| TheTragedy of Black Men and Black Women Dating and Marriage | |
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| Topic Started: Jan 4 2011, 11:10 PM (1,065 Views) | |
| P.O.G | Jan 4 2011, 11:10 PM Post #1 |
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When viewing the pictures of the Black "elite" (entertainers, politicians, actors, athletes, etc.) one cannot help but notice the number of Black males married or dating outside the race. One should always be with whomever they find appealing or with whom they fall in love; however, we must truly consider the venue in which the Black men frequent. What I mean is the main constant among all of the Black men is money, privilege, publicity, etc. A buddy back in college once commented on Kobe Bryant, "The reason why you see a Black man such as Kobe with a white girl (or non-black) is because he frequents places that one would not find many blacks". That statement took me back a bit. BUT when I thought about it a little deeper, he had a point. I am not saying that Black women cannot be found in the law firm, at the Republican convention, or at the Oscars after party. I am saying that one is less likely to find a Black women or Black man for that matter in places such as those. One will circulait among that which is most available, which Blacks are not in these areas. As a result we find more and more Black "elites" dating outside the race. Furthermore, in regards to the attitudinal problems of Black women. My beautiful Black wife confesses that Black women tend to have some nasty attitudes, especially when they achieve a certain education or financial level. I have heard Black women of status state that they will never date a Black man because we are sorry. You see, Black women have been taught, trained, and brainwashed to believe that they do not need a Black man to attain life's luxuries and success. The Black man is an unnecessary commodity. When a Black man attempts to affectionately love some Black women, he is shunned. I recall my early days in college when I attempted to pick up young ladies. I would say, "Excuse me" and get ignored. When I began to say, "Hey boo" or "Hey shorty" or just make a noise like, "SSSS" they would stop and come talk to me. I was very disappointed to find out that the gentleman was not what these ladies wanted. In closing, the perpetual circle of distrust among Black men and women must stop. We should not be at odds with each other. We are in competition for control of the relationship, not willing to submit to the other. How can a Black woman love a Black man who only loves what she can do for him. Equally, how can a Black man love a Black woman who views his affectionate love as weak. The sad thing is that the same issues we have with each other, we find when dating outside the race. BUT we tell ourselves differently so that we can excuse our tradegy. |
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| New York | Jan 4 2011, 11:25 PM Post #2 |
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A lot of those black men in those pictures use to be married to black women, but after their divorce they married none black women. Redd Foxx, James Brown, Michael Jordan, Scottie Pippin, Brain McNight, Kennon Ivory Wayans, Ahmad Rashad, Warren Moon, etc all of their first wives were black. So why did they stop dating black women, was it something that black women did to them? |
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| negroplease | Jan 4 2011, 11:29 PM Post #3 |
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New York! How do you always manage to turn something around and blame black women. My GOD You are such a broken pathetic record. Maybe these black men dumped the black women because as they got successful they saw White women as the ultimate prize as they are often brainwashed to think. It could be what you said. But it could be what I said too. |
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| New York | Jan 4 2011, 11:38 PM Post #4 |
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The person that started this post wanted to know why so many black men are dating outside their race, I was pointing out that a lot of those black men in those pictures use to be married to black women their first time around. So did something happen that caused those black men to stop dating black women? |
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| kennyinbmore | Jan 8 2011, 02:19 PM Post #5 |
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There are plenty of happy black couples out there. Give it a rest http://photos.essence.com/galleries/2010_celebrity_couples/entry_image/395961-reality_love#395141 |
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| memdear70 | Jan 8 2011, 03:49 PM Post #6 |
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I am very curious now. We have discussed THIS issue to death under several topic headings. When most of you guys say that BW are loud and abrasive, golddiggers and ho's, WHO are you talking about? There are culture levels in every ethnic group on this planet. The "highest" level being the elitist group. Those who feel they have "arrived", where I'm not sure but anyway. The next group is the highly educated, want to be elitist, who have not yet "arrived" The ones who look down their nose at others of their own culture and others. The next group the HS-some College group that make up the backbone of the black community, the majority are employed by a corporation or the government or are self sustained entrepreneurs, and have a comfortable life and want to help others but are frowned upon by their own. The next group is the "don't give a damn" group. The ones who live for today, tomorrow takes care of itself if I wake up, kind of attitude. Undereducated /unmotivated. Having said all of this which group do you think has the most problems? We all know who they are so why do we keep talking around it, as though it's contagious. It's the baby mamma/daddy group that has the greatest difficulty in staying on track. What do we do about it ? Stop placing blame on ALL BW for the stupid ass mistakes the 2% of our culture brings about. But I get very irrated when all of these "breaking reports" come out about the blacks are doing this or that. As though we are the only ones who have relationship problems. You don't see too many of these reports about whites, latinos, asians, but trust me they have the same issues especially when after become westernized. Can we stop with the blame game and start taking some PERSONAL responsibility for the issues, meaning if the shoe fits clean up your act, if it doesn't quit screaming, the ones who need to do the most towards cleaning up their act are the ones who don't hear anything but "thump. thump and lip jive" anyway. Over half of our people are either in a marraige that is comfortable for both or likewise in a relationship of the same status with fewer problems than all of the damn studies stored away in a filing cabinet. There I'm finished with my tantrum. Ooooops, The "groups" I described above is inclusive of any ethnic group alive, not just blacks. |
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| negroplease | Jan 8 2011, 04:36 PM Post #7 |
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To do what you ask would be too much like making sense. And then they would not be able to have controversy and bring what little traffic comes to this site. They say all this for sensationalism. And it works because every once in a while I bite and go off into an argument. And this is what they truly wanted anyway. |
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