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| Topic Started: Apr 22 2010, 08:59 PM (10,495 Views) | |
| Mrsincere | May 27 2010, 06:19 AM Post #61 |
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1st of all, most blackwomen are average. They cant do much for a man when their stinky butts are or were "under a bridge" their dam selves. And for those black women that were able to elevate themselves to be stable individuals.......they shouldnt need to look under a bridge to elevate a man. What those women need to do is elevate themselves in terms of character , so that they can attract the men that are on or above their level. Regardless of where a womans station in life, she still has to wait for a man to choose her. What she decides to do with the choices that come her way, is for her to figure out. Thats the dilemma Sherri Shepherd and others like her are finding themselves in. They have the power to choose. But they can only choose from the pool of men that choose them. If the only available men to choose from end up being stinky men under a bridge......that is an indication that those woman may not be meeting the standards of the men they think they deserve. |
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| Mrsincere | May 27 2010, 06:47 AM Post #62 |
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Did you see the exchange between Hill and Sherri in that special? Hill revealed an incident where Sherri was working at a Taco Bell, and he was a customer. Hill attempted to get aquainted with Sherri back then. But because Hill didnt drive there in a car, she wrote his butt off for relationship potential. At the time he was going to auditions. Sherri was "under a bridge" her dam self because she didnt have a car either. She was taking the bus back and forth to work. She didnt have jack going for herself to dust him off, but that didnt stop her from writing him off. Now multiply that type of exchange by many of the women Hill may have encountered up and until he became successful. What you come up with is Hill ending up with a woman who he feels represents the type of character who is interested in him as a person moreso than what he's driving. His choice have more to do with the womans character than what color,culture or ethnicity the woman is. This doesnt mean this woman has everything that Hill would want in a woman. However, what makes anyone believe "ignorance and superficiality" is a facet of culture, that a man must endorse into his life? After telling that story , Hill said......"But I had potential". And Sherri made a joke about them getting together now that both of them are where they are. A typical response from enough sisters who rejected brothers who were growing in life and preparing for success. Edited by Mrsincere, May 27 2010, 08:01 AM.
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| reddgirl64 | May 27 2010, 09:27 AM Post #63 |
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Boy some woman really fuk-up your self esteem! You might want to work on being a better man, seek counseling! Most people go through things, strong ones deal with it, others whine and cry! Let me see, At fourteen, I got a period, wow, to afraid to try out for cheerleader, did anyway, over came fear. At sixteen, couldn't wear pants, all others did, didn't whine about, start shaving legs. At eighteen, wanted a car, father said get a job, got one, paid for own car....really could go on and on, but if everything out of my mouth, is I didn't have this, couldnt do that, who in their right mind is going to stick around for that bitch-session? I gave circumstances and solutions, didn't take 25 years to "get it". You and Hill need to understand, shit happens, its what you do once you begin to reek of it! Suggestions: take a bath, then ask yourself, could/did "I" do something to merit the shit happening? I suggest, you and the "others", start a group sessions for men who can't deal with life lessons. In the mean time, life goes on..... |
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| Rick1 | May 27 2010, 09:35 AM Post #64 |
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reddgirl why couldn't you wear pants? I hope it's not what i'm thinking. 
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| reddgirl64 | May 27 2010, 09:46 AM Post #65 |
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Quote: "1st of all, most blackwomen are average" 85% of the world is average, including you. Point? Quote: "And for those black women that were able to elevate themselves to be stable individuals.......they shouldnt need to look under a bridge to elevate a man. What those women need to do is elevate themselves in terms of character , so that they can attract the men that are on or above their level" Totally agree.... Quote: "Regardless of where a womans station in life, she still has to wait for a man to choose her. What she decides to do with the choices that come her way, is for her to figure out" Let me help you re-phrase this statement, "Women, set standards! Due to the fact, most men are visual, not logical. Some will chose a fine body and face, regardless of the fact that is infected with AIDS! |
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| reddgirl64 | May 27 2010, 09:48 AM Post #66 |
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My mom felt ladies wear dresses! Generational thing, passed it down to her girls. Don't think that Rick, I'll prove it to you! |
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| Rick1 | May 27 2010, 10:03 AM Post #67 |
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You don started something now.
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| reddgirl64 | May 27 2010, 10:14 AM Post #68 |
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Joking aside- How do I come across to you? Outside of the "special people" (Marcus & etc), do I give the impression of being hard on BM? That's not how I want to be perceived, however, with so much bashing of BM/BW, where on earth do we start? How do we get to the table and discuss without offending someone? Back to joking- I got to much stamina for you! 
Edited by reddgirl64, May 27 2010, 10:14 AM.
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| Rick1 | May 27 2010, 10:25 AM Post #69 |
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I think too many people are way too serious. These boards exist so we can voice opinions, have discussions and hopefully learn something from one another, and have fun. Some people take comments personal and shouldn't be on here if you have thin skin. Back to joking- I'm sure you've heard of Viagra. Dey say it's good for 4 hrs. You will get a good night's 
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| Mrsincere | May 27 2010, 10:41 AM Post #70 |
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Quote : Boy some woman really fuk-up your self esteem! You might want to work on being a better man, seek counseling! Most people go through things, strong ones deal with it, others whine and cry! Mr Sincere : Quite the contrary. Some character flaw inside you has fukked you up so bad that you start salivating the moment you see black men expose unflattering characteristics in black women the info applies to. Quote : Let me see, At fourteen, I got a period, wow, to afraid to try out for cheerleader, did anyway, over came fear. At sixteen, couldn't wear pants, all others did, didn't whine about, start shaving legs. At eighteen, wanted a car, father said get a job, got one, paid for own car....really could go on and on, but if everything out of my mouth, is I didn't have this, couldnt do that, who in their right mind is going to stick around for that bitch-session? I gave circumstances and solutions, didn't take 25 years to "get it". Mr Sincere : Men identify with men. What you did or do as a female doesnt have jack to do with a man. When men decide to have a discussion about their lives, interests,motivations, women,politics etc in an open forum......they dont need some knee jerk reactive female telling him he's whining when he isnt. We see these juvenile attempts at attacking men, and many of us know exactly what your affliction is. Bear in mind as well......I'm not seeking approval or brownie points from knee jerk reactive women. No man here is responsible for your reactions and your subsequent cyber personal attacks. Quote : You and Hill need to understand, shit happens, its what you do once you begin to reek of it! Suggestions: take a bath, then ask yourself, could/did "I" do something to merit the shit happening? I suggest, you and the "others", start a group sessions for men who can't deal with life lessons. In the mean time, life goes on..... Mr Sincere : No you dont understand. We already know shayt happens. We ( Hill and myself ) both have learned a lot along the way. Weve both elevated ourselves and are living very productive lives. The difference between us and women like yourselves.......we dont validate our success or stability in life by a relationship. At the same time.......we both have no problem sharing our experiences,observations and opinions about the male experience as well as our POV of the female experience. Now unless you can point out why expressing ourselves is indicative of us lacking in our personal lives, I suggest you keep your cyber mouth closed and your brain unlocked so you can stop making yourself look like a woman who cant control her emotions. Edited by Mrsincere, May 27 2010, 10:44 AM.
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