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The "So How Was Your Day?" Thread; Had an incredible day? Had a boring day? Had a dreadful day? Just any day? Tell us about it!
Topic Started: 14 Dec 2013, 00:15 (96 Views)
Diederick Antonius
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I've just had one of those tough days, and need to vent; so here is this thread. I hope this thread may become a place for others to just bitch about their day; or, alternatively, celebrate how brilliantly awesome it was.
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My day was long, hard and strange. So bear with me:

I moved to a small apartment a little while ago. A lot still needs to be done to make it more habitable/pleasant to live in, as I came here quite abruptly and it was completely empty (there wasn't even a floor). I had arranged to pick up some goods I had bought earlier and get myself a washer (for the laundry). Regrettably, I'm going through the seventh year in a row with a seasonal depression (not a genuine depression in the official sense of the word - I'm not suicidal, but it is very much obstructing my daily business in a very drastic way); and I had a bad night. Lying awake a lot, thinking about how shitty my life is. Then lying awake thinking about that hot ginger guy from Sirens. Then lying awake thinking about all the stuff I had planned for today. Very bad to be thinking that much when you're supposed to be sleeping, but that's how it goes.

So I woke up, too early for my good, but got to work moving stuff around to prepare for the 'new arrivals' nonetheless. After some rearranging I went off with someone whom I had asked to help, and got the high-sleeper (a bed on tall legs, so a desk fits under it - saving space) I bought earlier but didn't have the transport capacity for at that time. After picking that up, we went around some shops looking for a proper washer. I wanted something cheap, but with at least 1400 rpm so the laundry comes out less wet/more dry. We bought an older model, which looked good enough and fit my requirements. The downside to the thing is that is weighs 120 kilo's (320 pounds), and I live on the second floor, and there is no elevator. You can imagine the pain it was to manoeuvre the thing up some cramped winding stairs... Fortunately we could arrange for some brawny guy to help out, even though he twisted his knee within the first minute of helping...

Anyway, I assembled the high-sleeper (from the Dutch word 'hoogslaper'), put the desk below it, took apart the old bed and installed the washer. That is a lot of activity for one day, considering my depressive state of being and having had little sleep the night before. But it does lift my mood organizing things, cleaning, rearranging... just doing stuff. Nothing strange so far, though I was pretty tired by that point. The time to leave for the next big thing was all too soon after sitting down for dinner.

This evening, I had an important meeting, which I chaired. I'm chairman of a local scouting organization, and this was one of the two large general meetings for all our members. Of course not everyone shows up, but there was a decent crowd. Besides the other stuff, we were to vote for a leader who wanted to become team leader for her branch/group (or age category (hers being scouts ageing 11-15 years old)). Every age category has a team of leaders, and every team has a team leader. The previous one steps down coming January, so it's good to have someone to replace him. Team leaders are very important and are finally responsible for their group. Because of their importance, they have to be elected, just like the chairman, secretary, group counsellors and confidents. For the first time in my career with Scouting, this volunteer was not elected by the members. It's not that there were alternatives; volunteers are scarce, everywhere, including scouting. And she has six years of experience as a leader. But the present members were an even split between for and against. And I do know why some of them voted against her assignment (won't go into that, though).

So, as dictated by our constitutions (our own and that of the national federation of Scouting), we had a second vote; and again the members came up with the same draw. At that point my vote, as chairman, is final, which is a situation I had hoped I would never get into. So I revealed what my vote was (voting for persons is otherwise always anonymous) in order to double its count, which was in favour of her election.

Now, I like this girl. She came out in our Scouting group shortly after I did and we're basically the active gays in our organization. (I mean active as a member, not necessarily as homosexuals.) We are about the same age and grew up together in scouting. However, I did hear about the concerns of members - though I not once thought that the vote would end up the way it has. This evening my vote has made her the team leader of her group. But she's not at all happy about the way she was elected, and I sympathize. But I also have to consider those concerns of some of our members, whom I should also represent.

The meeting was remarkably short, which I think is partly due to my decision to separate the day-to-day business of our organization and the long-term big decisions into different meetings. Mostly, however, it was because our treasurer wasn't present (which is a key point of information and debate with members, which now saved us a lot of time). It was the shortest such a meeting I had ever had; and it was also the toughest on me mentally. I now have my fellow board members to worry about (most of whom do not support the new team leader), the members who voted against her; and our new team leader herself who now has been awarded a very important task and who is feeling very unhappy about all this. Her functioning is of key importance to her group and the other leaders in her team. If she feels unmotivated, this could have serious consequences.

So while on my way back home after the meeting, I informed the group counsellor who wasn't present about the situation, and had a text conversation with the new team leader. I'm glad she wants to talk to me, and was open about how she felt. That tells me she still trusts me (the group counsellors and the chairman are also confidents) and I hope that, through talking about the concerns of the members who voted against her assignment, we can resolve this and perhaps turn it into something positive like a learning-experience.

And now I'm home. Had text-message-conversations with three people all the way from the scouting building to my home (2 hours) discussing this extraordinary happening, and finally got myself some booze. In a way I am glad to have experienced that situation in the meeting and to be about to experience the struggle which will follow from it. But it is also painful because the girl is someone I like personally, and this has been a very hurtful experience for her - and there is the concern for the well-being of the scouting organization I chair. Apart from that, I'm feeling proud of myself for getting all that hard work done in one day, in spite of my condition. Though my back is now sore, I am even more tired and will probably sleep until noon tomorrow...

Well, at least I've written it down. That must help somehow. I hope you didn't trip over my lengthy sentences and odd choices of words too much. Good night! (or day, for those of you on the other end of the world...)

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Not a picture of me travelling home after the meeting.
It is I; just a bit earlier, on a train somewhere in Germany.
Oh, and the clowns nose is not part of standard uniform.
Edited by Diederick Antonius, 14 Dec 2013, 00:31.
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I'm drafting a letter of solace and comfort to you as you read this in order to help cheer you up, Diederick! :D In the mean time, I offer gifts of comfort: Here is some hot ginger cider, some hot ginger cookies, and a hot ginger (woof!) just for you ;)

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Enjoy! :D I'll be in touch.
Edited by Suceavija, 15 Dec 2013, 00:57.
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I'm drafting a letter of solace and comfort to you as you read this in order to help cheer you up, Diederick! :D In the mean time, I offer gifts of comfort: Here is some hot ginger cider, some hot ginger cookies, and a hot ginger (woof!) just for you ;)

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Enjoy! :D I'll be in touch.
Thank you :P The situation has settled down a bit, though the subject team leader is still not happy and now wants to reject the position altogether. She is also claiming that she is being bullied. Either way, this is bad news for our volunteer base. And my body is still recovering from the shock of moving that god-awful machine, though I haven't been giving it must rest.

Considering gingers, my ex has been in touch (and he is one hot ginger) and wants to do something fun, just not with his girlfriend. I'm currently considering my options in the matter.
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15 Dec 2013, 00:54
I'm drafting a letter of solace and comfort to you as you read this in order to help cheer you up, Diederick! :D In the mean time, I offer gifts of comfort: Here is some hot ginger cider, some hot ginger cookies, and a hot ginger (woof!) just for you ;)

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Enjoy! :D I'll be in touch.
Thank you :P The situation has settled down a bit, though the subject team leader is still not happy and now wants to reject the position altogether. She is also claiming that she is being bullied. Either way, this is bad news for our volunteer base. And my body is still recovering from the shock of moving that god-awful machine, though I haven't been giving it must rest.

Considering gingers, my ex has been in touch (and he is one hot ginger) and wants to do something fun, just not with his girlfriend. I'm currently considering my options in the matter.
Okay, I finally got my TG off to you! I hope that you are feeling better after moving the giant machine :P It sounds like it was quite a task! I had about all the heavy lifting I could stand this summer when I moved into my new home. I had no idea how heavy some of my furniture was (it was delivered to my old apartment by others) so it was a rude awakening when I was left trying to get things on and off the truck by myself... I fared pretty well, however! All my back pain and torn ligaments healed up just a few months later :P The only casualty was a glass pane of a picture frame that shattered - otherwise everything made it over to the new place in one piece :)

I think surrounding yourself with people who make you happy is a good thing when navigating a bout of depression. Hopefully your ex is a source of happiness and strength in your life (besides just being hot, Diederick ^o) ). If so, go for it. If not, then I cannot as your counsel advise it :P Kudos to you for having an ex that you get along with to still remain friends. I have a couple like this; but most I keep at arm's length for my own sanity ;)
Edited by Suceavija, 18 Dec 2013, 09:01.
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