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| Topic Started: Dec 20 2011, 08:46 PM (19,981 Views) | |
| Doctor Magnus Warlock | Dec 26 2011, 09:12 PM Post #171 |
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I would only get married, if I brought children into the world. Seriously. |
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| VoiceofReason | Dec 26 2011, 11:13 PM Post #172 |
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With the divorce rate so high, I'm just starting to wonder if it's better to avoid the marriage part altogether. Divorce is so traumatic, right? |
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| Doctor Magnus Warlock | Dec 26 2011, 11:43 PM Post #173 |
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Truth, You are correct. But I must do all that I can to provide a stable environment if I helped bring a little one into this world. In my innermost heart of hearts, marriage is still a sacred union between two people committed to each other for life. I would want my offspring to come from such a union. The girlfriend/boyfriend thing would not work. I don't want to be a single parent. I don't want a baby mama. I want my offspring living under my roof with me. I want the lady bold enough to carry my offspring under the same roof as me. Perhaps I feel this way because I came from a single parent home. I knew of my father, but never knew him personally. He died when I was 10. I have a picture of him, but that's about it. That absence has always left a hole within me. It would kill me if my offspring had a non-existant relationship with me. Who knows if the marriage would last? Still, I would have to at least try, and give it my all. If it ends in divorce, and I lose my wealth, so be it. I could accept the mother moving on then if I knew that we were not meant to be. But, we would have to maintain some type of respectful understanding for the kids. I would take that gamble only if kids are involved. |
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| VoiceofReason | Dec 26 2011, 11:54 PM Post #174 |
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 Understood. I hope if that day comes, it is with a like-minded woman who shares your view in deed and spirit. Then, you'll both be fine. My husbands' father died when he was a boy too... And he is completely committed to these kids of ours. It's one reason I married him - I knew I wanted a family man, and it was after seeing his reverance towards his mom, and playfulness with his nieces & nephews (and how much they loved him), that I decided he was the right one. Right before we entered the dining area for our engagement party, he stopped me and said, "you realize this is forever, right". (I could've taken it as a threat, but decided it was evidence of his commitment to the union.  ) When we hit rough spots, the dialogue was, 'we have to fix this because divorce is not an option.'  16 years later, we're better than ever. Edited by VoiceofReason, Dec 26 2011, 11:57 PM.
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| negroplease | Dec 27 2011, 12:05 AM Post #175 |
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Aww truth! Awesome! |
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| Doctor Magnus Warlock | Dec 27 2011, 12:18 AM Post #176 |
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That is the thing, marriage is a life-long partnership. A couple will face some tough times. But both parties have to be committed to each other to brave the storms & strife in order to make it work. And if children are involved, the couple must work hard to set aside much of their individual desires, whims, and selfish tendecies and create a loving stable environment. When I was raising my niece, I did not mind being cold, hungry, & broke...so long as she was not. |
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| Deleted User | Dec 27 2011, 01:56 AM Post #177 |
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You're not funny anymore.
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| cisslybee2012 | Dec 27 2011, 02:22 AM Post #178 |
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The REBEL
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Sure. It means voluntary chattel slavery.  And the vows mean to be a sucker. 
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| Hazeshawn | Dec 27 2011, 02:31 AM Post #179 |
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Maybe in a perfect World, but our World isn't that perfect. Marriage should be a life long commitment, but ever since there was such a thing as divorce, the commitment doesn't have to be there anymore. People can get married for a week and then call it quits! The reasons behind it aren't even a big deal anymore! Marriage doesn't mean what it once did... like in the 18th Century! My Marriage was for shit! As I look back, I tell myself I should have never gotten married. I know why I did... I felt sympathy for this Woman raising two children on her own and I started to think with my heart (not even with my brain or my dick)! In the end it was shit! |
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| Doctor Magnus Warlock | Dec 27 2011, 09:30 AM Post #180 |
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Haze...you married out of sympathy, not love. Alot of people I know who got divorce have told me that they had seconds thoughts even on the wedding day, and still went through the ceremony. And eventually, they filed for divorce. Two people, whether they are married or not ,must be on the same page, and strive to achieve the same goals. Marriage is a partnership, and alot of me-stuff must be set aside for the union to be successful. It is not too different than a music band. Most bands split up because individual self-interest gets in the way of the groups' main objectives. That is why I would only marry if children are involved. Because my objective would shift from my own individual hedonism to experiencing joy in providing for my family. Being selfless, and finding joy in it is a key to marriage. I say this as a man who has raised children. |
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