is your idea of parenting if you cant imagine it being equal?

Just would like to hear your thoughts.

But before you respond, if its things like I cant imagine a man wanting to stay at home all day with his own children, teaching, feeding, watching them grow, why wouldnt he want to do that, and why should a woman be the only to have to do that.


Or are you saying women are the only ones whoever want to do that?

Is that natural or is that socialized behavior?

Edited by negroplease, Aug 24 2012, 11:18 AM.
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negroplease

Rick1
Aug 24 2012, 10:32 AM
There's no such thing as 50/50 in marriage or relationships. Somebody will be doing more but if it works for the couple, fuck everybody else.
Doing more in terms of?

Wouldnt it be they are both doing an equal amount of work, just in different areas?
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Aug 24 2012, 11:19 AM
Rick1
Aug 24 2012, 10:32 AM
There's no such thing as 50/50 in marriage or relationships. Somebody will be doing more but if it works for the couple, fuck everybody else.
Doing more in terms of?

Wouldnt it be they are both doing an equal amount of work, just in different areas?
I'm looking for a long term partner, and I agree with you.

The guys who disagree with you are just looking for booty calls.

Drama in a long term relationship is what ends the relationship.
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Aug 24 2012, 10:32 AM
There's no such thing as 50/50 in marriage or relationships. Somebody will be doing more but if it works for the couple, fuck everybody else.
Exactly. B-)
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Can I just add, this type of thinking is why Cissly thinks men are useless and children dont need fathers in their life.
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truthisrespect
Aug 24 2012, 11:23 AM
Rick1
Aug 24 2012, 10:32 AM
There's no such thing as 50/50 in marriage or relationships. Somebody will be doing more but if it works for the couple, fuck everybody else.
Exactly. B-)
Doing more in terms of?

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VoiceofReason

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Aug 24 2012, 11:19 AM
Rick1
Aug 24 2012, 10:32 AM
There's no such thing as 50/50 in marriage or relationships. Somebody will be doing more but if it works for the couple, fuck everybody else.
Doing more in terms of?

Wouldnt it be they are both doing an equal amount of work, just in different areas?
You could look at it like that.
But who is to say what's equal! :D

I know I do more "work" than my husband. ;)
I'm sure he'd say he does more "work" than me. :D
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VoiceofReason

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Aug 24 2012, 11:23 AM
Can I just add, this type of thinking is why Cissly thinks men are useless and children dont need fathers in their life.
Well, we know that Cissly is wrong. Her logic is faulty.

My kids need my husbands' perspectives, his method of discipline, his method of bonding with them, his methods of instilling values into them. They need it. His ways are different than mine. And I think they need both. They get both, in different ways.
Edited by VoiceofReason, Aug 24 2012, 11:27 AM.
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negroplease

truthisrespect
Aug 24 2012, 11:24 AM
shutupalready
Aug 24 2012, 11:19 AM
Rick1
Aug 24 2012, 10:32 AM
There's no such thing as 50/50 in marriage or relationships. Somebody will be doing more but if it works for the couple, fuck everybody else.
Doing more in terms of?

Wouldnt it be they are both doing an equal amount of work, just in different areas?
You could look at it like that.
But who is to say what's equal! :D

I know I do more "work" than my husband. ;)
I'm sure he'd say he does more "work" than me. :D
Who is to say it isnt equal?

But to blatantly say one is doing more than the other sets yourself up to not expect more from the other partner. Or to allow a power differential.

If that is the kind of marriage you want, more power to you guys
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VoiceofReason

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Aug 24 2012, 11:26 AM
truthisrespect
Aug 24 2012, 11:24 AM
shutupalready
Aug 24 2012, 11:19 AM
Rick1
Aug 24 2012, 10:32 AM
There's no such thing as 50/50 in marriage or relationships. Somebody will be doing more but if it works for the couple, fuck everybody else.
Doing more in terms of?

Wouldnt it be they are both doing an equal amount of work, just in different areas?
You could look at it like that.
But who is to say what's equal! :D

I know I do more "work" than my husband. ;)
I'm sure he'd say he does more "work" than me. :D
Who is to say it isnt equal?

But to blatantly say one is doing more than the other sets yourself up to not expect more from the other partner. Or to allow a power differential.

If that is the kind of marriage you want, more power to you guys
That's what I said. Who is to say WHAT is equal?
It's simply whether what the couple is doing works for the couple.
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