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Rick1
Aug 23 2012, 02:30 PM
The bitch with those ugly feet don been thru something too but HELL NAW it ain't the same.
Now Rick, that's not a nice thing to say....do you need a spanking from your black british german Mum?

(OMG! LOL LOL)

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How did it get THAT BAD! And i bet she walks around in flip flops all day.
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Maybe that is what he is saying, and if he is I do apologize for insinuating. However, he did preface it with the women and men have different roles story. Looks like some sort of hierarchy he believes in where the man is a notch above and any women who tries to reach that notch is "competing" with him.

We do have different roles. Men are generally physically stronger. Women bring life into the world. It's not hierarchy. It's how nature has constructed us as 2 halves of a whole.

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However, in my experiences, men who are saying they dont want a woman competing with him, are saying they dont want an equal who could compete. One who doesnt want competition is a person who wants to remain on top and in charge.

How's your relationship been with men who engage in the sort of competition you reference?

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Now had he said, I dont want an obnoxious woman who tries to control me, that would have been something that I completely understand and agree with.

That sort of woman wouldn't even show up on my radar!
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Rick1
Aug 23 2012, 03:00 PM
How did it get THAT BAD! And i bet she walks around in flip flops all day.
Actually, some people do have a "condition" where their skin is tough and thick...

But I always believed that it's not anything a pumice stone and good moisturizer wouldn't be able to handle..

Maybe I'm wrong....

But she "could" go see a damned foot Dr! Surely something could be done there.......

However, I'm not a foot expert, so what do I know.

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negroplease

I have never been in a relationship with men who thought everything was a competition. Never been with a man who would even fix his mouth to say dont try to compete with me, because we were/are in equal footing in our relationships. There was nothing to compete about.

So that should answer your question.

Now you said women who are domineering and controlling are trying to compete with their man.

In order to compete, you have to be trying to achieve the same thing as the next person or be better than the next person. So are domineering and controlling aspects of a man and something he should be? Should a woman let the man be the domineering and controlling one?

Men are physically stronger, no doubt about it. Perhaps if you gave me some more examples of what you see as competition.

So far you mentioned controlling and domineering. That sounds like a struggle to be the one in charge. There shouldnt just be one person in charge.

Elaborate some more for me.

What are your views of how relationships should go down, women make the babies, so they should stay home and nurture them, while men go out and make the bread, and a man makes all the decisions, and a woman shouldnt try to or else she is"competing" with him?


I got what you said earlier about at some point one person may be suited to make a better decision than the other, but who is to say that person isnt the woman?

And in decision making processes it should be a consensus.


Edited by negroplease, Aug 23 2012, 03:19 PM.
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Aug 23 2012, 03:09 PM
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Maybe that is what he is saying, and if he is I do apologize for insinuating. However, he did preface it with the women and men have different roles story. Looks like some sort of hierarchy he believes in where the man is a notch above and any women who tries to reach that notch is "competing" with him.

We do have different roles. Men are generally physically stronger. Women bring life into the world. It's not hierarchy. It's how nature has constructed us as 2 halves of a whole.

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However, in my experiences, men who are saying they dont want a woman competing with him, are saying they dont want an equal who could compete. One who doesnt want competition is a person who wants to remain on top and in charge.

How's your relationship been with men who engage in the sort of competition you reference?

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Now had he said, I dont want an obnoxious woman who tries to control me, that would have been something that I completely understand and agree with.

That sort of woman wouldn't even show up on my radar!
Ok with that being said....if women bring kids in the world then how does a man compete?

And what exactly do you mean when referring to competing but state men are stronger? Are you having a weight lifting match?
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And SUA, I believe most men, especially the decent ones will fall in the category you describe. There is a larger proportion of women however who are more so into competing. In part due to stuff like no man is gonna tell me what to do, or he thinks I'm stupid, or a whole host of other rationales.
So you find petty stuff like, if he got a sports car i'm gonna get one too that's faster. You never hear guys going, she bought this $200 dress, I'm gonna buy myself a $200 suit to compete with her purchase.

As far as your baby example, I happen to think it's better if a baby can be at home with it's mother for at least a few years. In fact I believe more women feel that way and that whole career woman thing is overhyped. That said, decisions like that are best left to the couple as a pair. Factors like child care, money are typically the driving forces and for most couples both parties come to a consensus.
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Aug 23 2012, 04:10 PM
psalongo
Aug 23 2012, 03:09 PM
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Maybe that is what he is saying, and if he is I do apologize for insinuating. However, he did preface it with the women and men have different roles story. Looks like some sort of hierarchy he believes in where the man is a notch above and any women who tries to reach that notch is "competing" with him.

We do have different roles. Men are generally physically stronger. Women bring life into the world. It's not hierarchy. It's how nature has constructed us as 2 halves of a whole.

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However, in my experiences, men who are saying they dont want a woman competing with him, are saying they dont want an equal who could compete. One who doesnt want competition is a person who wants to remain on top and in charge.

How's your relationship been with men who engage in the sort of competition you reference?

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Now had he said, I dont want an obnoxious woman who tries to control me, that would have been something that I completely understand and agree with.

That sort of woman wouldn't even show up on my radar!
Ok with that being said....if women bring kids in the world then how does a man compete?

And what exactly do you mean when referring to competing but state men are stronger? Are you having a weight lifting match?
Well with kids, there may be issues about who's values will be imparted into the child if the parents disagree on a particular issue, ie religion, socialization, academics, etc.

I used the strength example to merely highlight that men and women while equal are different. I wouldn't doubt there may be a few women who might challenge their men in a bench press :D
Edited by Snidely Whiplash, Aug 23 2012, 05:10 PM.
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negroplease

Aww man PSA, did you say being a career woman is overhyped?

We gone have to fight now.

Not every woman wants to stay home and take care of children. They have passions they want to pursue as well.

Perhaps the first few years staying home would be best. But career woman, no hype. Children wont be home all day forever.

And if we want to talk about ideal situations, men should work the bare minimum for the family to be comfortable, not focus on getting ahead in their career and be there to support their children and help raise them as well then

He need not be career focused either if that's the case.
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Aug 23 2012, 06:34 PM
Aww man PSA, did you say being a career woman is overhyped?

We gone have to fight now.

Not every woman wants to stay home and take care of children. They have passions they want to pursue as well.

Perhaps the first few years staying home would be best. But career woman, no hype. Children wont be home all day forever.

And if we want to talk about ideal situations, men should work the bare minimum for the family to be comfortable, not focus on getting ahead in their career and be there to support their children and help raise them as well then

He need not be career focused either if that's the case.
All couples don't want kids.

When a woman tells me she wants kids, I bounce.


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