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Black men have a story to tell; What a young brother told me
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Jul 3 2010, 12:01 PM
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Some women would not believe that story, but I know it is true that things happen like that. Some black women claim that they cannot find a good man and all the nws have ran with this why women cannot find a good man.
This young brother told me that the samething happned to one of his friends. He said that one of his friends also caught his baby mama cheating on him. Trying to find a good honest woman in this world you got your work cut out. There are a lot of nice looking women but when you get past the looks you don't have much.
Would some of you guys like some cheese to go with that whine? Hey guys can I inject something here? There was 2 key words I found in this young mans confession to the Truck Drives about his woes that being "babys' mama". I can see both sides of the issue because I'm older than any of you. As I view the circumstances the BM is unsure of committment so he remains "baby's daddy", but sleeps and eats there. Baby's mama is looking for a committment since they have a baby and when that committment never materializes she/he start to play games.Why because a permanent relationship has never been discussed. Both see the situation as a convenience. And neither are being honest with themselves or their mate. Why should she wait around till the child is grown for you to make a decision? And BW why should he wait around for you to grow up and be the woman you profess to be. Both sides are touchy issues but you could start with communicating. So you know what's up from the bee.....gin. I know a young lady right now who just told me the other day she's been dating this guy for ten years He has 3 kids by other women and had told her he didn't want any more kids and if it happened he was gone. Both had chosen not to get married but, guess what after all of this time she gets pregnant now he's say she is trying to trap him, want her to get an abortion. I asked her if she had suggested a snip job since she is a few years younger than he but he is not into that and told her she should have been taking BC, she had told him her Dr. took her off the pill for health reasons. But he still hasn't left yet he lives with her. Whats' wrong w/ this picture. I'm listening guys! Oh I left out something, he's been seeing someone else for about 2 yrs while maintaining his relationship w/ her. She owns her own business and put in some long hours ????????
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Jul 4 2010, 03:35 AM
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Meamdear70 the sad part is people are sleeping around and having kids by people that's not really right for them. That guy has a child with her, so even though he can't stand her now, she's going to be in his life to a certian degree because they have a child together
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Jul 4 2010, 08:16 AM
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Some women would not believe that story, but I know it is true that things happen like that. Some black women claim that they cannot find a good man and all the nws have ran with this why women cannot find a good man.
This young brother told me that the samething happned to one of his friends. He said that one of his friends also caught his baby mama cheating on him. Trying to find a good honest woman in this world you got your work cut out. There are a lot of nice looking women but when you get past the looks you don't have much.
Would some of you guys like some cheese to go with that whine?
Hey guys can I inject something here? There was 2 key words I found in this young mans confession to the Truck Drives about his woes that being "babys' mama". I can see both sides of the issue because I'm older than any of you. As I view the circumstances the BM is unsure of committment so he remains "baby's daddy", but sleeps and eats there. Baby's mama is looking for a committment since they have a baby and when that committment never materializes she/he start to play games.Why because a permanent relationship has never been discussed. Both see the situation as a convenience. And neither are being honest with themselves or their mate. Why should she wait around till the child is grown for you to make a decision? And BW why should he wait around for you to grow up and be the woman you profess to be. Both sides are touchy issues but you could start with communicating. So you know what's up from the bee.....gin. I know a young lady right now who just told me the other day she's been dating this guy for ten years He has 3 kids by other women and had told her he didn't want any more kids and if it happened he was gone. Both had chosen not to get married but, guess what after all of this time she gets pregnant now he's say she is trying to trap him, want her to get an abortion. I asked her if she had suggested a snip job since she is a few years younger than he but he is not into that and told her she should have been taking BC, she had told him her Dr. took her off the pill for health reasons. But he still hasn't left yet he lives with her. Whats' wrong w/ this picture. I'm listening guys! Oh I left out something, he's been seeing someone else for about 2 yrs while maintaining his relationship w/ her. She owns her own business and put in some long hours ???????? 1) I know a young lady right now who just told me the other day she's been dating this guy for ten years.
She's been dating this man for ten years, because?
2) He has 3 kids by other women and had told her he didn't want any more kids and if it happened he was gone.
She dated him for ten years, right? What was her reason again?
3) Both had chosen not to get married but, guess what after all of this time she gets pregnant now he's say she is trying to trap him, want her to get an abortion.
His reaction and solution seems likely. Why would she allow herself to get pregnant, knowing the mans position? Not necessarily to trap him perse, but to fulfill her own desire for a child. His physical presence may be irrelevant. Having a child is what she ultimately wants. In situations like that, the man is usually phased out of the equation eventually. Any man automatically thinking a woman having his baby is about trapping him, is being foolish.
4) I asked her if she had suggested a snip job since she is a few years younger than he but he is not into that and told her she should have been taking BC, she had told him her Dr. took her off the pill for health reasons.
He should have been much wiser in who he chose to risk a pregnancy with. Just like a woman shouldnt rely on a man to protect her interests, a man shouldnt rely on a woman to protect his. However, just based on principle.......the fact that he had discussed with her, his disinterest in having more children, she should have been more responsible in handling that matter herself. When she was off BC pills, she should have discussed that with the man, so they could consider other alternatives.
At the very least, she should protect herself from the potential of desertion for neglecting of duty (that is, if having a man there and a father for her child is important to her, for enough women it isnt.....only the child is important ). Many women have found out the hard way, a man being and feeling betrayed by a woman is a common reason for men to walk away from a relationship. At that point, a man isnt thinking about a wonderful child is on the way.......he's thinking about the deception or gross negligence on the womans part. But then again, the man leaving may be furthest from her mind. Having that child may be her main concern. And if being deceptive or negligent is what it takes to make it happen, then so be it. She did what she felt she had to do. If the man has a problem with it, thats tough ( this a typical reaction and response from enough women )
5) But he still hasn't left yet he lives with her. Whats' wrong w/ this picture. I'm listening guys! Oh I left out something, he's been seeing someone else for about 2 yrs while maintaining his relationship w/ her. She owns her own business and put in some long hours ????????
It's a typical relationship of convenience. The woman knew he had 3 kids previously. So I guess she was okay with it. I'll bet money, he was sexing at least one of those baby mamas or some other woman when he started with her. I dont think he was some homebody not dating or sexing somebody? If she had no problem with that, I guess she would be the type to put up with him being with other women and still live with her. Him still living there, simply means he may have got over the initial shock of the pregnancy.....and after ten years, his urgency to leave if a pregnancy occured may not be the same as he originally felt? Nobody wants to suddenly move everything they have on a whim. Besides, they both are obviously getting some benefit from living together. There is still one important thing to consider. Establishing paternity.
No matter what that man may think, no matter what he assumes or deduces about the unlikelyhood of her being with another man.......he still better get a DNA test to make sure that baby is his. Until thats established, that might be another one of his reasons he hasnt left yet? If during that ten year period and his two years with another woman, that woman has been getting her muffin waxed on a few occasions by another man/men ( even though some women dont count those times, as long as they dont get caught )......she better be thinking about getting a paternity test too. There are too many men these days being set up as wish daddies.
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Jul 4 2010, 09:47 AM
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Some women would not believe that story, but I know it is true that things happen like that. Some black women claim that they cannot find a good man and all the nws have ran with this why women cannot find a good man.
This young brother told me that the samething happned to one of his friends. He said that one of his friends also caught his baby mama cheating on him. Trying to find a good honest woman in this world you got your work cut out. There are a lot of nice looking women but when you get past the looks you don't have much.
Would some of you guys like some cheese to go with that whine?
Hey guys can I inject something here? There was 2 key words I found in this young mans confession to the Truck Drives about his woes that being "babys' mama". I can see both sides of the issue because I'm older than any of you. As I view the circumstances the BM is unsure of committment so he remains "baby's daddy", but sleeps and eats there. Baby's mama is looking for a committment since they have a baby and when that committment never materializes she/he start to play games.Why because a permanent relationship has never been discussed. Both see the situation as a convenience. And neither are being honest with themselves or their mate. Why should she wait around till the child is grown for you to make a decision? And BW why should he wait around for you to grow up and be the woman you profess to be. Both sides are touchy issues but you could start with communicating. So you know what's up from the bee.....gin. I know a young lady right now who just told me the other day she's been dating this guy for ten years He has 3 kids by other women and had told her he didn't want any more kids and if it happened he was gone. Both had chosen not to get married but, guess what after all of this time she gets pregnant now he's say she is trying to trap him, want her to get an abortion. I asked her if she had suggested a snip job since she is a few years younger than he but he is not into that and told her she should have been taking BC, she had told him her Dr. took her off the pill for health reasons. But he still hasn't left yet he lives with her. Whats' wrong w/ this picture. I'm listening guys! Oh I left out something, he's been seeing someone else for about 2 yrs while maintaining his relationship w/ her. She owns her own business and put in some long hours ????????
1) I know a young lady right now who just told me the other day she's been dating this guy for ten years. She's been dating this man for ten years, because? 2) He has 3 kids by other women and had told her he didn't want any more kids and if it happened he was gone. She dated him for ten years, right? What was her reason again? 3) Both had chosen not to get married but, guess what after all of this time she gets pregnant now he's say she is trying to trap him, want her to get an abortion. His reaction and solution seems likely. Why would she allow herself to get pregnant, knowing the mans position? Not necessarily to trap him perse, but to fulfill her own desire for a child. His physical presence may be irrelevant. Having a child is what she ultimately wants. In situations like that, the man is usually phased out of the equation eventually. Any man automatically thinking a woman having his baby is about trapping him, is being foolish. 4) I asked her if she had suggested a snip job since she is a few years younger than he but he is not into that and told her she should have been taking BC, she had told him her Dr. took her off the pill for health reasons. He should have been much wiser in who he chose to risk a pregnancy with. Just like a woman shouldnt rely on a man to protect her interests, a man shouldnt rely on a woman to protect his. However, just based on principle.......the fact that he had discussed with her, his disinterest in having more children, she should have been more responsible in handling that matter herself. When she was off BC pills, she should have discussed that with the man, so they could consider other alternatives. At the very least, she should protect herself from the potential of desertion for neglecting of duty (that is, if having a man there and a father for her child is important to her, for enough women it isnt.....only the child is important ). Many women have found out the hard way, a man being and feeling betrayed by a woman is a common reason for men to walk away from a relationship. At that point, a man isnt thinking about a wonderful child is on the way.......he's thinking about the deception or gross negligence on the womans part. But then again, the man leaving may be furthest from her mind. Having that child may be her main concern. And if being deceptive or negligent is what it takes to make it happen, then so be it. She did what she felt she had to do. If the man has a problem with it, thats tough ( this a typical reaction and response from enough women ) 5) But he still hasn't left yet he lives with her. Whats' wrong w/ this picture. I'm listening guys! Oh I left out something, he's been seeing someone else for about 2 yrs while maintaining his relationship w/ her. She owns her own business and put in some long hours ???????? It's a typical relationship of convenience. The woman knew he had 3 kids previously. So I guess she was okay with it. I'll bet money, he was sexing at least one of those baby mamas or some other woman when he started with her. I dont think he was some homebody not dating or sexing somebody? If she had no problem with that, I guess she would be the type to put up with him being with other women and still live with her. Him still living there, simply means he may have got over the initial shock of the pregnancy.....and after ten years, his urgency to leave if a pregnancy occured may not be the same as he originally felt? Nobody wants to suddenly move everything they have on a whim. Besides, they both are obviously getting some benefit from living together. There is still one important thing to consider. Establishing paternity. No matter what that man may think, no matter what he assumes or deduces about the unlikelyhood of her being with another man.......he still better get a DNA test to make sure that baby is his. Until thats established, that might be another one of his reasons he hasnt left yet? If during that ten year period and his two years with another woman, that woman has been getting her muffin waxed on a few occasions by another man/men ( even though some women dont count those times, as long as they dont get caught )......she better be thinking about getting a paternity test too. There are too many men these days being set up as wish daddies. Thanks for sharing from a mans perspective. Very interesting, and honest I like that in you.
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Jul 4 2010, 06:59 PM
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Mrsincere that woman got herself to blame, why would she put up with that kind of man in the first place
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Jul 4 2010, 07:28 PM
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Mrsincere that woman got herself to blame, why would she put up with that kind of man in the first place Perhaps, though there may be flaws maybe she sees something good that I don't see. Love is like that!
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Jul 4 2010, 09:16 PM
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Some women would not believe that story, but I know it is true that things happen like that. Some black women claim that they cannot find a good man and all the nws have ran with this why women cannot find a good man.
This young brother told me that the samething happned to one of his friends. He said that one of his friends also caught his baby mama cheating on him. Trying to find a good honest woman in this world you got your work cut out. There are a lot of nice looking women but when you get past the looks you don't have much.
Would some of you guys like some cheese to go with that whine?
Hey guys can I inject something here? There was 2 key words I found in this young mans confession to the Truck Drives about his woes that being "babys' mama". I can see both sides of the issue because I'm older than any of you. As I view the circumstances the BM is unsure of committment so he remains "baby's daddy", but sleeps and eats there. Baby's mama is looking for a committment since they have a baby and when that committment never materializes she/he start to play games.Why because a permanent relationship has never been discussed. Both see the situation as a convenience. And neither are being honest with themselves or their mate. Why should she wait around till the child is grown for you to make a decision? And BW why should he wait around for you to grow up and be the woman you profess to be. Both sides are touchy issues but you could start with communicating. So you know what's up from the bee.....gin. I know a young lady right now who just told me the other day she's been dating this guy for ten years He has 3 kids by other women and had told her he didn't want any more kids and if it happened he was gone. Both had chosen not to get married but, guess what after all of this time she gets pregnant now he's say she is trying to trap him, want her to get an abortion. I asked her if she had suggested a snip job since she is a few years younger than he but he is not into that and told her she should have been taking BC, she had told him her Dr. took her off the pill for health reasons. But he still hasn't left yet he lives with her. Whats' wrong w/ this picture. I'm listening guys! Oh I left out something, he's been seeing someone else for about 2 yrs while maintaining his relationship w/ her. She owns her own business and put in some long hours ????????
1) I know a young lady right now who just told me the other day she's been dating this guy for ten years. She's been dating this man for ten years, because? 2) He has 3 kids by other women and had told her he didn't want any more kids and if it happened he was gone. She dated him for ten years, right? What was her reason again? 3) Both had chosen not to get married but, guess what after all of this time she gets pregnant now he's say she is trying to trap him, want her to get an abortion. His reaction and solution seems likely. Why would she allow herself to get pregnant, knowing the mans position? Not necessarily to trap him perse, but to fulfill her own desire for a child. His physical presence may be irrelevant. Having a child is what she ultimately wants. In situations like that, the man is usually phased out of the equation eventually. Any man automatically thinking a woman having his baby is about trapping him, is being foolish. 4) I asked her if she had suggested a snip job since she is a few years younger than he but he is not into that and told her she should have been taking BC, she had told him her Dr. took her off the pill for health reasons. He should have been much wiser in who he chose to risk a pregnancy with. Just like a woman shouldnt rely on a man to protect her interests, a man shouldnt rely on a woman to protect his. However, just based on principle.......the fact that he had discussed with her, his disinterest in having more children, she should have been more responsible in handling that matter herself. When she was off BC pills, she should have discussed that with the man, so they could consider other alternatives. At the very least, she should protect herself from the potential of desertion for neglecting of duty (that is, if having a man there and a father for her child is important to her, for enough women it isnt.....only the child is important ). Many women have found out the hard way, a man being and feeling betrayed by a woman is a common reason for men to walk away from a relationship. At that point, a man isnt thinking about a wonderful child is on the way.......he's thinking about the deception or gross negligence on the womans part. But then again, the man leaving may be furthest from her mind. Having that child may be her main concern. And if being deceptive or negligent is what it takes to make it happen, then so be it. She did what she felt she had to do. If the man has a problem with it, thats tough ( this a typical reaction and response from enough women ) 5) But he still hasn't left yet he lives with her. Whats' wrong w/ this picture. I'm listening guys! Oh I left out something, he's been seeing someone else for about 2 yrs while maintaining his relationship w/ her. She owns her own business and put in some long hours ???????? It's a typical relationship of convenience. The woman knew he had 3 kids previously. So I guess she was okay with it. I'll bet money, he was sexing at least one of those baby mamas or some other woman when he started with her. I dont think he was some homebody not dating or sexing somebody? If she had no problem with that, I guess she would be the type to put up with him being with other women and still live with her. Him still living there, simply means he may have got over the initial shock of the pregnancy.....and after ten years, his urgency to leave if a pregnancy occured may not be the same as he originally felt? Nobody wants to suddenly move everything they have on a whim. Besides, they both are obviously getting some benefit from living together. There is still one important thing to consider. Establishing paternity. No matter what that man may think, no matter what he assumes or deduces about the unlikelyhood of her being with another man.......he still better get a DNA test to make sure that baby is his. Until thats established, that might be another one of his reasons he hasnt left yet? If during that ten year period and his two years with another woman, that woman has been getting her muffin waxed on a few occasions by another man/men ( even though some women dont count those times, as long as they dont get caught )......she better be thinking about getting a paternity test too. There are too many men these days being set up as wish daddies.
Thanks for sharing from a mans perspective. Very interesting, and honest I like that in you. you are welcome.
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Mrsincere that woman got herself to blame, why would she put up with that kind of man in the first place You are correct. However, I'm sure she could care less about blaming herself. She probably is happy or indifferent about her pregnancy?
The man has himself to blame as well. He already had 3 children. Stayed with a woman he has no interest or intention of marrying, and puts himself in the position of possibly impregnating a woman he doesnt really want. If he is dating another woman like Memdear said, and this woman can have children, that guy needs his head examined.
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Mrsincere that woman got herself to blame, why would she put up with that kind of man in the first place
You are correct. However, I'm sure she could care less about blaming herself. She probably is happy or indifferent about her pregnancy? The man has himself to blame as well. He already had 3 children. Stayed with a woman he has no interest or intention of marrying, and puts himself in the position of possibly impregnating a woman he doesnt really want. If he is dating another woman like Memdear said, and this woman can have children, that guy needs his head examined. Old people say if you make your bed hard you got to sleep in it, so be very careful.
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Truck Driver after reading that it make me want to stay single
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