| Why do people cheat instead of leaving | |
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| Topic Started: Jan 20 2010, 10:32 PM (1,707 Views) | |
| ghost | Jan 20 2010, 10:32 PM Post #1 |
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I want to know why people cheat instead of leaving. If the cheater is discovered the trust between that person and their mate has now been broken. The cheater no longer trust their mate because they think that their mate is going to get even and the mate doesn't trust the cheater because of obvious reasons. Does cheating really solve anything? |
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| Miami | Jan 20 2010, 10:44 PM Post #2 |
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Because they're SELFISH, the Bible say treat other people the way that you want to be treated. People that cheat don't follow that golden rule People that cheat don't want anybody else to cheat on them. That's like a person that's a thief will gets mad if somebody else steals from them |
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| ghost | Jan 20 2010, 11:15 PM Post #3 |
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lol funny you said that about the stealing thing...I once knew someone that broke into others cars for a living when they were younger and I used to tell them that the stuff that was stolen wouldn't last long and well lets just say they got robbed for one of the things they stole from someone else and then they got mad when I tried to tell them that stolen goods don't last long and not to get mad b/c that person did it to someone else...ok back to topic..selfish is correct...there are sooooo many people that know they have a good thing but deside to cheat b/c they're not ready and they keep the other person around and then when the other person finds out that they were cheated on they are now upset and feel betrayed when all the cheater had to do was before cheating just let their mate know that they are not ready for the relationship and that they have been thinking about cheating and b/4 doing so they decided to leave...now I would have so much respect for someone if they told me that...and later in life if and when they person thought that they were ready and if I was not in a current relationship than they would have a fair chance instead of cheating and than ruining a good situation...honesty is the best policy |
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| Miami | Jan 20 2010, 11:27 PM Post #4 |
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That's a good comment I like that story about the person that you knew that use to go around stealing from other, but got mad when somebody stole from him He now understand how those other people felt, when he stole from them. The Bible say you reap what you sow. Cheating and playing games with other people emotions can be very dangerous. How many times have we heard about a person coming home and catching their mate in bed with another person, and then they shoot both of them How many time have we heard about something like that |
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| ghost | Jan 20 2010, 11:29 PM Post #5 |
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It happens all the time but sex seems to be worth it...lol...that's the way people act...look at what all Tiger lost...he lost a LOT...just for sex...is it really worth it...I'm just trying to understand that...it doesn't seem to be worth it in the end but I guess that's a risk that people will continue to take |
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| Miami | Jan 20 2010, 11:35 PM Post #6 |
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The problem is people that cheat don't think that they will ever get caught Tiger Woods didn't think he was going to get caught It's like a criminal when they're committing crime, they don't think that they will ever get caught A drug dealer knows that the risk is there, but he don't think he will ever get caught because in his mind he's smarter than the other drug dealers that got caught And cheaters are the exact sameway |
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| ghost | Jan 20 2010, 11:41 PM Post #7 |
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ahhh I see...you see I always think I'm going to get caught in everything so that's why I didnt think of it from that stand point...that fear my father put in me as a child carried to my adulthood and I don't do what I'm not supposed to in fear of getting caught...being outted and the fact that if what I did would hurt someone else I would not be happy with self |
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| Miami | Jan 20 2010, 11:51 PM Post #8 |
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That's good But the reason why I don't cheat is I treat other people the way that I want to be treated. When I'm dating a person I don't do anything that I don't want them to do. That's what I live my life by. |
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| ghost | Jan 20 2010, 11:54 PM Post #9 |
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and I do the same...now I don't allows get what I deserve but I'm not letting that change me because I know that in the end I will reap all that I sowed and I've sowed some good seeds...lol...but serious |
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| Miami | Jan 21 2010, 12:02 AM Post #10 |
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I've never cheated on any woman in my life, if I cheated on someone that I was dating it would make me feel terrible. Rather than cheating people should just break up and start a new relationship. |
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