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Women learn how to MOTIVATE your man
Topic Started: Aug 24 2010, 01:43 PM (6,464 Views)
Marcus
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Most women don't know how to motivate their men, hollering in his ear
is not motivation.

1. Raising your voice and telling him what he need to do is not motivation

2. Women if you always got to holler and fuss at a man, then you probably need to find another man. Because you can't force a man to be what you want him to be

3. It aint what you say to your man, it's how you say it
Edited by Marcus, Aug 24 2010, 01:45 PM.
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cisslybee2012
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Marcus
Aug 24 2010, 01:43 PM
Most women don't know how to motivate their men, hollering in his ear
is not motivation.

1. Raising your voice and telling him what he need to do is not motivation

2. Women if you always got to holler and fuss at a man, then you probably need to find another man. Because you can't force a man to be what you want him to be

3. It aint what you say to your man, it's how you say it
Ditto. :)
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DJ Crunk
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Saying Nigger get off your ass and go and take that trash out, women that's not motivation
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tayter80
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I agree yelling at someone is not very motivating. So how do you motivate your man then?
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Nirvana10

Men are motivated by Sex and Money. Ladies; promise a free Steak Dinner followed by Sex for your man.......then watch him work.
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Marcus
Aug 24 2010, 01:43 PM
Most women don't know how to motivate their men, hollering in his ear
is not motivation.

1. Raising your voice and telling him what he need to do is not motivation

2. Women if you always got to holler and fuss at a man, then you probably need to find another man. Because you can't force a man to be what you want him to be

3. It aint what you say to your man, it's how you say it
Marcus, I understand what you are saying. Can we take it maybe 1 step further? First of all MMen/Women have to motivate themselves into a positive productive lifestyle.

Without self motivation how will one be able to motivate anyone else,that's where the yelling comes from. One has to like themselves in order to be comfortable with others.

And when that is accomplished the need to yell is diminished and both are comfortable enough to do the things necessary to keep the relationship moving smoothly w/o the bantering.

As always, it's not what's being done/said, it is how it's being done/said.
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cisslybee2012
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tayter80
Aug 24 2010, 02:49 PM
I agree yelling at someone is not very motivating. So how do you motivate your man then?
You have to set a positive example and speak to him respectfully. Even if he's being disrespectful to you.

In my experience, I've found that the only sensible way to deal with a man being purposely disrespectful to a woman setting a positive example and showing him respect is to dump him without argument or questions. In other circumstances where he's being abusive unintentionally, then call his attention to what he's doing at the moment he's doing it. Don't wait until later to bring it up. That starts arguments.

But never disrespect your man. If he's truly stupid then you have to let him go because no matter what you do, he'll abuse you. You can't be good to a man whose not good to himself.

To motivate him, you have to lay down the law lovingly. Always remind him that you understand how he feels, and listen to what he has to say, but don't take at him talk to him. Let him know about whatever he's doing that you will not tolerate and lovingly give him an option to straighten up or go.

If he's has a substance abuse problem for instance, then be supportive of him getting and staying clean. Don't just tell him what a drunk he is or say nothing at all and then loathe him over his habits. Go with him to as many AA meetings as you can. If he has a dream, encourage him to pave the way toward it. If it's to start a business, then help him to study his industry and encourage him to save his money. Better yet, save his money for him. Don't spend it on yourself. Understand?



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Marcus
Aug 24 2010, 01:43 PM
Most women don't know how to motivate their men, hollering in his ear
is not motivation.

1. Raising your voice and telling him what he need to do is not motivation

2. Women if you always got to holler and fuss at a man, then you probably need to find another man. Because you can't force a man to be what you want him to be

3. It aint what you say to your man, it's how you say it
I think women should motivate and be supportive...

BUT SHOULDN'T YOU MEN KNOW HOW TO MOTIVATE YOURSELVES.

Meanwhile learn to be supportive and motivating to your wives/women as well.
Edited by EveryonelovesSUA, Aug 24 2010, 04:15 PM.
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cisslybee2012
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Aug 24 2010, 04:12 PM
Marcus
Aug 24 2010, 01:43 PM
Most women don't know how to motivate their men, hollering in his ear
is not motivation.

1. Raising your voice and telling him what he need to do is not motivation

2. Women if you always got to holler and fuss at a man, then you probably need to find another man. Because you can't force a man to be what you want him to be

3. It aint what you say to your man, it's how you say it
I think women should motivate and be supportive...

BUT SHOULDN'T YOU MEN KNOW HOW TO MOTIVATE YOURSELVES.
Not really.

Because the average man has a mother who failed him. So women expect too much from men from the jump. Way too much. As well as women expect way too little of themselves.
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cisslybee2012
Aug 24 2010, 04:14 PM
shutupalready
Aug 24 2010, 04:12 PM
Marcus
Aug 24 2010, 01:43 PM
Most women don't know how to motivate their men, hollering in his ear
is not motivation.

1. Raising your voice and telling him what he need to do is not motivation

2. Women if you always got to holler and fuss at a man, then you probably need to find another man. Because you can't force a man to be what you want him to be

3. It aint what you say to your man, it's how you say it
I think women should motivate and be supportive...

BUT SHOULDN'T YOU MEN KNOW HOW TO MOTIVATE YOURSELVES.
Not really.

Because the average man has a mother who failed him. So women expect too much from men from the jump. Way too much. As well as women expect way too little of themselves.
Cissly,

We can blame their mothers all we want, but if a grown man cannot motivate himself, then they are no better than the women they complain are not supporting and motivating them. They are not the leaders of the household they claim to be.There comes a time when you lay off the blame game and take responsibility for yourself.

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