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BossHogg
Nov 15 2010, 01:20 AM
I think we can all pretty much agree that most single mothers you know didn't intend it to be that way....so why are we even discussing this? There are single parent homes as a result of divorce. Who's to say which 'dysfunction' is more acceptable than the other? Women are aware of birth control options. ^o)
If you have unprotected sex with a man who is not your husband, without being on birth control, you certainly didn't prevent yourself from NOT being a single mother. Whether you consciously or subconsciously got pregnant by, it's unfair for the child to live in a single parent home.
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We're in 2010 now, and many people have children before marriage; some get married, some don't. Again, single parent homes don't necessarily begin that way. Ever heard of that? Like I said, most if not all of the single mothers I know were in long term relationships with the fathers of their children and things just didn't work out. I wouldn't say they were all to blame.....I respect the actions/integrity of a single mother more than I would an abused married mother.
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Nov 15 2010, 01:37 AM
We're in 2010 now, and many people have children before marriage; some get married, some don't. Again, single parent homes don't necessarily begin that way. Ever heard of that? Like I said, most if not all of the single mothers I know were in long term relationships with the fathers of their children and things just didn't work out. I wouldn't say they were all to blame.....I respect the actions/integrity of a single mother more than I would an abused married mother.
I've pretty much seen all scenarios concerning children with single mothers. I know sometimes things don't work out but I also can't help but think that some females (teenagers, especially) get pregnant on purpose for a variety of reasons, usually selfish ones.
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What about foster/adopted single parents? Isn't having atleast one loving parent better than none at all? I don't think a woman opting for artificial insemination is selfish. A woman who doesn't want/can't find a husband, should not be condemned for wanting to have a child; especially of they can love and care for them. Most women hope to bear children, however many aren't blessed to do so. & Teenagers are kids...we all did stupid shit before contemplating the consequences when we were younger. ^o)
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BossHogg
Nov 15 2010, 01:37 AM
We're in 2010 now, and many people have children before marriage; some get married, some don't. Again, single parent homes don't necessarily begin that way. Ever heard of that? Like I said, most if not all of the single mothers I know were in long term relationships with the fathers of their children and things just didn't work out. I wouldn't say they were all to blame.....I respect the actions/integrity of a single mother more than I would an abused married mother.
Are you saying that having babies out of wedlock is now acceptable, has society really fallen that low
and are you a religious person?
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BossHogg
Nov 15 2010, 01:51 AM
What about foster/adopted single parents? Isn't having atleast one loving parent better than none at all? I don't think a woman opting for artificial insemination is selfish. A woman who doesn't want/can't find a husband, should not be condemned for wanting to have a child; especially of they can love and care for them. Most women hope to bear children, however many aren't blessed to do so. & Teenagers are kids...we all did stupid shit before contemplating the consequences when we were younger. ^o)
Adoption is very tough, as I am very pro adoption. Because our foster care system is in shambles and failing our children, I would say that a single woman adopting is definitely a better scenario. However, many older children who want to be adopted specifically ask and yearn for a father in a two parent household.

Artificial insemination is completely selfish for single women, in my opinion.

Teenagers and kids shouldn't even be mothers to begin with. "Stupid shit with consequences" is one thing, making another life (possibly on purpose) is far beyond a "consequence".
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Elle
Nov 15 2010, 01:57 AM
BossHogg
Nov 15 2010, 01:51 AM
What about foster/adopted single parents? Isn't having atleast one loving parent better than none at all? I don't think a woman opting for artificial insemination is selfish. A woman who doesn't want/can't find a husband, should not be condemned for wanting to have a child; especially of they can love and care for them. Most women hope to bear children, however many aren't blessed to do so. & Teenagers are kids...we all did stupid shit before contemplating the consequences when we were younger. ^o)
Adoption is very tough, as I am very pro adoption. Because our foster care system is in shambles and failing our children, I would say that a single woman adopting is definitely a better scenario. However, many older children who want to be adopted specifically ask and yearn for a father in a two parent household.

Artificial insemination is completely selfish for single women, in my opinion.

Teenagers and kids shouldn't even be mothers to begin with. "Stupid shit with consequences" is one thing, making another life (possibly on purpose) is far beyond a "consequence".
Dumb is dumb sweetie. 'Stupid shit' is teens having pre-marital (and many times protected) sex. & many of these teens have a mother and a father to help them through their life lesson. Let's not pretend that we didn't partake in that (sex) when we were teens; we just didn't get pregnant. So adoption is acceptable, but not artificial insemination? lol Most women I know want children, and it's disheartening to hear a woman who physically cannot. She shouldn't be denied that pride if she's potentially a great parent. Some of the strongest and respected people I know (or read about) are products of single parent homes....
I'd much rather a child have ONE responsible parent, than TWO fucked up ones.
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Nov 15 2010, 02:10 AM
Elle
Nov 15 2010, 01:57 AM
BossHogg
Nov 15 2010, 01:51 AM
What about foster/adopted single parents? Isn't having atleast one loving parent better than none at all? I don't think a woman opting for artificial insemination is selfish. A woman who doesn't want/can't find a husband, should not be condemned for wanting to have a child; especially of they can love and care for them. Most women hope to bear children, however many aren't blessed to do so. & Teenagers are kids...we all did stupid shit before contemplating the consequences when we were younger. ^o)
Adoption is very tough, as I am very pro adoption. Because our foster care system is in shambles and failing our children, I would say that a single woman adopting is definitely a better scenario. However, many older children who want to be adopted specifically ask and yearn for a father in a two parent household.

Artificial insemination is completely selfish for single women, in my opinion.

Teenagers and kids shouldn't even be mothers to begin with. "Stupid shit with consequences" is one thing, making another life (possibly on purpose) is far beyond a "consequence".
Dumb is dumb sweetie. 'Stupid shit' is teens having pre-marital (and many times protected) sex. & many of these teens have a mother and a father to help them through their life lesson. Let's not pretend that we didn't partake in that (sex) when we were teens; we just didn't get pregnant. So adoption is acceptable, but not artificial insemination? lol Most women I know want children, and it's disheartening to hear a woman who physically cannot. She shouldn't be denied that pride if she's potentially a great parent. Some of the strongest and respected people I know (or read about) are products of single parent homes....
I'd much rather a child have ONE responsible parent, than TWO fucked up ones.
You can give every plausible scenario in the world, but I still believe that a two parent home is the most ideal and should be sought after. Women who are single and want children via artificial insemination are only doing so for selfish reasons. They aren't thinking about the best interest of the possible child AT ALL. Adoption is different because a child is already here and without a home.

I'm not saying that those from single parent homes aren't good people. I'm saying that those who purposely have children without being in a healthy marriage are selfish.

One loving parent is always better than two fucked up parents (research proves this). However, two loving parents is ALWAYS better than one.
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Elle
Nov 15 2010, 02:17 AM
BossHogg
Nov 15 2010, 02:10 AM
Elle
Nov 15 2010, 01:57 AM
BossHogg
Nov 15 2010, 01:51 AM
What about foster/adopted single parents? Isn't having atleast one loving parent better than none at all? I don't think a woman opting for artificial insemination is selfish. A woman who doesn't want/can't find a husband, should not be condemned for wanting to have a child; especially of they can love and care for them. Most women hope to bear children, however many aren't blessed to do so. & Teenagers are kids...we all did stupid shit before contemplating the consequences when we were younger. ^o)
Adoption is very tough, as I am very pro adoption. Because our foster care system is in shambles and failing our children, I would say that a single woman adopting is definitely a better scenario. However, many older children who want to be adopted specifically ask and yearn for a father in a two parent household.

Artificial insemination is completely selfish for single women, in my opinion.

Teenagers and kids shouldn't even be mothers to begin with. "Stupid shit with consequences" is one thing, making another life (possibly on purpose) is far beyond a "consequence".
Dumb is dumb sweetie. 'Stupid shit' is teens having pre-marital (and many times protected) sex. & many of these teens have a mother and a father to help them through their life lesson. Let's not pretend that we didn't partake in that (sex) when we were teens; we just didn't get pregnant. So adoption is acceptable, but not artificial insemination? lol Most women I know want children, and it's disheartening to hear a woman who physically cannot. She shouldn't be denied that pride if she's potentially a great parent. Some of the strongest and respected people I know (or read about) are products of single parent homes....
I'd much rather a child have ONE responsible parent, than TWO fucked up ones.
You can give every plausible scenario in the world, but I still believe that a two parent home is the most ideal and should be sought after. Women who are single and want children via artificial insemination are only doing so for selfish reasons. They aren't thinking about the best interest of the possible child AT ALL. Adoption is different because a child is already here and without a home.

I'm not saying that those from single parent homes aren't good people. I'm saying that those who purposely have children without being in a healthy marriage are selfish.

One loving parent is always better than two fucked up parents (research proves this). However, two loving parents is ALWAYS better than one.
We all are entitled to our opinions. Let's hope you are blessed to have children when the time comes. 'Healthy' marriages are almost non-existent or slowly becoming extinct. Most families suffer some sort of dysfunction. lol If you can care for a child (financially, emotionally), no one has the right to judge or deny you that experience. I don't hear the single parents (or their kids) complain. Parents don't need to live together to successfully raise a child. I know ALOT of fucked up people who had 2 parents in the home....a child's odds aren't necessarily better if raised in a two parent home either.
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BossHogg
Nov 15 2010, 02:28 AM
Elle
Nov 15 2010, 02:17 AM
BossHogg
Nov 15 2010, 02:10 AM
Elle
Nov 15 2010, 01:57 AM
BossHogg
Nov 15 2010, 01:51 AM
What about foster/adopted single parents? Isn't having atleast one loving parent better than none at all? I don't think a woman opting for artificial insemination is selfish. A woman who doesn't want/can't find a husband, should not be condemned for wanting to have a child; especially of they can love and care for them. Most women hope to bear children, however many aren't blessed to do so. & Teenagers are kids...we all did stupid shit before contemplating the consequences when we were younger. ^o)
Adoption is very tough, as I am very pro adoption. Because our foster care system is in shambles and failing our children, I would say that a single woman adopting is definitely a better scenario. However, many older children who want to be adopted specifically ask and yearn for a father in a two parent household.

Artificial insemination is completely selfish for single women, in my opinion.

Teenagers and kids shouldn't even be mothers to begin with. "Stupid shit with consequences" is one thing, making another life (possibly on purpose) is far beyond a "consequence".
Dumb is dumb sweetie. 'Stupid shit' is teens having pre-marital (and many times protected) sex. & many of these teens have a mother and a father to help them through their life lesson. Let's not pretend that we didn't partake in that (sex) when we were teens; we just didn't get pregnant. So adoption is acceptable, but not artificial insemination? lol Most women I know want children, and it's disheartening to hear a woman who physically cannot. She shouldn't be denied that pride if she's potentially a great parent. Some of the strongest and respected people I know (or read about) are products of single parent homes....
I'd much rather a child have ONE responsible parent, than TWO fucked up ones.
You can give every plausible scenario in the world, but I still believe that a two parent home is the most ideal and should be sought after. Women who are single and want children via artificial insemination are only doing so for selfish reasons. They aren't thinking about the best interest of the possible child AT ALL. Adoption is different because a child is already here and without a home.

I'm not saying that those from single parent homes aren't good people. I'm saying that those who purposely have children without being in a healthy marriage are selfish.

One loving parent is always better than two fucked up parents (research proves this). However, two loving parents is ALWAYS better than one.
We all are entitled to our opinions. Let's hope you are blessed to have children when the time comes. 'Healthy' marriages are almost non-existent or slowly becoming extinct. Most families suffer some sort of dysfunction. lol If you can care for a child (financially, emotionally), no one has the right to judge or deny you that experience. I don't hear the single parents (or their kids) complain. Parents don't need to live together to successfully raise a child. I know ALOT of fucked up people who had 2 parents in the home....a child's odds aren't necessarily better if raised in a two parent home either.
Honestly, I don't want children. If I ever do, they will be adopted (if I'm married). Healthy marriages does not mean perfect. Obviously, if abuse is occurring, children should not be in that situation either. Also, having children is not simply "an experience" that all women are simply entitled to because that is what they want (how selfish to view raising a child as such!). Raising children is a lifelong dedication.

Wow, you've never heard single parents complain? :blink:

You've never heard children who are products of a single parent home complain? :blink:

You must not be listening.

My boyfriend grew up without his father. Although he dearly loves his mother and they are very close, he feels like he has a void in his life.

My Godchildren have no father in their lives. It makes my heart ache to hear them say things like, "Why can't daddy come to my football games?" "Where is my daddy?" "Why doesn't daddy live with us?"

Single mothers are also complaining- How can I do this alone? How can I afford children on my own? etc. etc. etc.
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