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Are Black Women Becoming Obsolete???
Topic Started: Jan 27 2011, 01:10 AM (3,358 Views)
Patricia

I read somewhere a while back that Black women are becoming obsolete- I know a lot of people don't know about or believe in the LAW OF ATTRACTION- which states that the thing you fear and loath the most is that which you create. We , in fact may be creating - the situation most often discussed here- by dwelling on the wrong thing- maybe we need to go within and think about what we love about each other. Surely there must be something left to love. We can go on for days about the negative stuff- maybe we should think on what we DO WANT from a man, or any loving relationship-I do believe the negative is magetized to the negative and visa - versa- SO much of this is attitude based- and even though these forums are SUPPOSED to be about working it out, and bringing black men and women together- they seem to accomplish just the opposite. The name calling and accusations- fellas-ladies-once you put BAD NAMES, bad feeling OUT there -ie airing our dirty laundry- whilst OUTSIDERS throw wood on the fire -it's hard to take them back. DO you realize that almost EVERY thing on here is AGAINST Black women? Do you have a CLUE of how much this hurts? This stuff goes WORLD WIDE. It feels really BAD to think that Black men hate you, White men hate you, Asian men hate you, African men hate you, WHite women hate you, Hispanic men hate you, etc etc. There is a WAR rising against Black women-Black women ARE ugly-we are ugly because we believe we are ugly, we believe we are ugly because the IDEA that NOBODY WANTS US-is a DAILY media affirmation- in spite of the FACT that white women stuff silicone pillows beneath their skin to -hot-n-tot their asses, and silicone AND rolled cadaver skins into their lips for FULLER lips-and thus we begin to act ugly- (some of us) I remember once when I was married, my husband and I used to argue, because he was using drugs, he was trying to quit, but was losing the battle- sometimes I WOULD want to fight him, and he would just hug me tight, hug me and tell me I love you, and when I felt him tremble in fear that he would never be free of the demon that had him I would stay- I stayed until he made it impossible for me to stay. Because I realized it was a battle he would have to win on his own. He said some horrible things during those times-But it would NEVER make me turn my back on ALL Black men. Nothing could make me walk THAT far away. The statement often repeated here "WHATS WRONG WITH ALL BLACK WOMEN- is 4 words too long. Just the first two need to be examined. Okay-Good Night! Through preaching!
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New York
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I don't think black women are becoming obsolete, but I think they hurt their chances of getting a husband if they have 2 or 3 babies out of wedlock, because some brothers aint looking for a ready made family.
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I was trying to stay away from this but I vowed to be honest. I will say that black women need an attitude adjustment which will help matter, Some men would love to have a black women but he do not want to approach you because of your attitude. Other are seeing the attitudes and raised their brow to some black women behavior.

I will give you an good example of what I saw one day. This professional black male got on a train to go to work. He sat in one of the seats that had plenty of leg room and a black women was seating in a seat that was next to it. The minute the man sat down, she jumped up and changed seats. This white man saw the whole thing and looked at me like what is the LLLLLLLLL wrong with that _______. I just smiled and said, now you see what they have a hard time finding a good man.

Yes this puzzled the white guy because he could not understand what was the big deal
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negroplease

No!

They will never ever be obsolete.

Both black men and women have many things they need to work on. Their attitudes, their views of the world, etc.

People are really hyping things way out of proportion. Interracial dating is not as popular as people are believing it to be. Most black men who are married are married to black women. African American women that is.

Now about your comment New York. Some men do not want a ready made family, but there are some really good men out there who do not mind a woman who has children. Just as there are many many women who are willing to accept men and all their children out of wedlock. If you do not, that is cool, but not everyone thinks like you do.

And please keep in mind that not every single mother who has a child, had it out of wedlock. Lets cut out the generalizations, some of these women were married and divorced and became single.

Now there is a large proportion of black women who will never marry. And that may be unfortunate, but how do we know all these women even care to be married. I love my marriage, but marriage is not for everyone.

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shutupalready
Jan 27 2011, 09:33 PM
No!

They will never ever be obsolete.

Both black men and women have many things they need to work on. Their attitudes, their views of the world, etc.

People are really hyping things way out of proportion. Interracial dating is not as popular as people are believing it to be. Most black men who are married are married to black women. African American women that is.

Now about your comment New York. Some men do not want a ready made family, but there are some really good men out there who do not mind a woman who has children. Just as there are many many women who are willing to accept men and all their children out of wedlock. If you do not, that is cool, but not everyone thinks like you do.

And please keep in mind that not every single mother who has a child, had it out of wedlock. Lets cut out the generalizations, some of these women were married and divorced and became single.

Now there is a large proportion of black women who will never marry. And that may be unfortunate, but how do we know all these women even care to be married. I love my marriage, but marriage is not for everyone.

Thank you very much! Don't know how many times we have to say this before it really sinks in do you?
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negroplease

memdear70
Jan 27 2011, 10:17 PM
shutupalready
Jan 27 2011, 09:33 PM
No!

They will never ever be obsolete.

Both black men and women have many things they need to work on. Their attitudes, their views of the world, etc.

People are really hyping things way out of proportion. Interracial dating is not as popular as people are believing it to be. Most black men who are married are married to black women. African American women that is.

Now about your comment New York. Some men do not want a ready made family, but there are some really good men out there who do not mind a woman who has children. Just as there are many many women who are willing to accept men and all their children out of wedlock. If you do not, that is cool, but not everyone thinks like you do.

And please keep in mind that not every single mother who has a child, had it out of wedlock. Lets cut out the generalizations, some of these women were married and divorced and became single.

Now there is a large proportion of black women who will never marry. And that may be unfortunate, but how do we know all these women even care to be married. I love my marriage, but marriage is not for everyone.

Thank you very much! Don't know how many times we have to say this before it really sinks in do you?
It will never sink in.

I am wasting time pressing the keys on my keyboard as we speak.
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shutupalready
Jan 27 2011, 09:33 PM
Now there is a large proportion of black women who will never marry. And that may be unfortunate, but how do we know all these women even care to be married. I love my marriage, but marriage is not for everyone.

Now say it louder so the morons in the back can hear it :D
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Mister J
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Whaddaya mean by "obsolete"?
You mean 'going out of use/style/fashion' like polyester & Bell-Bottoms?
Or no longer fuctional, like analog T.V.?
Or more & more undesirable, like smoking?

On another note...

I've stated several times already that people (esp. females) need to understand and accept that men must be allowed to air their gripes and grievances just as women in this society are encouraged and facilitated in doing.

Because if the men are not, then even more unpleasant things ensue.



Edited by Mister J, Jan 28 2011, 08:00 PM.
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Black Pharoah

Black female's been obsolete for about 35 years and will remain so until they get back to the humble attitude they once had of respecting the black man.
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Black Pharoah
Jan 28 2011, 07:10 PM
Black female's been obsolete for about 35 years and will remain so until they get back to the humble attitude they once had of respecting the black man.
BP, tell me something, how is it the women get balmed for everything they do and everything the men don't do? Has it occured to anyone that perhaps women are also tire of men running around having babies by numerous other women not taking care of any of them and continuing to do it. Young man in Mississippi has 23 kids all under the age of 13 I think it was. Nevertheless all of those women should have been "spayed" after the first one because they all knew he already had X number of kids but they contributed to the situation also. The other edge of the sword is he had no problem creating the epidemic either.

So what's there to be humble about. I know this may sound contradictory but if you really think about it it can't be just one way. According to most of the "men" on here women are mouthy, they have attitudes, they're becoming obsolete, they're lesbians, their everything but a female who deserves the same decent chance in life as the next one and them. But who's available to make that happen? Certainly not the ones locked up nor the intimidators, not the homo's, nor the down-lows, nor the pretenders, not the party-house hounds. So what's left ? The ones who want to make something out of life, hopefully, but choose to engage themselves with "others" as though the black woman is useless, unwanted, unneeded, undesirable, and they are the only good ones , no flaws,no guilt, no remorse, just those perfect specimens of black men that is too good for the black woman! .
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