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Great points, V-Man.

I felt the same way when my niece was born. I looked after her during the first 13 years of her life.

Sometimes it is just human nature to look after your kin.
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sam_wilson
Jan 22 2012, 03:53 PM
Sometimes it is just human nature to look after your kin.
Shouldn't be sometimes. Should be all the time. They're kin, blood or otherwise.
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Jan 22 2012, 04:15 PM
sam_wilson
Jan 22 2012, 03:53 PM
Sometimes it is just human nature to look after your kin.
Shouldn't be sometimes. Should be all the time. They're kin, blood or otherwise.
Depends, I out my kin on strict terms. (Adults anyway) I have noticed that family will fuck you over faster than a friend or stranger because they feel blood is thicker than water.

Too many times have I been fucked over and the reply is "How can you be mad at your family like that, yall are family"

If that was the case I wouldnt have been fucked over.

A friend, is still capable and they can fuck you over but a friend who values your friendship and knows that they have wont chance it and fuck it up
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Trelmorez86
Jan 22 2012, 04:47 PM
Blaq
Jan 22 2012, 04:15 PM
sam_wilson
Jan 22 2012, 03:53 PM
Sometimes it is just human nature to look after your kin.
Shouldn't be sometimes. Should be all the time. They're kin, blood or otherwise.
Depends, I out my kin on strict terms. (Adults anyway) I have noticed that family will fuck you over faster than a friend or stranger because they feel blood is thicker than water.

Too many times have I been fucked over and the reply is "How can you be mad at your family like that, yall are family"

If that was the case I wouldnt have been fucked over.

A friend, is still capable and they can fuck you over but a friend who values your friendship and knows that they have wont chance it and fuck it up
They have to do some real fucked up shit to me personally or another honored family member like the matriarch or the patriarch before I out any kin related. And even then I don't cut them off completely. I keep them on a long leash and when they feel like coming back I use my way with words to get inside their heads.

I don't think family will fuck you over faster than a friend or stranger. I think it just hurts harder when they do because who gives a shit if some stranger or even a friend fucks you over compared to a family member?
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Blaq
Jan 22 2012, 05:28 PM
Trelmorez86
Jan 22 2012, 04:47 PM
Blaq
Jan 22 2012, 04:15 PM
sam_wilson
Jan 22 2012, 03:53 PM
Sometimes it is just human nature to look after your kin.
Shouldn't be sometimes. Should be all the time. They're kin, blood or otherwise.
Depends, I out my kin on strict terms. (Adults anyway) I have noticed that family will fuck you over faster than a friend or stranger because they feel blood is thicker than water.

Too many times have I been fucked over and the reply is "How can you be mad at your family like that, yall are family"

If that was the case I wouldnt have been fucked over.

A friend, is still capable and they can fuck you over but a friend who values your friendship and knows that they have wont chance it and fuck it up
They have to do some real fucked up shit to me personally or another honored family member like the matriarch or the patriarch before I out any kin related. And even then I don't cut them off completely. I keep them on a long leash and when they feel like coming back I use my way with words to get inside their heads.

I don't think family will fuck you over faster than a friend or stranger. I think it just hurts harder when they do because who gives a shit if some stranger or even a friend fucks you over compared to a family member?
Nah, for me man its easy for me to cut people off, family and friends. You have to work hard as fuck to get back in with me. Friends know this, thats why they dont screw me over.

Sure family dont have to work AS HARD to get back in good standings with me but they can and do get cut off just as fast as a stranger. There is no special treatment.

To me (And this is my opinion) it makes things alot easier for me. Rely on yourself and solely yourself, no ties or concerns to hold you back. Thats why its so easy for me to just move from state to state without worrying about being homesick or having family near.

Love em but I dont need em
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Probably a difference in the way we were raised. I definitely don't see being able to cut family and friends off without remorse as a strength but to each their own.
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Blaq
Jan 22 2012, 05:50 PM
Probably a difference in the way we were raised. I definitely don't see being able to cut family and friends off without remorse as a strength but to each their own.
Yea, I'm not saying my way is wrong or right. Just how I do things
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To be honest, my statements about family are past tense. I love my neice, nephews, & lil cousins, but I can't stand their parents. The little ones in my clan are just about all grown now.

I have cut off ties with many members of my family. I think the knife cuts a bit deeper when your own flesh & blood is the welder. To make it worse, those very back stabbers can't even own up to their jackal-like behavior.

In about two years time, I will be a true lone wolf.
Edited by Doctor Magnus Warlock, Jan 22 2012, 06:36 PM.
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sam_wilson
Jan 22 2012, 06:35 PM
To be honest, my statements about family are past tense. I love my neice, nephews, & lil cousins, but I can't stand their parents. The little ones in my clan are just about all grown now.

I have cut off ties with many members of my family. I think the knife cuts a bit deeper when your own flesh & blood is the welder. To make it worse, those very back stabbers can't even own up to their jackal-like behavior.

In about two years time, I will be a true lone wolf.
Exactly, thats how I am.

Thing is, lone wolf lifestyle doesnt bother me one bit. It actually works better when you dont have to worry about anything but yourself and yours.

Sure my kids can see my family and they can see my kids. But if my family isnt on my level and isnt trying to get there then I dont need or want to associate myself with them. Wasting their time and mines.


I help my family, the ones who do for self. I am more fortunate than alot of my family. I'll send them money or like in march im flying my little cousin out here to visit so he can see other places. Hopefully it will get his mind right and let him know "You dont have to settle, and you dont have to limit yourself"

If he takes that and does more dumb shit then he is cut off.


Lone wolf life is just fine
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I hear ya, Tre,

I spent half my life literaly looking after members of my family. I sacrificed opportunites, relationships, and more to look after relatives who should have been trying to improve themselves.

Not that I wanted to hear a "thank you", but I never thought I'd get a silent "phuck you" when they betrayed me.

My family is weird. They will actually celebrate mediocrity. And at the same time hold a "blah" viewpoint to drive & ambition.
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