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| Karif-Chris | Apr 7 2010, 07:39 AM Post #1 |
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I fell upon this by accident, its single mulims.com, there add tells of how you can find your perfect life partner is 3 weeks, thats not it will take 3 weeks to find a tart but 3 weeks to get married, I have waited a lot longer than that to into a girls knickers never mind marry her and have her do what I wish. And they say we have no morrals. http://www.youtube.com/user/singlemuslimltd?v=WHuH-_dHR24&feature=pyv&ad=4375446314&kw=islam%20com&gclid=COati47886ACFVgs3godH0OrvQ Oh! and its all halal, so that makes it a good thing right! Edited by Karif-Chris, Apr 7 2010, 07:40 AM.
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| Deleted User | Apr 7 2010, 07:51 AM Post #2 |
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It's mad, three weeks and thenyou've got the rest of your life with someone who you don't know. I worked with a young Indian girl who was talking to me about marriage, She's only 20 and was telling me that she'd asked her family to help find her a husband as she was struggling to find someone of the same 'class' (don't really understand that part properly, although she did try to explain), She did say though that she would date anyone they introduced her to but wouldn't marry him if she didn't want to, they wouldn't force her only give her a helping hand. I guess she made me see it her way and as long as she wasn't being forced to marry someone, then I agreed maybe it was for her. |
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| PhilH | Apr 7 2010, 08:05 AM Post #3 |
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Having being married once already i can honestly say i'm never doing it again !! |
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| human target | Apr 7 2010, 10:38 AM Post #4 |
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I think it's personal preference and maturity. some people know straight away, some peopple take years and still aren't sure. I think you have a better shot at long term marriage with a shared culture, religion etc etc. although it has to be said in those situations there is a lot of family / cultural pressure to stay together even if you are in a unhappy relationship. Personally speaking, even if i knew straight away, I'd take my time. I've spotted too many people get married early and then say, that they thought they know their partner, but didn't really or that they've changed completely. And if it's supposed to be a lifetime commitment then i'd suggest mulling it over for more then a couple of days. |
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| x_bolton_babe_x | Apr 7 2010, 11:52 AM Post #5 |
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lmao!! made me laugh about you waiting to get in girls knickers longer than 3 weeks. anyway.. i thought muslims had arranged marriages? please someone correct me if im wrong....!! ive been single 6 months, and although id like to have a fella, its gonna take aaaa long time for anything to even happen, cause ive got my guard up. buh whatever floats your boat...? lol xx |
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| human target | Apr 7 2010, 11:56 AM Post #6 |
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Muslims have arranged marriages, but it depends on the family / individual. The level of arrangement depends on the family/ individual, they can ask their family to find a suitable partner and organise it, or find themselves a partner and organise it |
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| x_bolton_babe_x | Apr 7 2010, 11:58 AM Post #7 |
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thanks hun, buh i watched under cover princess's and 1 girl was from indian, and she said that theyre way of life, they dont usually meet the husbands til the day of marriage because the family arranges it. surely if its an arranged marriage, ya wouldnt get to chose yaself! lol (just my opinon xx) xx |
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| Gorgie | Apr 7 2010, 12:04 PM Post #8 |
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To be honest, with me only being 16, I've got my whole life ahead of me. So I don't even want to think about getting married until I'm at least 30. Getting married after 3 weeks is just ridiculous. |
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| x_bolton_babe_x | Apr 7 2010, 12:07 PM Post #9 |
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your 16? awww!! cute! lol. never say never .. u dont know how quick/slow you will fall in love !! xx i got engaged at 20 ... and im 21 in september!, so you can see how long it lasted. Edited by x_bolton_babe_x, Apr 7 2010, 12:07 PM.
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| Gorgie | Apr 7 2010, 12:14 PM Post #10 |
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Yep I'm just a young 'un haha Never liked having a girlfriend, getting told what to do and stuff (already get enough of women bossing me around at home!) so just prefer to go out with the lads and try my luck with the girls that way haha Aye, knowing me I'll end up married with kids by the time I'm 20 lol
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"One ought never to turn one's back on a threatened danger and try to run away from it. If you do that, you will double the danger. But if you meet it promptly and without flinching, you will reduce the danger by half. Never run away from anything. Never!" "You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life." Winston Churchill | |
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| human target | Apr 7 2010, 12:15 PM Post #11 |
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No doubt that does happen. it really does depend on how the family is. you'l have some who will say, organise it completely, i.e they will choose a partner they think is right for thier son/ daughter and thats that. In some of those cases it's an unwilling union, you'll hear stories for example of women being tricked to go on holiday to Pakistan not realising they're getting married. You'll get other families who will let their children choose for themselves ( these are normally refered to as"love marriages") but the family will always take a role in organising / arranging the marriage., weher it be meeting the parents, in some cases organising dowry etc.. In Asian circles it's more of a joining of families if anything else. |
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| Deleted User | Apr 7 2010, 12:26 PM Post #12 |
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Lmao, my dad ended up with my mum, so hes never picking a partner for me!
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| x_bolton_babe_x | Apr 7 2010, 12:29 PM Post #13 |
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awww! just go with the flow hun! buh my advice is to treat ya girl wif respect, even if it is just a 1 night stand sorta thing (not my style though) buh all my ex's have been wankers, and never respected me! its put me off men for life ( only jokin haha ) nah buh it has taught me alot about myself and now what i want outta my life and i aint gona settle for 2nd best, im gonna get the best for me xx |
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| x_bolton_babe_x | Apr 7 2010, 12:31 PM Post #14 |
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awww ano its there way of life. buh i bet its not nice, if i was asian/indian whatever id rather have the love marriage. because atleast you gt to choose who you wanna marriage.how long do they usually wait from meeting each other for the very 1st time, to actually the day of the wedding?! xx |
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| Gorgie | Apr 7 2010, 12:34 PM Post #15 |
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cheers for the advice but i wouldn't dream of messing a girl around or i'd get a slap off my mum and sisters hahawell good luck, you have plenty of time to find someone good
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"One ought never to turn one's back on a threatened danger and try to run away from it. If you do that, you will double the danger. But if you meet it promptly and without flinching, you will reduce the danger by half. Never run away from anything. Never!" "You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life." Winston Churchill | |
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| Lone_Wolf | Apr 7 2010, 12:39 PM Post #16 |
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i used to be a landscape gardener and general handyman in a family firm (my uncles) and one of our regulars was an indian family. the wife was beautiful and had been maried by arrangement when she was 14 to a fat slob of a guy who was about 30 at the time. they had 3 sons then he lost interest in her. all she ever did was cook and clean up after them and had no life of her own. it was such a shame because she was really smart and wanted to do stuff with her life. she was only about 30 when i met her but her uselfulness was over as far as his and her family was concerned. i spent a week painting the doors and skirting while he was away at work and the boys were at school. got to know her quite well...... |
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| x_bolton_babe_x | Apr 7 2010, 12:41 PM Post #17 |
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thats good then hun!! think ya should treat ya woman like a princess! and i think woman should treat men how they would wanna be treated. i really hope so, my mum got married and pregnant at 18... and 21 in september so... lol |
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| human target | Apr 7 2010, 12:43 PM Post #18 |
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Again i think its a case of how long is a piece of string. It's a personal preference (for those families with non-strict views) I'm hindu and most of my hindu friends/ family that have gotten married have sorted it out themselves and on average wait 6-9 month from engagement to wedding. |
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| x_bolton_babe_x | Apr 7 2010, 12:43 PM Post #19 |
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awww .. hun, thats theyre way of life though, they are taught to stay at home and cook and clean.its a damn shame. woman no matter what regilion or nationally... we arent a piece of meat!! ano theres some good fella's out there! (i hope so anyway) xx |
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| Deleted User | Apr 7 2010, 12:46 PM Post #20 |
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I am in the process of serving a 10 yr stretch with my Mrs . Don`t see the point in being married. After 10 yrs with the same woman, why mess with something that isn`t broke? If she is lucky, I will stay with her for another 10.
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| human target | Apr 7 2010, 12:46 PM Post #21 |
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confessions of a handyman, you're not Robin Askwith by any chance?
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| nottz_ben | Apr 7 2010, 12:48 PM Post #22 |
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3 weeks lol - can you imagine if a friend did that? You'd have to slap em! Personally I couldn't jump into marrage for at least 2 years and that would have to be 2 blissful years. It's too expensive to get wrong! Perhaps they don't yet realise we dont allow piligamy - I imagione it's easy to get married in 3 weeks when you can throw her aside when you realise she weren't the one - your bound to get it right in 13 tries - Although statistically I think even the countries with the highest divorce rates have people who on average get there considerably quicker! |
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| Lone_Wolf | Apr 7 2010, 12:48 PM Post #23 |
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there are some good guys out there, but its hard to know what woman want sometimes. are we suposed to be strong but sensitive, a bit of a lad but basically alright, a strong manly man with workboots and overalls on or one of those metrosexuals with ladies trousers on? |
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| Lone_Wolf | Apr 7 2010, 12:50 PM Post #24 |
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i didnt confess anything, just saying that i got to know her quite well. im still in touch with her, although not as often as i would like coz she only gets about 4 hours to herself each day. |
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| x_bolton_babe_x | Apr 7 2010, 12:54 PM Post #25 |
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awww!! thats well good hun xxx
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| Deleted User | Apr 7 2010, 12:55 PM Post #26 |
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After 3 weeks? I think if you've just met someone and are getting married that soon it's more of a forcing each other together rather than a wanting to be together. I don't think you could blame it on 'The One' either. No way could you learn all the likes and dislikes in 3 weeks! |
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| x_bolton_babe_x | Apr 7 2010, 12:57 PM Post #27 |
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gimme a man in overalls anytime .... hubba hubba any man. buh not a twat! xx
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| human target | Apr 7 2010, 01:04 PM Post #28 |
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| Gorgie | Apr 7 2010, 01:06 PM Post #29 |
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you make it ound as if it's a jail sentance haha |
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| x_bolton_babe_x | Apr 7 2010, 01:16 PM Post #30 |
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hell yeahhhhhhhhhhhh!!! no im thinking more along the lines of.... some fit fella (my type of fella) in overalls wif a oil on his face haha yummmmmmmmmmy! xxx
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| human target | Apr 7 2010, 01:19 PM Post #31 |
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![]() this is my final attempt at finding you a bloke. |
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| Deleted User | Apr 7 2010, 01:25 PM Post #32 |
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ive been with my wife 26 years and married for 24 years |
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| x_bolton_babe_x | Apr 7 2010, 01:28 PM Post #33 |
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nah hun, to polished for me!! hehe like my men ruff around the edges buh lovely lolxx |
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| Karif-Chris | Apr 7 2010, 01:29 PM Post #34 |
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Your 21 awwww how cute, I can remeber being 21 just... the times have flown bye. lol |
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| Deleted User | Apr 7 2010, 01:30 PM Post #35 |
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I’ve been with my lady 4 years and in June we tie the knot! I can’t see how anyone would want to commit their entire life after 3 weeks. Unless of course the only other option is to be (honour) killed, given an (acid) bath or beaten (by the new hubby & parents). Yes, there is love at first sight but I don’t think it works like this. |
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| Karif-Chris | Apr 7 2010, 01:31 PM Post #36 |
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When the marrage is arranged I would hope that the parents have know the groom/bride for longer than 3 bloody weeks. |
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| x_bolton_babe_x | Apr 7 2010, 01:35 PM Post #37 |
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im 20 !! 21 in september lol!people think im 14 though... apprently i look 14 xx
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| Deleted User | Apr 7 2010, 01:38 PM Post #38 |
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All the best for the wedding. I assume all the EDL invites will be posted out in plenty of time?
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| lagerlout | Apr 7 2010, 01:40 PM Post #39 |
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married twice - divorced twice first wife ask'd me to marry her after only a week of knowing me, and like a fool i thought i was in love and i went ahead and married her 2 week later -- only lasted 11 months before we split. 2nd wife i knew for about 2yr before we married -- only lasted 7 and half month. Its my destiny to be single but a proud father of 5 beautifull kids and being a single parent to one of them as opend my eyes to how hard single parent mothers have got it. personally i think you should get to know someone for a good 5yr before marriage, give it a chance to work -- too many divorces in Britain as it is. |
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| human target | Apr 7 2010, 02:09 PM Post #40 |
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I'm sure it probably does. But that also why families get involved. It's like 6 degrees of separation, someone knows someone who knows the family so they mutually meet check each other out in terms including vocations, weath, reputation etc.. but preety much they're essentially matchmakers. There's never any guarantees in life, and especially in marriage, you could think you know someone pretty well and they turn out to be completely different. This happens everywhere. With the families checking everything out it adds another level of security i guess. Personally, considering the importance, i don't particularity think it's bad thing. My understanding is that Asian divorce rates are substantially lower then the national average. It could be argued that the community/parental involvement ensures that the union is a happy one. On the flip-side it could be argued that people stay together in unhappy marriages rather then divorce because of family pressure. I don't really have the answer, amongst my family friends i don;t know any divorced couples, they all seem ( and i know looks can be deceiving!) relatively happy. As long as you're happy, in love, and you have the choice to decide to whom you want to spend the rest of your life with i don;t think it matters which ever way you choose to do this. |
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| JackRipper | Apr 7 2010, 02:23 PM Post #41 |
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The first ten years are the worst, then if you survive that, it's all downhill from there. |
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| Deleted User | Apr 7 2010, 02:37 PM Post #42 |
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ha, ha had to laugh at this thread some good comments. i know people who have been together years living in sin, they get hitched and split up within a year. i'd been with my other half for 13 years. we finally got married in october 2008 and to be honest it's been really tough. maybe it's to do with having 2 kids under 3. but we both had a few doubts even after all that time together. we have our ups and downs but on the whole rub along together quite nicely. how the f**k anyone can think they know someone enough to get married after 3 weeks is beyond me. |
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| ignominius | Apr 7 2010, 02:45 PM Post #43 |
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I've been married three times now. Can't say it's hurt me any......mind you it was to the same lass! |
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| x_bolton_babe_x | Apr 7 2010, 03:03 PM Post #44 |
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how ya manage tha? did u get cold feet? xx
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| Deleted User | Apr 7 2010, 03:32 PM Post #45 |
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I got married at 17. You just never know.
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| Deleted User | Apr 7 2010, 03:36 PM Post #46 |
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That's called marriage! You'll find that in lots of marriages, it doesn't have to be an arranged one. |
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| Deleted User | Apr 7 2010, 03:41 PM Post #47 |
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If I met Demi Moore at eight in the morning, I'd be married to her by five past eight. That's if the missus doesn't wake up before me. |
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| Deleted User | Apr 7 2010, 03:42 PM Post #48 |
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You and me both!
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| Gorgie | Apr 7 2010, 03:50 PM Post #49 |
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Suppose. But was it not really hard for you to keep the marriage going at such a young age, if you don't mind me asking? |
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| Deleted User | Apr 7 2010, 04:04 PM Post #50 |
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No, I don't mind you asking at all. I'm from an era where you stuck at it, there wasn't an alternative, really, so no it wasn't hard. Most people got married in their teens in the sixties, well most girls did, although 17 was young even in those days. You could go back to your parents, if you really had to, I suppose, if they would have you, though I never knew anyone who did. Society in general disapproved of divorce/separation and there wasn't anywhere else for women to go to, you just made the best of it. |
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ano its there way of life. buh i bet its not nice, if i was asian/indian whatever id rather have the love marriage. because atleast you gt to choose who you wanna marriage.
. Don`t see the point in being married. After 10 yrs with the same woman, why mess with something that isn`t broke? If she is lucky, I will stay with her for another 10.

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